"Chilling" With Girls

[foolyoufool]

Looking back at my life...I realize there have been many occasions where I've just "chilled" or "hung out" with girls one on one in the past. Do these girls want the D or are they just being friends? What are your experiences? Some examples:

Hot asian girl in high school came over, we smoked pot, and watched TV. This other time she came over to watch a movie for a class project. Another time she came over and hung out with myself and my gf at the time, we drank and smoked some. All of these times (except for with the gf) we've been alone. I've never made a move on this girl, but now that I'm single I would definitely be down, but we've been friends for so long so I'm confused as to how she feels about me.

Russian girl in high school picks me up, brings me back to her place, and we chat and watch TV on her laptop. I massage her then go in for the kiss and she pulls away. WTF?! I ask her to drop me off back at home a little while later.

Just the other day, I get fro-yo with a girl and we go back to "chill" at her place. No one else is in the apartment, we just sit there and watch tv. I feel like I was getting vibes from this one, she was wearing shorts that show almost half her ass and we were talking a lot about casual sex and other things. I really dont find her too physically attractive though, so when I got tired I said I had to go and left. This girl is still hitting me up asking me to hang out though.

So whats the deal? Have I been missing signals all this time? I also find it really awkward to hook up with a girl after I have hung out with her on multiple occasions without making a move. Most of my girlfriends/long term hook ups have come from girls who I hooked up with soon after meeting. Any tips on how I can get over this awkwardness? Much appreciated.

 

[Young Juan]

Figure out a couple go to moves. Whenever you hang out with a girl solo, you have to make a move. Not necessarilly because you want some at the time, but because if you don't show the overt interest, you might not get a second chance.

My go to moves are typically moves that start kino and/or gauge her reaction to my touch. No reaction is a positive reaction. If I playfully put my hand on her thigh or slap her thigh, unless she says stop, she's saying proceed. Arm around the shoulder is always good. Sitting on the couch seems to be an awkward position as she turning around to make my move is usually uncomfortable. I always ask for a hug upon arrival and give her a good both-arms-around-her-waist hug while flexing my muscles to make her feel them. I sniff her neck, tell her she smells good, and make the obligatory joke about her coming over looking and smelling that good is gonna make the beast come out of me! I do all this to develop a playful sexual vibe early so that everything else doesn't come as any kind of surprise.

Where making a move has often failed in my experience is when the vibe isn't developed and you make a move cold/out of the blue. I think if she feels/senses your interest your chances increase 10 fold as she'll be more in the mood and she'll be curious as to what you got to show.

 

[VladPatton]

Just be playful with them and tease. Get a bit touchy-slappy with them to gauge response. If they are repulses, leave. Otherwise, make a move if you feel the urge. If you bomb out, make like it never happened. Try another time.