So this was gonna be a reply in another topic, but i figured that it deserved its own..
A bit of background, shes a crew trainer where i work, so we work together... I started showing serious interest about 2 weeks ago, after checking her out for a while. I defo, did not want to be put into the damn friend zone, so i came on a bit strong at first. We've been hanging out during our time off (we work nights so during the day mostly and after work) about 4hrs a day-ish.
About 20-30 sms's going each way a day...
When we're together we're usually spooning or shes in my arms (head on the shoulder, head in lap etc) while we watch a movie.. we even went and saw borat yesterday and most of the time she just had her head in my lap looking up at me or dozing a bit. U see i would have kissed her already but she has a .... da da da daaa boyfriend. And unfortunately when I met him he was a pretty cool guy and treated me as if i was his best mate, so i sorta feel like i cant rip him off by hookin up with her and such... its a **** sitch.
So here goes..
And I know shes thinking about it alot.
She talks me up all the time, talks us up all the time. About how shes always happy when im around and how i do so much for her etc.
I told her I couldnt do it anymore because I couldnt stand not being able to persue her the way I wanted to.
So we had an sms conversation last night that went a bit like this:
She has just told me that shes going out with her bf 2moro, to the movies.. just after we went to the movies together that day..
her:
"It'll be fun, but i will miss you! Ive liked getting up and kowning i get to hang out with you... or when you ask me what im doing, i can just say whatever your doing!! It makes me smile... xoxox"
me:
"Yeh I like it too and most of the time it makes me really happy, but other times it just gets me down and u know why. Its alrite tho, i dont wanna make it hard on u ****, im sorry. but i dont wanna lie about it either. xox"
her:
" Its ok, Id rather you be honest with me... I can see it in your face and eyes when you get upset and it breaks my heart... but spending time with you and seeing that smile you have is an amazing thing... xoxo"
me:
"You really do confuse me sometimes ****"
her:
"Why?"
me:
"Dont worry, im just talkin ****. Im going to bed. nite"
her:
"No please... I want you to tell me what your thinking? xoxo"
me:
"I think that maybe we've been spending too much time together, because with every day, ive wanted to be with you more and more, everytime I hold u in my arms i feel like a king, and everytime i look into your eyes i want nothing more than to kiss you.. and i cant do this to myself, it hurts too damn much"
her:
"Im so sorry... I really am... Me wanting to spend so much time with you is selfish, i dont want to see you hurting..."
me:
"Goodnight ****"
her:
"Sweet dreamz... Xoxox"
an hour later- me
"Im sorry if ive upset you, that wasnt my intention. And just in case u were wonderin, i think ur a great chick, no matter what and I love being mates with you.
3hrs later - her
"Just coz u think im a great chick and you love being mates with me doesnt mean things wont change... thats what scares and upsets me the most.. xoxox"
wtf does that mean?
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EDIT: BF background:
Also met at work, hes a year or 2 older than myself methinks. No longer with the company, works days at a supermarket (thats why i get daytime alone with her alot), Ugly rednut methinks. Drives better car than myself (so probably throws around more money too), pretty serious guy (dont think shes a serious girl tho), good sense of humour tho.
Approximately 3 months together.
A bit of background, shes a crew trainer where i work, so we work together... I started showing serious interest about 2 weeks ago, after checking her out for a while. I defo, did not want to be put into the damn friend zone, so i came on a bit strong at first. We've been hanging out during our time off (we work nights so during the day mostly and after work) about 4hrs a day-ish.
About 20-30 sms's going each way a day...
When we're together we're usually spooning or shes in my arms (head on the shoulder, head in lap etc) while we watch a movie.. we even went and saw borat yesterday and most of the time she just had her head in my lap looking up at me or dozing a bit. U see i would have kissed her already but she has a .... da da da daaa boyfriend. And unfortunately when I met him he was a pretty cool guy and treated me as if i was his best mate, so i sorta feel like i cant rip him off by hookin up with her and such... its a **** sitch.
So here goes..
Its funny you say that, because thats exactly what I told her that im doing last night.sav said:
And I know shes thinking about it alot.
She talks me up all the time, talks us up all the time. About how shes always happy when im around and how i do so much for her etc.
I told her I couldnt do it anymore because I couldnt stand not being able to persue her the way I wanted to.
So we had an sms conversation last night that went a bit like this:
She has just told me that shes going out with her bf 2moro, to the movies.. just after we went to the movies together that day..
her:
"It'll be fun, but i will miss you! Ive liked getting up and kowning i get to hang out with you... or when you ask me what im doing, i can just say whatever your doing!! It makes me smile... xoxox"
me:
"Yeh I like it too and most of the time it makes me really happy, but other times it just gets me down and u know why. Its alrite tho, i dont wanna make it hard on u ****, im sorry. but i dont wanna lie about it either. xox"
her:
" Its ok, Id rather you be honest with me... I can see it in your face and eyes when you get upset and it breaks my heart... but spending time with you and seeing that smile you have is an amazing thing... xoxo"
me:
"You really do confuse me sometimes ****"
her:
"Why?"
me:
"Dont worry, im just talkin ****. Im going to bed. nite"
her:
"No please... I want you to tell me what your thinking? xoxo"
me:
"I think that maybe we've been spending too much time together, because with every day, ive wanted to be with you more and more, everytime I hold u in my arms i feel like a king, and everytime i look into your eyes i want nothing more than to kiss you.. and i cant do this to myself, it hurts too damn much"
her:
"Im so sorry... I really am... Me wanting to spend so much time with you is selfish, i dont want to see you hurting..."
me:
"Goodnight ****"
her:
"Sweet dreamz... Xoxox"
an hour later- me
"Im sorry if ive upset you, that wasnt my intention. And just in case u were wonderin, i think ur a great chick, no matter what and I love being mates with you.
3hrs later - her
"Just coz u think im a great chick and you love being mates with me doesnt mean things wont change... thats what scares and upsets me the most.. xoxox"
wtf does that mean?
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EDIT: BF background:
Also met at work, hes a year or 2 older than myself methinks. No longer with the company, works days at a supermarket (thats why i get daytime alone with her alot), Ugly rednut methinks. Drives better car than myself (so probably throws around more money too), pretty serious guy (dont think shes a serious girl tho), good sense of humour tho.
Approximately 3 months together.
