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pyros

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Hi.

Met this chick two months ago. We clicked pretty fast. Pitty was that she was 'dating' some guy (FWB), so I did not try to ask her out or anything.

Last week I bumped into her at the cinema. Next day she comments something on my FB, I reply, she replies and so on.

Then that same day at nigh I sent her a message asking her out. Some hours later she replies: s'ure! we can meet sometime soon'

Some hours later I reply: 'alright, so give me your number (I just had her on FB) and Ill plan something for next week'

She never replied; that was on Friday, today is Monday.


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I would have gone for the number immediately after she agreed to go out.

Women are creatures of the moment. Always strike while the iron is hot.

HB: Sure we can go out sometime.

Mike: Cool. I'll give you a call or text you and we can set something up.

HB: But you don't have my number :)

Mike: What is it?

So anyway, I think she got cold feet during the several hour delay between suggesting going out and asking for the number.

Striking while the iron is hot is even more critical when you are dealing with a "taken" chick because she often has mixed feelings about cheating.
 

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She wanted an ego boost.

It's usually when you call a woman's bluff that things go south. But you MUST call her bluff! Alas, it seems as if she wants you as an orbiter. Don't orbit her ass, drop her and delete her. Then spin more plates. If she comes around, great. If not, you know what she wanted. A girlfriend.

Remember that love needs desire in order to work. Otherwise, it's friendzone. :)

BTW, strike while the iron is hot. It's super effective. The longer you hesitate, the longer you masturbate.

Case closed.
 

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So, its been 4 days since the last FB message I sent her asking for her number in order to call her to arrange something and she has not said a word.
I see she's almost always online on FB chat.

Do I ask her why she hasnt replied?
I mean, she may not be interested, but if I do not say anything I will never know what happened.


Dont you think?

P.S.
My rejection buffer is saying: she may have deleted your last message before reading it, or for an unknown reason she hasnt been able to read it, but it is probably that she does not want to reply...
 

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pyros said:
So, its been 4 days since the last FB message I sent her asking for her number in order to call her to arrange something and she has not said a word.
I see she's almost always online on FB chat.

Do I ask her why she hasnt replied?
I mean, she may not be interested, but if I do not say anything I will never know what happened.


Dont you think?

P.S.
My rejection buffer is saying: she may have deleted your last message before reading it, or for an unknown reason she hasnt been able to read it, but it is probably that she does not want to reply...
Do you really think a girl nowadays didnt manage to read a message on facebook? I guess its as believable as a girl which lose her cellphone 5 minutes before you were supposed to meet.

Mike gives great suggestions and is very wise but this time I'll stick with Nismo's considerations, an interested girl makes her best to see you and makes it easy for you...she doesnt confuse you,frustrate you or "forgets you"...and if you ask here its very likely that its not a green light in general.

There is always a risk of friendzone or the orbiter one whenever things dont go smoothly, girls are ego fueled creatures and know hundreds of ways to trick men into feeding theirs.
 

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pyros said:
Hi.

Met this chick two months ago. We clicked pretty fast. Pitty was that she was 'dating' some guy (FWB), so I did not try to ask her out or anything.

Last week I bumped into her at the cinema. Next day she comments something on my FB, I reply, she replies and so on.

Then that same day at nigh I sent her a message asking her out. Some hours later she replies: s'ure! we can meet sometime soon'

Some hours later I reply: 'alright, so give me your number (I just had her on FB) and Ill plan something for next week'

She never replied; that was on Friday, today is Monday.


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Like the others said, strike while the iron is hot, but I doubt it would have made much of a difference in this case. Her interest is really low. Asking for her number immediately, she may have given it, but then you would just be her b!tchboy over text instead of FB. Don't be anyone's b!tch. See it from her perspective, she shows you tiniest bit of attention and you already bend over waiting for her to fvck you. Stop acting like every other dozens of b!tchboy orbiters she's comes across and grow some balls and smack her in the face with them.
 

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pyros said:
Some hours later she replies: s'ure! we can meet sometime soon'
Sometime soon? Sorry pyros, but this is what you get told when you're nowhere near the top of her priority list and she's just being polite.

I'd be real surprised if she is interested in you.
 

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Don't say anything else, forget her for now. Maybe if you never say anything again it will make her think "hmm, he lost interest pretty quickly" and make her wonder. For now, she's not that interested. I say don't get back to her right away if she ever does respond. There is something to say for striking while the iron is hot, but it sounds like people are overanalyzing your conversation a little too much. If she wanted you to have that number and to hang out with you, it would have happened. It sounds most to me like she was going for a little attention, maybe reel another guy in to giving her pictures "likes" on facebook.
 

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Weird...
why say yes to a date proposal and then ignore the guy?
If it was me, ,why would I say yes to a date with a girl and then ignore her?
The only scenario that comes to my mind is that I could have been interested in the girl (thats why I said yes to her date proposal), but then another girl that Im really interested appeared, so I just ignore the previous girl.
If I was not interested in the first girl, I would have just ignored her first message, not said yes to a date and then ignored her.

Dont you agree?
Anyway, Im not gonna talk to her again. hah.
 

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She didn't really say yes because you didn't ask her on a specific date. "Sometime soon" doesn't mean yes. Next time say "lets get drinks(or whatever) what nights are you free this week?" If she doesn't respond with a specific day, she's not interested.
 

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They do such rude things because it is accepted and forgiven in today's world. Narcissism is going triple platinum on women's top 10 Billboard sales.
 

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pyros said:
Weird...
why say yes to a date proposal and then ignore the guy?
If it was me, ,why would I say yes to a date with a girl and then ignore her?

Girls are pvssies when it comes to making an overt rejection. They don't like the awkwardness and confrontation of having to reject a guy when in direct conversation. Only later when they are outside of the communication bubble can they then feel free to ignore passively.

In reality it just causes a lot of confusion and bad feelings.
 

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pyros said:
Weird...
why say yes to a date proposal and then ignore the guy?
If it was me, ,why would I say yes to a date with a girl and then ignore her?
The only scenario that comes to my mind is that I could have been interested in the girl (thats why I said yes to her date proposal), but then another girl that Im really interested appeared, so I just ignore the previous girl.
If I was not interested in the first girl, I would have just ignored her first message, not said yes to a date and then ignored her.

Dont you agree?
Anyway, Im not gonna talk to her again. hah.
are you comparing a woman's logic to your logic? :crackup:
 

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well, she did say yes because I said to her: 'tell my your number if you wanna go grab a drink sometime'
her: hey, sure! we can go to grab a drink sometime soon! (I did not write it correctly in my first post)

But why just not reply to my message instead?
or why not just say something among the lines:
- im seing someone.
- im busy.
- etc

I just think she was kind of interested but, as I said in my previous post, she was kind of dating some dude or at least she was one month ago; this is why I did not ask her out before. However they may have gotten together again or something...
this may explain why she seemed happy to go out (they were not together anymore or they argued, or whatever) but after my message they got together again, and she does not want to reject my directly (just in case it does not work out again between them, she left me in 'stand by status', lol).

anyway, whatever...
 

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pyros said:
well, she did say yes because I said to her: 'tell my your number if you wanna go grab a drink sometime'
her: hey, sure! we can go to grab a drink sometime soon! (I did not write it correctly in my first post)

But why just not reply to my message instead?
or why not just say something among the lines:
- im seing someone.
- im busy.
- etc

I just think she was kind of interested but, as I said in my previous post, she was kind of dating some dude or at least she was one month ago, this is why I did not ask her out before, and they may have gotten together again or something.
This may explain why she seemed happy to go out (they were not together anymore or they argued, or whatever) but after my message they got together again, and she does not want to reject my directly (just in case it does not work out again between them, Im still there).

anyway, whatever...

Have you not read anyone's advice? SHE IS A WOMAN WHO DOES NOT OPERATE THE SAME WAY AS YOU (LOGICALLY) AND SHE IS NOT INTERESTED!!!
 
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