Chick has BF, But just recently contacted me after NC. Advice Needed

[goodganji44]

An old good friend of mine came back around after a good 7-8 months of no contact. She's an overall a cool chick and we've got a solid friendship and from what I can tell is highly attracted to me.

Last I heard from her, she was venting about her last relationship problems and I listened for a bit. She had a friend of hers that she only saw as just a friend but for him it was the other way around. I told her that she should give the friend a chance and she might just miss out on something wonderful.

We'll they eventually did hookup and from what I could see, things were going all great on Facebook. But from experience, usually it's not always what the chick cracks up to be.

Anyways, she's hitting me up again and I'm curious as to why...If she's in the happy relationship as she projects to everyone. After being a good samaritan and helping some fella get out of the friend zone, I feel it's time for her to hop on some of this alpha cok if that's what she's looking for. She hasn't seen the new me yet and I'm ready to show it off.

I guess what I'm asking is some good BF destroyer techniques and an analysis on why she's even hitting me up out of nowhere in the first place if she has a BF??

 

[jeffreylebowski]

If she's already hitting you up, and she's "highly attracted" to you...I doubt you'll need any boyfriend destroyer techniques. You say you're good friends...yet you did 7-8 months of No Contact? I'm confused.

 

[Fatal Jay]

I been there don't waste your time, your like the cigarette, and her boyfriend is the meth. She not going anywhere bro, cut her loose before you start having false hope, take it from someone who been down that road its not worth the time and frustration.

 

[insomniac9]

sounds like your friend plans to become friends with benefits... if you find her attractive, this is good.

 

[Fatal Jay]

Not to be a hater but this dude is not banging anything, he said she use to tell him about her other relationship problems, when chicks do this, she is not attracted to you in no way.

Don't believe me, ok let me give you an example. A chick you think is super hot and she likes you back, are you going to set up for min. to hours telling her about your last relationship? Of course not.

Ok then........OP if you haven't smashed you won't smash, welcome to the friend zone. Once you get friend zoned it is almost impossible to get out.

It is a way to get out the friend zone, a full proof never fail plan, if you want to know, say so, its tough but it always works.

 

[GotED?]

If you are looking for relationship material/quality women, would you really trust someone who would do this while she has a boyfriend? She would do it to you if you were her boyfriend for sure. Don't think you are any more special. low quality=low quality, the equation never changes.

A case of Attention Wh0re: NEXT.

 

[goodganji44]

As far as why there was no contact, she moved to another city. Got a BF did her own thing while I did mine. Nothing conflicting. She set me up with a few of her friends in the past so nexting with no remorse would be a dumb idea imo.

More or less I put her in my friend zone. I could care less of what happens next. For the time frame I've known her, she's either had a BF or I had a GF. As far as listening and giving advice, I didn't give a sht.. she's in another city so she's no good to me. lol. If it helps the next guy, good for him.

Personally, I look at this as a branch swing opportunity. Besides, we've made out a few times before so she knows what's up if she gets around me again. As far as to why I haven't smashed, we live in different cities. So chasing her is a moot point. But usually whenever she's about to come in my area is when I hear from her.


Basically what it comes down to is she's someone I think I can bang. To clear any confusion, I'm not the type of guy that listens on the phone for hours and hours about relationship problems. I'll gladly give 15 mins of my spare time to listen and that's what I did.


I helped a gent out by getting him out of the friend zone. I didn't gain or lose anything by helping her make a choice. Not in my city so who really cares. Either way, even after I told her to go to him, she comes back to me.


I'll set up a date soon and amp up the kino with my new look and physique and see what happens.

 

[insomniac9]

Not to be a hater but this dude is not banging anything, he said she use to tell him about her other relationship problems, when chicks do this, she is not attracted to you in no way.

Don't believe me, ok let me give you an example. A chick you think is super hot and she likes you back, are you going to set up for min. to hours telling her about your last relationship? Of course not.

Ok then........OP if you haven't smashed you won't smash, welcome to the friend zone. Once you get friend zoned it is almost impossible to get out.

It is a way to get out the friend zone, a full proof never fail plan, if you want to know, say so, its tough but it always works.

my curiosity has been piqued, what might that plan be sir ?

 

[goodganji44]

my curiosity has been piqued, what might that plan be sir ?

I've done it before. It's not that hard. You just have to be indifferent to the outcome.

In nutshell...... No Contact for a very long time and if/when she comes back. Come back a completely different person and focus on hitting all of the attraction signals. See if she bites the bait and if she does, great. If not, go ghost and move on to the next.

 

[goodganji44]

If you are looking for relationship material/quality women, would you really trust someone who would do this while she has a boyfriend? She would do it to you if you were her boyfriend for sure. Don't think you are any more special. low quality=low quality, the equation never changes.

A case of Attention Wh0re: NEXT.

All im trying to do is smash bro. I dont care about all that other relationship fluff. Lol

 

[Uncharted]

If you are looking for relationship material/quality women, would you really trust someone who would do this while she has a boyfriend? She would do it to you if you were her boyfriend for sure. Don't think you are any more special. low quality=low quality, the equation never changes.

A case of Attention Wh0re: NEXT.

REP

So much truth here. This has happened to me twice recently (women flirting hardcore and not mentioning a boyfriend until I try to escalate).

But to OP - if you want to just bang her, ask her out for drinks or over your place. If she says no, IGNORE. She does not deserve your attention.