Hoeflation and how modern men have to put in more effort is a much more relevant trend than what she discusses.
Women have had far more abundance of options in the last 15-20 years since the internet became a bigger part of early stage mating.
She has a valid point in discussing the testosterone issues and the increase in soyboys. She might live in a city where there are many soyboys.
The problem is that there's never been a time where women ignore a larger percentage of now. When women's swiping patterns are analyzed, they are ignoring all but the top tier of men.
The hoeflation part is correct but the abundance part I disagree with
The abundance of going on dates and banging guy's for
most women isn't the same abundance as being in committed relationships and marriage. Women's criteria for abundance are slightly different than men's. Most men would have no complaints about banging a bunch of pretty or decent looking women even if it means the women won't commit to them.
However most women want commitment or marriage yes even in 2025. You are right women have more options than ever, however, women suffer from the
paradox of choice
Imagine a woman who gets
hundreds or even thousands of matches on a dating app. At first, it seems like she has an abundance of choices. But as she starts filtering through them, she realizes:
Many of the men she finds attractive aren’t interested in committing
The men who are willing to commit don’t spark her interest, she is not attracted to them, or other reasons
A large chunk of matches are guys she wouldn’t consider dating at all.
A large chunk of matches are guys who only want to have sex with her
So despite
technically having an abundance of options, she feels like she has no good options—leading to frustration and dissatisfaction. On the flipside a lot of men wouldn't consider a large group of women either for serious committed relationships. However you mentioned soyboys, this is a real thing. A lot of men would rather play video games, or watch livestreams
then go and approach women.
This is the paradox of choice in action. More options should mean better chances of finding the right match?, but in reality, it can lead to decision fatigue, higher standards, and more difficulty committing because she’s always wondering if there’s a better option out there.
Meanwhile, on the flip side, a lot of men struggle just to get matches, so they assume women have it easy. But in reality, many women feel just as stuck—
drowning in choices but starving for a real connection.
