Chase the dream, not the competition - Journal 2014

[Ronaldo7]

This will be my journal for 2014. I have decided to document all the anecdotes with women that i encounter in my life.

Since, in my humble opinion, this is the only weakness in my otherwise faultless self, i see no need in making this a journal with goals and other miscellaneous things as others have done.
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Since my last thread made me conclude that i needed to put myself out there a lot more, i decided to accept invitations from acquaintances to go out.

Yesterday, i went out with a friend to seek out some bars around his house. He is not a picky guy and bags whatever comes his way. I am quite the opposite. We went to a couple of bars that were very crowded and filled with ugly girls. As we were leaving to go to a decent club, i saw an acquaintance from the gym. He dragged us with him to a birthday party that he was going to in a nearby bar. He introduced us to the birthday girl and her friends. Both of my acquaintances started dancing with the girls. I got dragged out by one of the girl's friends.

1. I don't like to dance.
2. I don't know how to dance what they were dancing. (Salsa and other Spanish rhythms)

I only like 3 genres of music.

1. Classical
2. House/Techno/Electro
3. Hip Hop

I then proceed to sit down. And this is where it all began. Some girl with braces, whom yours truly deemed ugly, kept asking me to dance. I rejected her. She then got the birthday girl to come with her and ask me. I rejected both. She then got another girl to come ask me along with them. Rejected 3. She then got ANOTHER girl to do the same. Rejected 4. Her reasoning was that i had to dance and her friends wanted to dance with me. After i just flat out ignored her, she started calling me a jerk and i was being rude to 4 "beautiful" (LOL) girls that were asking me to dance. 4 girls surrounding me and i became the center of attention. My acquaintances were asking me what was going on. We left shortly after.

Things i did well -

1. Didn't tell them they were ugly.

2. Didn't flat out ignore them from the beginning.

Things i did wrong -

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* The only reason i went to the birthday party with my gym acquaintance was because there was a possibility of going to a club if the birthday party wasn't up to par.

 

[Gunner26]

Come on man.

Good that you want to improve yourself in this area. I still think you're a little too close to narcissistic, but that's besides the point.

If you're going to be going out to clubs/bars you will probably need to sack up and dance a bit, I find it a great way to escalate and it normally leads nicely into the makeout.

Not giving in to the girls wishes and demands is a plus point from all of this, however, yes you got 'approached' by 4 girls, but only the first one (with braces) counts. The other girls only came over because you were dismissing their friend and they were then trying to help out.

Because you then rejected her friends she was always going to think of you as a dicx.

You want to get better with women, but you are refusing to practice on the girls that show interest, but aren't beautiful. You don't have to go home with these girls, but if you practice your game on them, it will be easier to bag the women you do want. It's like maths, you start off learning 2+2 before learning 2x2. Wean yourself into it.


Also not telling a girl she is ugly is not a plus, I don't care how you spin it. It's common sense, and people who do that are dicxheads.

Gunner

 

[Ronaldo7]

Hm. Since the 3 genres i like do not require much dancing, i find it bothersome to dance to those Spanish rhythms. I have an aura of calm,cool and collected. Those rhythms break that and i was not about to make a fool out of myself for the entertainment of strangers.

I wouldn't count any of them. That would be an insult. I'm just giving a detailed description of the encounter. It was more like a merry go round. As in if i won't dance with x girl, i might dance with y girl. They found it inconceivable that i wouldn't dance with any of them/ at all.

I did dance with the girl that dragged me out in the beginning. That was when we got to the party. Since she was ugly, i was physically there, but my mind just started drifting and i just started thinking about other things such as stocks, perfectioning my form at the gym among other things. I didn't try to touch her or anything. When something/someone fails to capture my interest, i just drift away and slowly let the conversation reach an end. That is something i need to work on.

Well. It is a plus if you are me. It's something that usually happens when i go out.

 

[JoeMarron]

Since the 3 genres i like do not require much dancing,

Lolwat? Electro and hip hop were founded on being able to dance to the music, hell people even dance to classical.

Look the only way you're going to improve is if you stop acting as if everyone must bow down and worship you. You need to be giving value to others instead. Act as if you're a president; talk to everyone, be interested in what they have to say, treat them as if you genuinely care about them, simply spread good feelings to everyone.

Take Jesus for example, dude was the supposed creator of the universe yet he served others instead of exalting himself all the time. If Jesus acted like you then everyone would've considered him a delusional maniac and Christianity would've never got started. A man of true greatness doesn't call himself great, everyone else does. You can think that you're better than everyone else, just don't let everyone else think that you think you're better.

 

[Ronaldo7]

They were founded on. Is it currently like that? No. House/Electro is more feeling the beat and grooving to it. Same with Hip Hop to an extent. They do not compare to Spanish music and all the constant swinging and dancing to it.

Well. I've never said that. I keep to myself. Others are the ones that come to me/inquire about me. I am not a very talkative person. I prefer to listen and observe more. I do have to work on becoming interested in triviliaties that other people have to offer. I do acknowledge that. I usually don't "treat" others. That means indifference. I just go on about my business.

Good points Joe. I will try to incorporate, and highlight, them in future posts.

 

[Ronaldo7]

I went out on Friday. I met a guy at the park near the gym, who recently came from the States. He asked me what clubs were like and such. I took him out and showed him around. We went to the best club in the city. (It is divided up in classes. 1 through 6.) The club is a 6, while others range from 1 (Where poor people go) to 5. He initially felt uncomfortable because he dressed with a snapback and very casual. I don't knock on anyone's style and told him to be confident in his style. I have my style and it is to dress up flawless every time. He kept telling me i looked like head security and he looked like the guy who wipes tables, lol. When we got to the club, the bouncer told the guy from the States to take off his hat. I talked my way to the bouncer's good side and explained how he didn't know better because he was new here. I thankfully found a guy from the gym and he introduced us to the girls he was with. I deemed all of them ugly. They also looked simple. I even felt like i was too pretty for them. I'm glad my acquaintance liked them. Good for him. I am happy to be a provider for people in need. So there were 4 girls. He seemed to be into them and started dancing with them. They tried to include me in their little party, but i did not see myself in it. I stood back and watched my surroundings. I caught, what i thought to be, a very good-looking blonde staring my way. She was dancing with 2 other friends and her friends started glancing at me. I had only wished she was confident and approached me. I do not understand how women are so insecure in themselves. It was a shame she wasn't a confident girl. The gym acquaintance came over and told me how she goes to the same university he goes to and how he likes her and such. He told me to go up to her, but i couldn't figure out why he wouldn't if he had such high interest in her. He responded by telling me that i was dressed up and had the good looks, while he was not dressed up and she wasn't staring at him. He bet me 30 $ that she was looking at me and i bet 30 $ that she wasn't. She looked at me as she was leaving. I lost 30 $, but i have the full satisfaction of knowing she was melting inside waiting for me to approach her. That's sufficient for me. After she left, the girls from my gym acquaintance's group came and asked each of us to dance. He went to dance, along with the guy from the States, while i POLITELY declined. She kept persisting and i do not like people who persist against when i have already spoken. Her friend came over and asked me if she was not pretty. I did the nice thing and just turned away. I assume my silence demonstrated my response to that. 2 other girls asked me to dance as well when different songs came on. I declined. One of them asked me why i would not dance at all. I asked her to give me a reason why i should dance with her. I also told her that a girl had to impress me for dance with her. Every time a girl came up to me to dance, i sent her towards the guy from the States. I provided for him. I did not want the attention and simply shifted it towards him. The guy from the States ended getting the number from one of the girls I sent his way. He told me it helped that the girl thought i was a douche. Meh. If it helped him, i will gladly take one for the team. I also helped him by stopping the bouncer from kicking him out because he put his hat back on. I talked to the bouncer, asked him his name and told him that everything was alright and he didn't need to take his hat. I told him "Hey man, look how i'm dressed. I'm a good guy. We are not here to cause problems. Take it easy and here is a tip to look the other way. " People saw that and it was funny because he went to another table and just yanked the hat from some other guy without saying anything. I am glad i can talk my way into and out of anything. It is so convenient.

Things i did well -

I was interested, as Joe said, in what the bouncer had to say. I was also interested in what the gym acquaintance and the guy from the States had to say.

Didn't tell any of the girls that they were hideous. Not counting the silence.

Didn't budge into demands.

Got the guy from the States some girls and he was able to score a number.


Things i did wrong -

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[Don-Kong]

Since, in my humble opinion, this is the only weakness in my otherwise faultless self, i see no need in making this a journal with goals and other miscellaneous things as others have done.
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Humility is like 'I have learnt something from this' Although I see your flaws, I know I too have flaws, therefore humility recognises this, accepts it and learns from it.

On the flip side. Pride is arrogant, it mistakenly views attributes as superior to others and feels more important. It is a mind of non learning. It cannot be taught. It is a deceptive mind because it 'looks like confidence' but is in fact a 'mask' for insecurity. Deceptive because it appears to be true when it is in fact, false.

When we accept our faults, we learn from everything. Then we are not bothered by them so much. This is where true inner confidence comes from. You have much inner confidence.

 

[Ronaldo7]

After a year of not coming to SoSuave,

I thought to look back on how i started.

I definitely learned a lot, to which i put to good use.

It was way easier than i thought. All i had to do was project my dashing self to potential preys.

I thought it would be more complicated. More variables involved, more obstacles to jump and more failures to swallow.

It really wasn't. I used all the helpful advice i saw on here to maintain my frame, establish dominance and exert a monarch to subjects influence.

Before my biggest problem was approaching. My biggest problem now is keeping the mind games going with my plates.

I see myself in a safari adventure. So many exotic animals to go after.

However, to really have a pick of the best of the best, you need to build yourself thoroughly.

-Confidence. A lot of confidence. Getting my best trophies required being very brash, even more arrogant and showing exactly i was above them.

-Have a very good physique. Kill yourself in the gym and you'll be thankful later. Women are a lot more superficial than you think. Yes, physique alone can get you in some of the hottest women you can imagine.

-Intelligence. You'd be surprised how easily you can manipulate a women with your intelligence. I've found that if you demonstrate your intellectual superiority, she'll follow you like a lost child. That's how you can get inside her head. If you have the mental advantage, it's game over for her.

-Make sure you always do her right. Sex is the most important thing for them, even if they don't admit it. Bang her right and she'll never,ever leave you.

*Depending on what you want to get, you do need to be good-looking. There is no other way around it.

*** If a girl has a boyfriend or husband, don't take that as a NO. That only means that she is settled with him... UNTIL she finds something better. Show her YOU are the better option and she will leave him.

I'm 21. I got with a married woman and she left her husband for me. "In hopes i would be with her".

And the girl i am currently seeing had a boyfriend of 5 years with an engagement ring, she left him a month after i met her.

Life is all about opportunity. Opportunities to better yourself and to climb higher.

 

[Ronaldo7]

When i first came here, i was given the advice to approach girls since i would only let them come to me. I was too arrogant to listen then.

I now recognize the value of putting yourself out there. Fortune does indeed favor the brave. I was most fearful of rejection since i thought it would crumble my ego down to its last thread.

It's funny though. Rejection does not cross my mind anymore. I don't know if i'm too arrogant, egotistic & narcissistic, but whenever i encounter a "i have a boyfriend" (which is the only thing i'm hit with), i just think to myself "she made a rash decision. She has not seen me naked." It's all about the power of the mind. You attract what you envision. More times than not, that same girl who told me "i have a boyfriend" ends up with me at a party or at another social gathering. It's incredibly surprising how times change. A "no" today means a yes in a month.

Never stop chasing opportunities. That's how the greats are formed. Failure can be turned into triumph.

Always take care of yourself. Be well groomed, have good hygiene & dress to impress. If you want to be thought of as a man, dress like one.

Be fearless. Have goals so big, you feel uncomfortable telling small-minded people. Show the drive & ambition to achieve. It automatically translates into every aspect of your life.