Champ and the Chump

[Fruitbat]

Finally, it hit me this morning.

I have never had an issue with being told "no", but what I have found out (probably too late in life) is the reason dating etc can be such a ****ed up gig for men.

I have observed for all my life happily married or happy relationship women who still flirt and lead guys on - as much as they can get away with without being able to talk their way out of it.

Women, I now understand, need a chump as well as a champ. They need a guy there, a guy they reject for the guy they really like. It makes them feel better about their man, and also makes them feel like they have chosen rather than picked from desparation - "this is a man who was my pick"

Now, I am not going to go into what being the chosen chump is like, as I have been fooled by this many times. So bad in fact it's quite lucky I am still here to write this up, as realising you were just an aphrodisiac to her real deal relationship is hard, so hard one wishes women were executed on the spot for such behaviour as it truly has led me to ruining my life and almost ending it!!. Just for the kick of their own relationship they do not give one solitary **** about the guy they string on only to dump them on anti depressants and therapy couches, because it's not the girl you didn;t win, it''s the girl who used you as a sacraficial lamb to the guy she likes ahead of you. Nothing in this world, nothing fvcks ones head up like this, believe me.

My question is gentleman HOW THE HELL DO YOU TELL THE LIARS FROM THE REAL DEAL?

HOW DO YOU MODERATE THIS BEHAVIOUR IN YOUR WOMAN ONCE IN A RELATIONSHIP?

ARE WOMEN JUST FUNDAMENTALLY FLAWED, DIFFICULT AND INTERESTED IN DYNAMICS WHICH HURT AND UPSET PEOPLE FOR PETTY BENEFIT?

DO YOU JUST TELL FLIRTY WOMEN TO **** OFF?

HOW CAN YOU TELL THEIR INTENTIONS?

HOW DO YOU DATE WOMEN IN ANY OTHER FRAME THAN A GESTAPO OFFICER, AND NOW I FEEL LIKE I NEED TO CROSS EXAMINE THEM, AS THEY COULD BE INTO YOU, OR THEY COULD BE GETTING YOU INVOLVED IN SOMETHING FOR SOME DUPLISTIC REASON?

 

[@Jonanthony]

Its the buzz word "resilience" atm and Im growing to dislike the word but alas.... Nexting red flags and calling out bad behaviour is essential...if you observe alot of the long term ,mature DJs here a consensus emerges many seem to be finding their " unicorns " so there is hope for us all yet...

 

[mrgoodstuff]

Finally, it hit me this morning.

I have never had an issue with being told "no", but what I have found out (probably too late in life) is the reason dating etc can be such a ****ed up gig for men.

I have observed for all my life happily married or happy relationship women who still flirt and lead guys on - as much as they can get away with without being able to talk their way out of it.

Women, I now understand, need a chump as well as a champ. They need a guy there, a guy they reject for the guy they really like. It makes them feel better about their man, and also makes them feel like they have chosen rather than picked from desparation - "this is a man who was my pick"

Now, I am not going to go into what being the chosen chump is like, as I have been fooled by this many times. So bad in fact it's quite lucky I am still here to write this up, as realising you were just an aphrodisiac to her real deal relationship is hard, so hard one wishes women were executed on the spot for such behaviour as it truly has led me to ruining my life and almost ending it!!. Just for the kick of their own relationship they do not give one solitary **** about the guy they string on only to dump them on anti depressants and therapy couches, because it's not the girl you didn;t win, it''s the girl who used you as a sacraficial lamb to the guy she likes ahead of you. Nothing in this world, nothing fvcks ones head up like this, believe me.

My question is gentleman HOW THE HELL DO YOU TELL THE LIARS FROM THE REAL DEAL?

HOW DO YOU MODERATE THIS BEHAVIOUR IN YOUR WOMAN ONCE IN A RELATIONSHIP?

ARE WOMEN JUST FUNDAMENTALLY FLAWED, DIFFICULT AND INTERESTED IN DYNAMICS WHICH HURT AND UPSET PEOPLE FOR PETTY BENEFIT?

DO YOU JUST TELL FLIRTY WOMEN TO **** OFF?

HOW CAN YOU TELL THEIR INTENTIONS?

HOW DO YOU DATE WOMEN IN ANY OTHER FRAME THAN A GESTAPO OFFICER, AND NOW I FEEL LIKE I NEED TO CROSS EXAMINE THEM, AS THEY COULD BE INTO YOU, OR THEY COULD BE GETTING YOU INVOLVED IN SOMETHING FOR SOME DUPLISTIC REASON?

They reveal their hand that they are playing you like this when you are around other people. It will appear that they treat "most" other people "better" than you. All it means is she is artificially "lowering" you, because she's playing you.