joekerr31 said:
oneitis isn't caused by anything anyone does. IF it were there were be multiple guys with oneitis over the same woman.
oneitis is a mystery. it just happens out of the blue with no explanation.
I disagree dude. It doesn't just happen out of the blue, it happens when a guy creates an obsessive idealization of a chick in his mind. There are many causes. For instance, he might do this because he's desperate, has a scarcity mentality in regard to women, or feels he's obligated to get married by a certain age. There are more possible causes.
At the end of the day, it's a weak psychological frame of reference and a lack of options that reinforce the oneitis. Joe, to what you said about multiple guys with the same women, this happens all the time. A good illustration of this can be seen in the movie
There's Something About Mary. All the guys are idealizing and obsessed with Cameron Diaz (except Brett Favre) because of her hotness, great personality, and naiveté to it all. I'd venture to say we've all come across chicks who are like this in real life. They are AFC magnets and leave a whole trail of guys with oneitis in their wake. While
Mary might be on the far end of the spectrum, it's the same oneitis. Some chicks, most notably the attention junkies, play up the idealization factor to create a harem of chumps who will provide for free. We've all seen girls like this too.
I always get a good laugh out of guys (including myself from the distant past) who have oneitis over a chick who's not that hot. This is the 'everyday' oneitis you can see everytime you leave the house.
That Onion piece a few months ago had me in tears because you see this garbage and the drama associated with it all over the place.
And Puert...er...Last Man Standing, not all guys have oneitis (obsessive idealization) for their wife. I think it's fair to say most do though because they subscribe to the AFC belief system when it comes to relationships, love, and marriage.