Caught Up In Infatuation.

[Ridiculous_Rick]

I've been working with this girl for about 5 months now. We converse everyday, we sit by each other everyday. It's prime but i've fallin into the depths of infatuation. This girl just stuns me, I make her laugh a lot she tells me how funny and cute i am all the time but the bad thing is she's got a b/f. I've been playing it cool disregarding it most the time hoping she'll break up with him within the next few months. It's real hard to be just friends cause I wanna pin this girl so bad. It's crazy to because she show off her body to me being like 'i've been working out can you tell?" lifting her shirt up and i'm like damn. When other people glare though she gets real uncomfortable. But when it's me she's all down. I was just wondering what you guyes think I should do to make her more intimately interested in me. I mean if you hang out with someone everyday and use heavy kino every so often the thought probably arises in your mind what i'd be like. I'm just looking for you opinion on what I should do.

 

[E-Z Rider]

Ouch. You are in a SUCKY situation.

This girl probably likes you actually. Just not as much as her boyfriend. What she craves from you is the attention, it feeds her ego. Think of when a girl you aren't really into checks you out and touches you and stuff. As long as she's not ugly, you kind of like having her around, b/c it makes you feel like a stud. But you wouldn't really consider doing anything with her, at least if you had a reason not to (like a comitted relationship).

This is the situation she finds herself in.

I will say that there is a chance you could end up with this girl. It's happened before in the world, and it'll happen again. But the only way that would happen is if her bf screws up, and she loses interest in him. Then she'll turn to the next best thing, which might very well be you. However, that is no way to live, waiting for some girl's boyfriend to screw up.


Another outcome could be that she cheats on her bf with you. Could be very possible, if you have solid game and both of you have free consciences. But I dunno if that would really satisfy you, because that kind of thing rarely leads to a relationship, more often than not it leads to a make-up with her and her bf, and you get shafted.

The other outcome is that she doesn't break up with him while you're in the picture, or she DOES break-up but goes out with another guy and not you. And you never get to be anything more than the guy she shows off to. That is the most likely case.

So, what you got to do is just start focusing on other girls; you caught this one at the wrong time. Stop showing this girl so much attention, and focus on your own things. Have fun with other girls, and you'll slowly get over her.

Keep in contact, and once you can handle it without being overcome with obsession, flirt with her lightly and sporadically. Just keep teasing her, keep your ball in the court (but just barely) until she breaks up (then run your game if you want) or you get bored and find another chick.

Hope this helps- E-Z

 

[ScrewIt]

yea i agree, she's probably using you for an ego boost and trusts you as a friend. knows you're not gonna pull anything stupid on her.

what you should do is ignore her from time to time, and keep yourself busy when she wants to talk to you. also keep in mind to talk to other ladies there, not just her.

 

[Genghis Juan]

I agree with the other guys. You're in a shytty situation. If her bf screws up and they break up, there is no guarantee she is going to choose you. Moreover, (I don't know how long they've been going out), you don't want to be her rebound guy either.

I am assuming you're in the frame of mind that you want to be her bf, and not just a fling. You absolutely must date and see other girls. Don't put yourself on the shelf waiting for this girl, she may never become available. The worst mistake a guy can make is to become a girl's friend hoping she will come around to you while you are doing nothing else. Unhealthy. Put some distance between you and her. Let her know that you are dating other girls to.

 

[Skel]

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[JohnJones]

Originally posted by E-Z Rider



Another outcome could be that she cheats on her bf with you. Could be very possible, if you have solid game and both of you have free consciences. But I dunno if that would really satisfy you, because that kind of thing rarely leads to a relationship, more often than not it leads to a make-up with her and her bf, and you get shafted.

And if you are successful in making her your g/f based on cheating or if it looks as if she moved to you without letting go of him first, you have to consider that unless you are the be-all, end-all (and you may be) she'll do it to you eventually.

 

[DJ_Dork]

NEXT DUDE. I can see you are already mentally hurting yourself through this. I can see that you might have no other girl that will take you in like this broad. THE FACT is also true to the girl that you are befriending. She sees this and will not take you in as a boyfriend. I've been there, some of us dudes have been there to feed egos of these hos. Read EZ-Rider's stuff carefully.. what he says is true.

I mean.. in the same situation if you have a GIRLFRIEND and then there is another girl whose attraction also fancies you.. For the guy if he loses the girlfriend he can switch to the girl easily. BUT FOR GIRLS it's different.

Do yourself a favor this month and pretend she doesn't exist and go out and try to meet other girls that APPRECIATE you both physically and intellectually. Right now this girl only appreciates you on an intellectual level.. which equals = just friends.

 

[DJ_Dork]

NEXT DUDE. I can see you are already mentally hurting yourself through this. I can see that you might have no other girl that will take you in like this broad. THE FACT is also true to the girl that you are befriending. She sees this and will not take you in as a boyfriend. I've been there, some of us dudes have been there to feed egos of these hos. Read EZ-Rider's stuff carefully.. what he says is true.

I mean.. in the same situation if you have a GIRLFRIEND and then there is another girl whose attraction also fancies you.. For the guy if he loses the girlfriend he can switch to the girl easily. BUT FOR GIRLS it's different.

Do yourself a favor this month and pretend she doesn't exist and go out and try to meet other girls that APPRECIATE you both physically and intellectually. Right now this girl only appreciates you on an intellectual level.. which equals = just friends.