Caught girlfriend looking at someone else

[SayWhat]

Hi

Yesterday I caught my girlfriend looking at some other guy. She knows this person well and joke around from time to time. I caught her looking at him when everyone else was looking at someone else who was talking.

I acted jealous, cause I thought some jealousy would be good in a relationship. But yeah I don't know how I should have acted or in fact if I should be worried and just call an end to it.

 

[mangotot]

Its only a matter if time before they hook up. If it was some random stranger that she'll never see again fair enough but someone she knows well that could be problematic.

 

[SHChamp]

Hi

Yesterday I caught my girlfriend looking at some other guy. She knows this person well and joke around from time to time. I caught her looking at him when everyone else was looking at someone else who was talking.

I acted jealous, cause I thought some jealousy would be good in a relationship. But yeah I don't know how I should have acted or in fact if I should be worried and just call an end to it.

She was looking and you acted jealous, why? In any case, you decide where the line stands from just looking to actual disrespect towards you, but being jealous about it is counter-productive. You have no reason to be jealous about some other guy, because jealousy just shows that you feel inferior to him and she knows this. If you are the greatest guy on the planet for her, you would have no reason to be jealous about anyone else. You have to have a high sense of self-worth and inner confidence in any relationship, or she will have the 'remote control to your emotions'.

If you feel she is flat out being disrespectful by looking at some other guy, just laugh it off, stand up and go talk to some other girl. She needs to be wary that she doesn't lose you, and if a girl feels that she has someone amazing she wouldn't dare to do anything to put that relationship in jeopardy by doing anything that would disrespect you and the boundaries of your relationship. Don't be jealous, but set down boundaries in your relationship. What these are exactly, is up to you, but keep in mind that the boundaries are also set upon you. Blocking her from looking at people, in my opinion, is too much and you should not be threatened by who she looks at.

Stand your ground, be a man and don't let these silly matters affect your demeanor. You are a MAN, and you need to sincerely believe that you are the best guy she will ever find. Do you not believe it? Then work on your inner confidence and until then.. fake it until you make it. "As you think, so shall you shall become."

 

[RangerMIke]

Never act jealous in front of women. It makes you look weak and less confident... you are supposed to be the best... why would you be jealous?

If you catch your girl checking out other dudes tease her about it. Ask her if she wants to run the "Chinese Finger Trap"...

 

[Dhoulmagus]

I check out girls in front of my gf all the time, but she knows Im nkt going to do anything about it lol. If she did the same thing than I will jokingly say go ask him to **** lol. However, she likes me enough to where she wont do that lol.

 

[Tictac]

You could always poke both her eyes out.

 

[SayWhat]

I talked to her about it. In fact figured out I'm actually not jealous but it's a mere fact that I acted that way because I don't want to be lied too and that if something would happen or she would develop feelings for someone, she has to say it. If she likes someone else better then so be it.

But here's what she said:

"Let's pretend something would happen, why would I say it then and throw what we have away?"

This sentence says enough I guess.

I do have to tell she cheats (yes cheats, not cheated) on her husband with me. She's still with him. I told myself not in the beginning not to start something more serious with someone who has cheated, but yeah I developed feelings...

Once a cheater, always a cheater is so true.

I hate my ego.
I need to run away, but I can't.

 

[Suspens]

Staring at a random stranger who looks like Brad Pitt is ok. But you said they know each other and occasionally flirt!

 

[SayWhat]

I know I need to end it, but I just can't. I think I can take some distance so it will make it easier, but how do I do this?

And I guess I can't because I don't have any other girls in my life. I met her at work (waiter), and this a bar which is only open during the day and only attracts elder people... Besides my work I go to the gym and go out with my friends (but this is always small bars). This sounds very bleek, but I can't see a good future, I've tried so hard to implement so many principles I've learned here, but it just doesn't work and I don't know why.

 

[Building_and_Loan]

I talked to her about it. In fact figured out I'm actually not jealous but it's a mere fact that I acted that way because I don't want to be lied too and that if something would happen or she would develop feelings for someone, she has to say it. If she likes someone else better then so be it.

But here's what she said:

"Let's pretend something would happen, why would I say it then and throw what we have away?"

This sentence says enough I guess.

I do have to tell she cheats (yes cheats, not cheated) on her husband with me. She's still with him. I told myself not in the beginning not to start something more serious with someone who has cheated, but yeah I developed feelings...

Once a cheater, always a cheater is so true.

I hate my ego.
I need to run away, but I can't.

lol, this little tidbit of information supersedes anything else you have said and should have gone in your original post.

She's not your girlfriend. She's married to another man. You need to just walk away. If you don't, it's only going to get messier, and you'll keep digging yourself into a bigger hole.

The fact that she's married to someone, having sex with you, and also checking out other guys says all you need to know about her character. She's not someone you should want to go any further with.