Can't undrstand this girl.. Help?

[ialphamaster]

She's interested, I'm interested. We both talk almost every day but at first she was always very responsive and attentive.

Lately, I've been getting mixed signals, or whatever we call it. For example:

Today she will share all her sensitive crap with me, she'll share stuff that she can't with anyone else (She don't share with friend's), she'll be extremely lovely and attention giving with me.

Then the next day, she'll be like giving one word answers, tired and talk for just a few minutes and then make an excuse to go. Last time she said I got to go study, then an hour later she was online on MSN.

Now what the hell is going on with this girl? I've noticed some other people facing the same situation. What should one do being in this situation? Is there any fix to it?

 

[JohnChops]

She's interested, I'm interested. We both talk almost every day but at first she was always very responsive and attentive.

Lately, I've been getting mixed signals, or whatever we call it. For example:

Today she will share all her sensitive crap with me, she'll share stuff that she can't with anyone else (She don't share with friend's), she'll be extremely lovely and attention giving with me.

Then the next day, she'll be like giving one word answers, tired and talk for just a few minutes and then make an excuse to go. Last time she said I got to go study, then an hour later she was online on MSN.

Now what the hell is going on with this girl? I've noticed some other people facing the same situation. What should one do being in this situation? Is there any fix to it?

1. you talk every day. Bad. this makes it easier for her to see you as too available and then youre straight in the friend zone.

Have you made a move on her? if not then you dont know if she is fully interested or not. You trust her actions towards you not what she says.

2. You have "Deep" conversation, you already know where that leads, to the friendzone! Shes using you as a plate to lay out all her emotional issues on, why do you stand there and let her do that? Because she has a vagina?

You need to go NC for atleast a week, change up your current style and show her you arent her emotional tampon and you arent always available. Then ask her out, make a move, if she rejects your move then i suggest to move on. however if she accepts it then good for you buddy

good luck

 

[Skalioppe]

Sorry to have to say this, but you're so in the friendzone it's palpable.

1. She's responsive and attentive because you help her unload her woes. You're the confidante, the friend without benefits who dotes on her.

2. She's extremely lovely because she wants to keep you sweet, dribbling and available, so you're there thinking you're in with a chance. You're not, she's playing you.

3. She gives one word answers because she's p1ssed off having a bad day, she doesn't give a sh1t if it p1sses you off, because she knows you'll just put up with it without calling her out on her sh1t. She'll make it up to you later with some more of point 2.

4. There are usually 3 reasons why men let ch1cks get all deep with them:
a) You are banging them or they are sucking your c0ck, so you let them unload a bit as a reward
b) You are being the strong supportive / protective Alpha and you know you are going to do a) as all the indications show.
c) You are the chump in the friendzone.

Stop being her crutch or as JohnChops so succinctly said "emotional tampon". The fix is to call her out on her cr@p, NC or NEXT the b1tch.

 

[GotED?]

How old are you OP? Are you under the age of 25? If so, you just have an immature young girl who are characteristic of that behavior during those age.

If not, then she is definitely LOW INTEREST.

A woman who wants a man, risks no loopholes in not showing interest and always want to make herself available to him.

Experienced DJ on here know it is not what a woman say, it is her action that DICTATES what her interest level is.

Good luck.

Exodus

 

[dap]

She had high IL early on from what I can tell but you needed to strike while the iron was hot (ie ask her out). Now, she sees that you aren't gonna make a move, and while noticing that you seem extremely available for her to load her emotional baggage onto, she has designated you as her official emotional tampon.

Force her to choose whether to see you as a sexual man, or to not see you at all. Do this by going NC, and if she comes crawling back immediately make a move.

 

[backseatjuan]

^all that


and, if a girl treats you wrong, tell her straight up, and find another girl.


Get this mindset into yourself, if she treats me like this now, what will be later down the road when things get more serious and more long term. If you think like that, then you will not tolerate women like that around you.

 

[spectacular]

do urself a favour bro and delete her...trust me I've been there and you dont wanna go down that road...gooodluck

 

[suavecdb]

JohnChops is right on the money - you're way too available and you're in the "friend" zone. She likely sees you more like a brother to unload her woes on to. Feels good to have a girl trust you so much she showers you with her deepest feelings, right? No, that's bad, at least when you start out in a relationship.
You can probably still save this by making yourself less available. Don't be mean but a little more "busy". Women like men who have things going on so show her you do (or fake it).

 

[Igetit!]

Mr. "Chops" is right on the money.....sounds like another case of the friendzone warming up in the bullpen. I do have a question or two though....

She's interested, I'm interested. We both talk almost every day but at first she was always very responsive and attentive.

Ok,you said that you're interested in her and her in you. Well she's probably cute,so I know why you'd like her,but what makes you think she's interested in you? What has she said or done to make you think she likes you back?


Have you asked her out?
How many dates have you taken her on?
You kissed her yet?
Have you even tried?


That's what I base interest off of,not her telling you personal details about her life.

Lately, I've been getting mixed signals, or whatever we call it. For example:

Today she will share all her sensitive crap with me, she'll share stuff that she can't with anyone else (She don't share with friend's), she'll be extremely lovely and attention giving with me.

Well that's all nice and dandy,but do you two GET IT ON???

You seem more like a therapist to her than a man she's sexually interested in.

Now what the hell is going on with this girl?

What the hell is going on with HER??? Dude...what the hell are YOU doing? If you don't STOP THIS,you're friendzone bound.

In fact,there's probably a good chance you're ALREADY there.

Is there any fix to it?

Well if you're in the friendzone,then NO. But let's say you aren't yet. In that case....


1: STOP TALKING TO HER about her personal issues/problems. If she brings them up,CHANGE THE SUBJECT.

2: If you haven't yet,ASK HER OUT. The longer you go hanging around her without asking her out,the greater the chance you'll get friendzoned.

3: If you ask her out,chances are,you're NOT going to get a direct answer. If she starts up with the "maybe" "might" "I don't know" bullsh1t and all that nonsense,don't get angry,just say "OK",then excuse yourself from her.

Then each time she calls,texts,or tries to talk to you again bringing up her issue talk,ASK HER OUT. She's either gonna say yes,or she's gonna back off.

4: and ABOVE ALL......PURSUE OTHER GIRLS.

When you go for other chicks,DON'T DO WHAT YOU DID HERE.....don't start talking to them about their issues and problems. Instead flirt,tease,then ASK THEM OUT.


Learn from the fiasco you created here (Yes,YOU created it),and don't make the same mistakes with the next girl.