Can't stay interested in one girl

[WorkHardPlayHard]

Anyone else experience this?

I'm at the point with girls that I don't text unless it's to do some light, flirty repoirt building or to set up a date. Even then I usually just call to do it. Anyways, I find myself winning girls I'm into, closing on the first or second date, and having them texting me most everyday over nothing.

Then, as quick as I gained interest, I lose it. Their texts become annoying, I look for excuses to not hang out, and only in a drunken stupor do I contact them to hook-up.

Is this healthy? I feel like I'm so desensitized that I can't actually ever care about a girl. Winning a girl as fast as I can is more sport than anything.

Maybe I just need to pursue higher quality girls - more "difficult" if you will.

 

[Slash Dolo]

I'm in the same boat bro. Maybe it's just because they aren't as attractive as I'd like (7s and 8s) but even the more attractive ones that come around bore me to tears. I don't even bother pursuing them. I've always been one to enjoy a fruitful relationship over plating however, so maybe I'm different; but none of the girls I've messed around with all year have been relationship material. I'm talking and texting and dating simply because I feel like I need to, not because I want to.

 

[WorkHardPlayHard]

You just described my situation.

Last serious relationship was ended 1.5 years ago. We were looks-matched and super compatible in every possible way. Since that ended I've dated probably 30 different girls - dated enough to know them well, not just hookups and one-and-dones. Couple of them I like for about a month, then I phase myself out as I find myself wanting more time for hobbies, friends, work, etc. Only one girl, a legit 9 got me to be seriously interested but then I went beta because of her looks.

At this point, my roommates are hesitant to hook me up with friends and coworkers because they think I'm playing. I'm not; I'm just not interested. The dating app girls are becoming boring too.

I don't know, man. I just want to win a quality girl and maintain interest. I've done it before but it's just so damn rare.

 

[Slash Dolo]

It is rare. Last girlfriend was a 9, dated for 2 years, it was great til she turned into a b*tchy feminazi. I left her, so no oneitis. Since then though it's just been date after date with nothing really going for it. Girls ranging from 7s to 9s. 9s play silly games so I stop contact. 8s are bangable but boring. 7s I can't even get it up to smash. I haven't had sex in the last 2 months by choice. I'll get numbers off dating sites, text them for maybe a day and wonder how anyone can find these women desirable. Maybe they're used to their looks doing all the work but their personality is that of a cardboard cutout. It's like talking to a sex doll with built in phrases that play when you pull the string.

 

[thatfeel]

This is a serious question and might come off a bit oddly but what are you guys doing with your lives? Reason I ask is if you have naturally good game you might be able to score the women but look too strongly to them for some internal satisfaction from spending time with them. Like you lack something in your life that you put drive and energy into(whatever it could be)so you project this missing element onto the women you date when in reality, they should be looking to you for interesting qualities.

 

[Slash Dolo]

This is a serious question and might come off a bit oddly but what are you guys doing with your lives? Reason I ask is if you have naturally good game you might be able to score the women but look too strongly to them for some internal satisfaction from spending time with them. Like you lack something in your life that you put drive and energy into(whatever it could be)so you project this missing element onto the women you date when in reality, they should be looking to you for interesting qualities.

Working and focusing on physical self-improvement and trying to spend more time with friends, basically. You're probably right though with your reasoning. I feel as if it's a mixture of that and the fact that my standards have gotten so high. I'd rather do the aforementioned things than even pursue or date. I merely do it to do it and keep my game strong.

 

[WorkHardPlayHard]

I'm a strategy analyst for a fast growing company that I've been with since it was a start up. Work out twice a day: interval sprints in AM, lift in the afternoon. Involved with my university still as a mentor to grad students from the program I went through. All my other free time I play guitar, for legitimately sometimes 40 hours a week if I go crazy on the weekends. Other than that, I go out at least one night on the weekend. Sometimes multiple times if there are events I want to attend. Honestly I feel pretty content and well rounded but possible something is missing.

 

[WorkHardPlayHard]

It is rare. Last girlfriend was a 9, dated for 2 years, it was great til she turned into a b*tchy feminazi. I left her, so no oneitis. Since then though it's just been date after date with nothing really going for it. Girls ranging from 7s to 9s. 9s play silly games so I stop contact. 8s are bangable but boring. 7s I can't even get it up to smash. I haven't had sex in the last 2 months by choice. I'll get numbers off dating sites, text them for maybe a day and wonder how anyone can find these women desirable. Maybe they're used to their looks doing all the work but their personality is that of a cardboard cutout. It's like talking to a sex doll with built in phrases that play when you pull the string.

Yeah the dating site chicks are the worst. They're kind of fun to talk to because you sort of just say whatever you want and it ends up working more than it should. I always feel grimey after meeting up though. Very low value women, though I'm sure there are a few gems out there.