i just don't know what my problem is. sometimes i can get hard for no reason and stay that way for a lil while. but it seems like when i'm in bed with my girl and shes ready for sex and i want to also, well it tends to go soft or it bends when i try to stick it in her. i don't masturbate anymore but i get a lot of handjobs from my gf. I'm 20 years old and she is my first partner i've had sex with. she thinks im not attracted to her because she's naked in bed with me and i can't stay hard but that is far from the truth i am very attracted to her. what do you think the deal could be?
can't stay hard
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Relax..relax..relax...
When youre having sex you should not worry about anything you should not think of anything besides the thing that you obsereves would turn you on..
if she has great shape of legs focus on that if her lips is sexy lick it and focus on that...
focus on the sensual feeling...not on other things..
Relax and make your self comfortable
When youre having sex you should not worry about anything you should not think of anything besides the thing that you obsereves would turn you on..
if she has great shape of legs focus on that if her lips is sexy lick it and focus on that...
focus on the sensual feeling...not on other things..
Relax and make your self comfortable
Had this problem when i first started having sex as well...
Problem is you don't know what you're supposed to think about, probably first thing you do is think of some porn movie or something that gets you off during masturbation and well that DOES NOT work during sex. Sex is about your partner and you should live in the moment...
First tip is to GET OUT OF YOUR HEAD...
When it starts going down, I like the advice the other guy gave... focus on something about her that's turning your on. The way her t!ts jiggle when she's moving, her nice legs, her lips, her feet, something get it in your head and let it just mentally masturbate u....
Before you know it, ur banging the hell outta her and an hour later your about to nut in her arse... the key is to relax...
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At first when i had this problem, i neva had anyone to tell me wat to do. I got Viagara and went to see doctors and everything, wat a waste of money. The viagara was a headtrip tho haha, it is fantastic if u wanna be a superhero !! Just relax, alot of sleep also and working out increases hardness... drink less alchohol also
-Cod3r
Problem is you don't know what you're supposed to think about, probably first thing you do is think of some porn movie or something that gets you off during masturbation and well that DOES NOT work during sex. Sex is about your partner and you should live in the moment...
First tip is to GET OUT OF YOUR HEAD...
When it starts going down, I like the advice the other guy gave... focus on something about her that's turning your on. The way her t!ts jiggle when she's moving, her nice legs, her lips, her feet, something get it in your head and let it just mentally masturbate u....
Before you know it, ur banging the hell outta her and an hour later your about to nut in her arse... the key is to relax...
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At first when i had this problem, i neva had anyone to tell me wat to do. I got Viagara and went to see doctors and everything, wat a waste of money. The viagara was a headtrip tho haha, it is fantastic if u wanna be a superhero !! Just relax, alot of sleep also and working out increases hardness... drink less alchohol also
-Cod3r
First of all, make sure it's emotional/mental and not physical. There's an easy way to figure that out: Do you have morning wood? If so, then the problem's in your head.
Once you're sure it's not a medical thing, here's a simple trick that worked for me when i was in a similar situation: Let her be on top. That way even if there is some bending or softness it should still go in and be an OK experience for her. Once you've established you can stay hard for her when she's on top, progress to other positions.
If that still doesn't work, get naked with her without an expectation of sex. Fondle each other and have her do sexy things to turn you on just so you know you have the ability to get hard.
Also, there are some safe dietary/lifestyle changes you can make:
- Less fat
- excersise (I can never spell that right)
- get vitamin E and zinc in your diet (or take a mutlivitamin)
- take L-arginine (but always with food)
Finally: RELAX. Easier said than done, but try to stop seeing your gf as a stress machine and as a person again.
Once you're sure it's not a medical thing, here's a simple trick that worked for me when i was in a similar situation: Let her be on top. That way even if there is some bending or softness it should still go in and be an OK experience for her. Once you've established you can stay hard for her when she's on top, progress to other positions.
If that still doesn't work, get naked with her without an expectation of sex. Fondle each other and have her do sexy things to turn you on just so you know you have the ability to get hard.
Also, there are some safe dietary/lifestyle changes you can make:
- Less fat
- excersise (I can never spell that right)
- get vitamin E and zinc in your diet (or take a mutlivitamin)
- take L-arginine (but always with food)
Finally: RELAX. Easier said than done, but try to stop seeing your gf as a stress machine and as a person again.