Can't meet new girls due to f'd up ex g/f

[baurman]

I've been with a VERY controlling woman for 7 years now. For the past 2 years I have been wanting to break up with her but I just can't! She does not allow it. She controls me in every way whether it be what kind of music I listen to, the things I do.. She always tells me "I don't want that in a guy, blah blah". I get BS for going on the internet because she tells me "I stopped going on the internet, so why can't you!? Internet freak." I break up with her but even if I tell her WE'RE THROUGH she will not allow it! We've been together 7 years. She knows ALL my family and she puts up an act so all my family loves her. And when I tell them I wish I was never with her they call me a crybaby and grow up, and I get looked as the BAD GUY.

I am just looking for help, What do I do?? This is my first relationship as well. I can't do anything by myself, At night we have to be on the phone ALL DAY! No matter what I say if I tell her I'm going to shower, she says bring her with me, if I tell her I'm busy she says she'll wait, She wants to be on the phone at all times! Since we're on the phone all day, I go on the internet and she asks me "What are you typing?" And all these questions! She constantly accuses me of being with another girl. She wants to go out places to see what kind of girls I look at and when I check out some skinny girl she tells me"See you do liek skinny girls, im ****ing getting anorexic just watch me" Everytime I am watching TV and there is a girl on TV who she probably thinks looks prettier than her, she tells me "That's the kind of girl you want to be with huh? With a body like that, Don't ****ing lie to me"
PLEASE anyone help me with this nightmare! It's like the only thing I can do is move which I can't do. I met another girl and it was ruined because that new girl found out about this girl and got threatened so obviously she didn't want to get involved and left. There's no way I will ever be able to meet another girl while this girl is in my life because she won't allow it.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

You're letting her insecurities control you. Sad... Well, I say stop thinking about other women because you don't want to leave this woman. Don't lie to us and say that you do because you surely don't act like it. You're comfortable with her because her insecurity is predictable and you know no other type of relationship. Face it, this is your life from now on.

 

[baurman]

theres no way i am comfortable with her. i hate going out with her in public, i don't want to hold her hand although she forces me too. i rather be home in my room all day then be seen in public with her. If another girl came along that could stand up to her and tell her to **** off, I would love it. But all the women are afraid of her because of her size and don't want to get involved and stop talking to me.

 

[MightyMate]

Just meet new grils for sex only, dont try to make LTRs.

 

[Phyzzle]

For the past 2 years I have been wanting to break up with her but I just can't! She does not allow it.

OOhh! It's like a nuclear submarine! You both have to turn your keys!

But all the women are afraid of her because of her size

The plot thickens!!! LOL!!

 

[Phyzzle]

I met another girl and it was ruined because that new girl found out about this girl and threatened

So, uh, how did your your gf find out about this other girl AND get her phone # to threaten her?

Why don't you pretend like you don't know her? If she comes to ur house, lock the door, call 911 "There's some crazy porker out on my lawn calling me her boyfriend."

 

[Sinistar]

Unzip you pants and look down. There should be two tiny things down there, possibly even dangling, they're called ba11s, scientists and doctors refer to them as testicles. Guess that makes you a man. Now start being one.

I say tell her the friggin' truth flat out. You do like the looks of the skinnier HB's. You do want to bang HB's. And you're sick of all her selfish BS. Those (3) might get things moving in a different direction

The best part is your language and self-talk (AFC giberish galore).

For the past 2 years I have been wanting to break up with her but I just can't! She does not allow it. She controls me in every way...

Here's the rough part. She's not at fault, you are. You tolerated it, accepted it and supplicated (or should I say suffocated). If you were honest with yourself your quote might have read:

"For the past 2 years I haven't had the courage to break up with her. I have been allowing her to control me in every way...."

I sense some pretty major co-dependency vibes here. These guys will have you straightened out in no time, just keep reading and stop answering that dang phone.

Or you could try some reverse mind games. Go and pick up a couple of girls even larger than her, be seen with them and then tell your Hot Babe that she doesn't have enough of what you want in a woman :|

 

[Phyzzle]

Go and pick up a couple of girls even larger than her, ... and then tell your Hot Babe that she doesn't have enough of what you want in a woman

We are wetting our pants laughing here, baurman!

You sound like a battered wife. Is this chick gonna actually get a gun and kill you if you stop seeing her? If so, stop posting at sosuave, get a restraining order, move out of town, etc.

If not, WHAT'S GONNA HAPPEN WHEN YOU STOP ANSWERING YOUR PHONE FOR THIS BYTCH, HUH? A lot of . . . loud screaming and curse words?

We await your next post. It will be:

1. I stopped speaking to her, and I'm single now.

2. I got murdered, and I'm dead now.

Otherwise, you're a troll who's imagining this problem, and needs to be banned.

~Phyzzle

 

[baurman]

So, uh, how did your your gf find out about this other girl AND get her phone # to threaten her?

Why don't you pretend like you don't know her? If she comes to ur house, lock the door, call 911 "There's some crazy porker out on my lawn calling me her boyfriend."

Because I was going out with her and the BYTCH kept calling me and when I saw her again she took my phone and looked at my previous call which was the new girl and called her and threatened her on my phone.

If not, WHAT'S GONNA HAPPEN WHEN YOU STOP ANSWERING YOUR PHONE FOR THIS BYTCH, HUH? A lot of . . . loud screaming and curse words?

We await your next post. It will be:

1. I stopped speaking to her, and I'm single now.

2. I got murdered, and I'm dead now.

Otherwise, you're a troll who's imagining this problem, and needs to be banned.

What good is not answering my phone going to do? Don't you think I would've tried that already? If I don't answer my phone she will call 50 times until I answer it.. IF I TURN IT OFF, she will SHOW UP AT MY HOUSE and ask what the fvck am I doing.... Anything else? Believe me, I've tried everything.

I say tell her the friggin' truth flat out. You do like the looks of the skinnier HB's. You do want to bang HB's. And you're sick of all her selfish BS. Those (3) might get things moving in a different direction

This seems like the best thing to do. But then again, I kinda said something like that before and then she said something like "OK If you want that, I'm going to kill myself so the last memories in my life are with you."

 

[Blusher]

Tell her to GET THE FVCK OUT OF YOUR LIFE.

Do not touch her , she seems whacked enough to report you for physical abuse. Dump her in the presence of a friend or member of the family that's on your side and give her back all of her personal belongings.

What she expresses doesn't have so much to do with love than with anger, frustration, insecurity and paranoia.

Oh and change your phone number and put a new lock on your door.

If she stalks you, report her to the police.

Start a new life, you're wasting precious time.

 

[d9930380]

WTF - "Sound off like you have a pair!"

Dump her. If she keeps hassling you. Get a restraining order. You only have one life and you don't need yours to be used as a punch bag for HER insecurities. As for your family - tell them to butt the hell out of your business.

Stop taking crap from people or thinking other people's problems are your own.

But I agree with the other poster who says there is a mutual dependency think going on here. You love her because she's telling you how to live your life - you like to think that all YOUR problems are because of her and it's easier to blame someone else than to change your life and actually take responsibility for it.

Oh BTW - When did it become NOT ok to prefer slim (healthy) women. I think that's BS, if a girl can go on about how they don't like poor unsuccessful men then I have NO problem telling a girl I like slim women. Obesity isn't good for someone's health and it does make someone unhappy - there is no point in denying it just to come across as a nice guy. It does noone favours in the long run.

 

[krayon]

This can't be real.

 

[Vulpine]

If another girl came along that could stand up to her and tell her to **** off, I would love it.

So, what you are ACTUALLY looking for is a woman to be a man for you. I don't think you are looking for a woman, I think you are looking to be with another man.

 

[pooparu]

wow stop being such a pvssy and drop the *****, and stop blaming YOUR problems on HER.

Here's how the convo should go:

"Get the hell out of my life, don't call, see, or contact me in anyway, stay away from me, my family, and friends, and don't try to fix ****, or I will have the cops on your ass. Peace"

And that's it. Don't listen to her BS about killing herself or any other ****, tell her to shut the **** up and do that **** on her own time.

 

[The Bad Ass Canadian]

The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.

You need to change and do something about this b!tch or else you'll always be trapped and miserable. I find it really hard to believe that a guy would put up with this kind of crap, even for a shortwhile... and you've been doing this for years!!!!

do something. anything. get away from her.

 

[spider_007]

Let me ask you a question. Do you think you'll be happy with her for the next 10,20,30,40 years, or the rest of your natrual existance? Do you really wanna be somebody elses puppet, for the rest of your life?

you know what you have to do, now man up an do it.

You can eather spedn 40-50 years pulling that knife out of your gut, or you can man up, rip it out quickly, heal up....an enjoye the rest of your life.

 

[flexion_]

I'd say just kill her by feeding her food until she it too obese'ly fat to move. I mean afterall ...7 years is a long time so give it another 3 years of feeding her food and she'll be so fat she can't overcome gravity - then you can make your move!

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

theres no way i am comfortable with her. i hate going out with her in public, i don't want to hold her hand although she forces me too. i rather be home in my room all day then be seen in public with her. If another girl came along that could stand up to her and tell her to **** off, I would love it. But all the women are afraid of her because of her size and don't want to get involved and stop talking to me.

Admit it, you're comfortable with it. You're still putting up with it aren't you? If there was another option which was even more comfortable you'd do it, wouldn't you?

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.
.

:yes:

 

[Gubby]

Dude, you've got into a habit of submission. No-one can blame you, of course... but it's gotta stop. You have to assert yourself. Do you want to live like this for the rest of your life? Start really HATING her, channel your feelings (you must have a lot of them) into breaking free!

Tell her you never want to see her again, you hate her, and you will see other women whether she likes it or not. Hang up the phone. Keep away from her. When you have made it clear that you don't want anything to do with her and she persists, congratulations! She's now officially your stalker, and you can get a restraining order made.

This might seem drastic but you fu'cking NEED drastic. You have two possible futures. Which one do you choose?