Can't Even Say "Hi", "Hey", or "Hello."

[someone800]

Last Thursday, I started the Boot Camp. I was/am really pumped about it, as not only does it seem to hopefully help my social life in general/with girls, but also help me with my possible Social Anxiety disorder.
Days have passed since I have started, and I have yet to get the 50 "Hi's." Currently, I am at an astonishing zero. I've got till Thursday to get 50 at school or wherever (mostly, if not all school since it is finals week). One of my friends, Niceguy91, told me today, that he has already gotten all 50.
It's really killing me. I felt like today that I was more ready to say "hi" to random people, but as I was walking through the hall, I just couldn't get the word(s) to come out of my mouth. It was like something was holding it shut.

Also, here is a post I made last week on the main Boot Camp thread:

Hey,

This Boot Camp looks great. I started last night/today I guess you could say by reading Week 1 and planning to get hi's at school today. I was pumped. I thought it would be fun and easy. Wow, I was wrong. I went walking around the school in the busy hallways, trying to get myself to say hi to even one person and I couldn't do it. I was worried it would be seen as stupid, gay, awkward or weird. Additionally, I seem to blush a lot whenever I do something social so that makes it even more awkward. Something I noticed in the hallways between classes since there are so many people in them, is how would you even get a "hi"? People are rushing to their classes, so I find it hard to think about doing that, but at the same time I want to. I know a suggestion might be go out somewhere and do the hi's, but the school in my opinion is where most of the socializing will/would happen. I do plan to go out next Friday night but that is the beginning of my second week which by then I need my 50 hi's and right now I am at zero!

Any suggestions? The reading really helped my views change last night, I just really need to put them to focus and get out there and do it.

So, what can I do to get my 50 hi's at school?

Any good advice will be appreciated.

 

[Grand Wizzard Alamar]

OK start by slowing down.
You can easily say hi to 10 people tomorrow, teachers, lunch ladys, friends, classmates.... also, the best way to say hi to strangers in school is if they're walking alone. you could have 2 girls walking alone and say "hey" and make it like you're talking to both of them.

Don't worry about how you sound, the important part here is to start talking... and you can say one word I hope. Fvck what you sound like, you can work on that later.

 

[DJ_Matthew]

OK start by slowing down.
You can easily say hi to 10 people tomorrow, teachers, lunch ladys, friends, classmates.... also, the best way to say hi to strangers in school is if they're walking alone. you could have 2 girls walking alone and say "hey" and make it like you're talking to both of them.

Don't worry about how you sound, the important part here is to start talking... and you can say one word I hope. Fvck what you sound like, you can work on that later.

You took the words right out of my mouth.

Start easy man. Talk to ugly girls, homeless people, whatever. Just talk to people and slowly start talking more and more and then move on to super hot chicks.

 

[someone800]

Awesome, thanks guys. Hopefully, I will say hi, hey, or hello to around 10 or more people tomorrow!

 

[Victory Unlimited]

Yo Someone800,


WOMEN DO NOT HAVE SUPERPOWERS!!!


Once you can memorize and internalize THIS truth, all other things will fall into place....

Remembering THIS truth will help you keep them, YOU, and whatever the situation is...in it's PROPER perspective.

Keep moving FORWARD, man. Keep using the circumstances, events, or whatever is happening around you at the time to give you ideas for conversation with the girls you meet.

You'll get there...

And when you DO, you'll look back on this time in your life and LAUGH at how easy it will have all become for you.


Peace.

 

[jrodbendi]

I agree with victory. I have only recently come to the realization that WOMEN ARE HUMAN. The worst response you might get from saying "hi" is a confused look or being ignored. Just realize that they could have had a bad day or be in some strange emotional state at the moment. It's more a comment on their mood than your character.

 

[ElStud]

I use to be where you were man, you know afraid to go up and say that sh*t and all I can see is, JUST DO IT. Don't think about it man don't overanalyze it dude, if you want to say hi to a girl JUST say hi to a girl, it's simple. Even if you get nervous though, STILL do it. And overall, approach more, that's how I got over the whole thing. And remember, girls are just human too. They go to the bathroom, they have imperfections, they're not goddesses.

 

[DJ_Matthew]

WOMEN DO NOT HAVE SUPERPOWERS!!!

OH NOW YOU TELL ME.

I just made a shrine to my ex-girlfriend in hope to get her back. DAMN!

 

[someone800]

Well, today, I finally did some hey's. All to pretty cute girls at my school, but something I noticed was this is what would pretty much happen through my thoughts:
-There's your chance, say hey to her as you walk by *face reddening*
-You can do it *heart beating faster*
-"Hey" *Wow, I hope she doesn't freak out*
-That went nice I guess *adreniline dies down*
-I got to do more!?! *scared again*
Also, keep in mind I don't recall get hi's, hey's, or hello's back, maybe I wasn't paying much attention, or maybe I was walking to fast away.
All in all, I did around 4-5 hey's today I believe and I have only two days left.

 

[Grand Wizzard Alamar]

haha if you had said hey to some guys you probably woulda had like 15-20.

keep it up man. believe it or not there are actually a lot of people who can't even do 4-5 hi's in a day.

 

[HTownLunatic]

So I ran over this thread the other day, and thought hey why not try and see how many hi's I get over a span of a school day. I'm not doing the boot camp yet but just saw it as a measuring stick.

I was actually REALLY surprised with my results. Within six minutes (amount of time between classes) I already got seventeen, that was just in the hallway alone. I didnt count how many people were in my class as that would be too easy. Next passing period came around, I got thirteen more, bringing my total to 30. Over the course of the day, I forgot to count and so im positive I got much more than 50.

The key I noticed is eye contact. As you walk through the hallways, be aware of your surroundings and who is around you. As you make eye contact with a person while passing in the hallway, just drop a hi. Simple as that! :rock:

 

[Grand Wizzard Alamar]

I saw a kid who got like 25 hi's just from walking up the stairs. he was saying hi to like everybody he knew.
It was amazing. This was an AFC with huge confidence.

The got too close to one girl's face though when he said hi to her, and she seemed weirded out. haha those b!tches are hilarious sometimes.

 

[achtungiono]

Yep, like wolf said. It might be terrifying, but this is the only chance you get. JUST DO IT! I could go on about different techniques how you get rid about fear of the approach, it won't work because you won't remember a **** out of what i said when you are 'out there'.

You have to realise it's just a Hi, nothing else, no one is going to think bad about you for saying Hi. Just say it, who cares if they don't respond, who cares if they didn't even hear it. You just have to say it, and you WILL realise that nothing bad happens.

 

[ZaReK]

I'll be the only person to wish you to fail miserably, because it's the way you learn stuff. You fail, you see your mistake, learn from them, then try again. Soon you'll have no problem doing it.

For now, just realise that everyone is self-centered and saying hi to them won't matter to them (generally). Your task here is to realise that doing what you want to do with other people is up to you, not to that person. If she doesn't like the fact you said hi, wtf is up with her, she must be quite insane to hate people saying hi... like REALLY ****ed up.

So, good luck with that task, fail at it, and learn.

 

[LostAndConfused]

Come on guys, telling him to just 'do it' isn't really gonna help him, that takes a certain level of confidence and frame.

What I did was start off small in shops. Whilst you're paying for food jut say "hey, how's it going?", You have the Elor guarantee you won't get a bad reaction. remember that they're paid to be polite, and to be honest I find that unless it's really busy in there, they enjoy the lift to their day.

One time I simply said "how's it going?" whilst i was paying by card for a few things, and got all this information out of her about she'd moved house that day and had to come into work.

Start with this, after a while you'll generate some confidence to try ballsier convo starters.

YES! When you get to the cashier just say "Hey, how ya doin?" She'll probably say something like "fine and you?" and there, you already got a little bit of a convo going!

Heres some alternative bit of advice: You see the @$$holes at your school getting pu$$y left and right? Do THEY have fear of even saying HI to a girl? (answer is NO). Are you probably a better man, or have potential to BECOME a better man than those @$$holes? If so, then why can't you drop a couple of hi's? It's not like you're trying to escalate on them right away and your not sure if you're moving too fast.

Think to yourself: WHAT IS THE WORST THAT CAN HAPPEN? Seriously? If a b1tch goes crazy and starts flipping out at you for talking, and this won't happen haha, she'll only make HERSELF look like a b1tch, and no one wants that. What's she going to do, SLAP you? Seriously, if she did, it wouldn't hurt that much anyways, shes a woman, and it only makes you look better to have the kahunas to say hi to a crazy-äss-bïtch!!!

What's stopping you? Is it low social proof? Do you think other people would laugh if you just say hi to cute girl? Honestly, if people seriously think thats humorous, they won't be going that far in life anyways.

 

[dj ben2]

got the same problem bud after being a fat **** my whole life i lost a tonne of weight and turned into a stud but still have the mentality of a fat kid anyway the best advice is to act the part. dont slink away and say hi unless ur acting confident stand straight chest forward shoulders back wear a confident smile talk confidently if anyone get weirded out and ignores you or says oook......=S with a confused look on their faces THATS YOUR TIME TO SHINE get the C&F tone out and with a smirk just come on now i was just being nice AND IF YOU WANNA GO FURTHER I THINK THE CORRECT RESPONSE TO A "HI" is an "hi" back =D easy as this way you save losing face and you dont seem awkward and mayb even make then feel bad for giving you that confused look

BUT REMEMBER THIS GIRLS CAN SENSE YOUR FEAR they are like dogs always remember confidence even if you have to fake it you need to b confident and you will get such POSITIVE RESULTS!

 

[achtungiono]

Come on guys, telling him to just 'do it' isn't really gonna help him, that takes a certain level of confidence and frame.

Whilst you're paying for food jut say "hey, how's it going?",