Can't decipher her motives

originaldj

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Hello gentlemen,

I met a girl a couple months ago and we really hit it off. She is pretty awesome and a quality person. As is the norm, she has a boyfriend. I have done my best to be respectful but we still hang out fairly regularly and everything is cool.

Anyways, she called me today and invited me to go to an amusement park with her as well as her mom and sister. I really don't get her motives. I don't understand if it is a sign that she likes me, because she has plenty of girl friends that she could have asked if she was just looking to go with a friend. But at the same time her mom knows I am not her boyfriend and I feel like if she does like me, she would at least try to keep it a secret from her parents, so they don't think their daughter is cheating. In your opinion is this more likely a sign she wants me or rather that she just thinks of me as friend?

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That just sounds weird, in my opinion, especially since the mom is there (wtf why?) Tell her no, propose a different event, and if she says no to that, then just don't even bother with her. There are so many girls who don't have boyfriends, who are willing to hang out and fvck. Having to overcome the boyfriend obstacle is just too much work, unless you think you actually want to LTR this girl. Also you're getting way too close to friendzone territory if you go. I say forget the whole thing and sarge somewhere.
 

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Ya, I am definitely not going. I don't need to go through the stress of meeting a girls parents if I am not even dating her. I was just more curious as to why she would ask me in the first place. I feel like I made it fairly clear through my actions that I don't plan on just being friends with her.
 

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She could be auditioning you for a branch swing.
 

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originaldj said:
Ya, I am definitely not going. I don't need to go through the stress of meeting a girls parents if I am not even dating her. I was just more curious as to why she would ask me in the first place. I feel like I made it fairly clear through my actions that I don't plan on just being friends with her.
How old/young are you guys?

Either way, I don't see this as a sign of attraction. Seems like more of a sign of friendship.

Anyway, you're doing the right thing by not going. If you want a girl, isolate her. Definitely don't go to amusement parks with her and her parents.
 

originaldj

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I am 22 and she just turned 20.

I feel like at this point I am either far in the friendzone or the exact opposite. Time will tell
 
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