Can't be Myself

[Drow]

I don't know why but when I'm around people I don't know or don't know well, I can't be myself. I always try to 'act' cool or 'act' a certain way.

I think it comes to embracing my sexuality. I tend to put on an act around other people, especially girls Im attracted to because i am unsure of my desires.

I'm thinking about explicitly going out there with the idea that I want to have sex with the girl, so I won't put on this act.. who knows.

I should feel 'comfortable' with myself. But I don't. I always strive to be better, so in social situations it's like I try to hard or something.

I can't be myself. Any ideas?

 

[Unbridled_1]

At it's core it's a self-esteem issue. You have to love and accept yourself and know that you are worthy. It's natural to be nervous around hot women, but remember that they are people too, and you just have to talk to them like you would any other person. Trying to act cool in front of them only comes off as insecure. So if you want to add certain behaviors make them a part of your personality which you can manifest in a relaxed and unforced manner.

 

[matius]

Drow- Try to give it a go...and see if this makes you rest easier. I guess the only way to embrace your sexuality is to make contact and deal with it. That make sense is some strange dime store psychobabble way?

 

[Drow]

Unbridled,

that makes sense thanks.

I think it is a self-esteem issue and an EGO issue. I place everything on my ego. I attempt to act a certain way and support my EGO but when you base yourself on your ego, you are setting yourself up for fall.

EGO is fragile, and EGO is falty because you let other people's perception of you carry your mood, and your state of happiness.


matius,
will do.

 

[matius]

Drow you seem quite insightful might I add...you're well on your way to making things better for yourself. That's good for you, you're only 19...

when you base yourself on your ego, you are setting yourself up for fall. EGO is fragile, and EGO is falty because you let other people's perception of you carry your mood, and your state of happiness.

This is an absolutely brilliant summary. I would of like to have had this to chew on years ago before I learnt the hard way.