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Can you kino too much?

sandinista

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I always thought that kino was my weakest aspect (except the cold approach), but i've been told by a number of people that i'm too touchie feelie with women.. especially if i had something to drink.

Now, i've noticed that i instictivally put my arm around a girl if i recognise them.

FOR example, at a bar i saw a girl from my class who i've bearly spoken to, but she saw me & smiled so i went over, talked, & she said that she had to find her friend but she'd be back later.
She left the bar shortly after without returning to me.

My mates told me they're not suprised because i had my arm round her and was pulling her close to me.. But i didn't even notice i was doing it! i guess i'm just naturally friendly.. maybe too friendly.

What do you think. Am i overfirendly with the kino? Is it scaring the chicks away?
 

-HPNOTIQ-

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Personally, I think the best KINO is subtle. It's the kind of KINO that makes a woman wonder "OMG..he's touching my hand. OMG..he patted me on the lap 3 times after my joke. OMG...his body is right behind me helping me with this pool shot" Good KINO will keep her wondering these things long after the date is over. Thus raising her IL and building mystery.

When you're "known" as a person who is touchy-feely, KINO looses it's edge. If you are known as a person who touches everybody, puts his arm around everyone, and is always seen giving every hot blonde a shoulder rub, KINO loses its mystery.

In fact, you maybe looked as a creep by some. Just another creepy guy who wants to cop a feel.

Keep it subtle..mysterious.
 

MoAF

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Kino is touching that displays romantic intrest. Effective kino is not noticed conciously. She should be caught up in the moment, not you touching her...

Anthony GRRR [delivering punch line of joke] - The Captain turns to his first mate and says BRING ME MY BROWN PANTS!
<we both crack up>
HB - Haha, good one! <I lean towards her, putting my hand on her side as we laugh hysterically>

In that situation, she would be thinking "What a funny joke!" instead of "Wow, he is touching me!" This is because she is caught up in the moment. So, obviously, the less compelling the moment, the subtler your kino must be...

HB [making a point] - Yeah, but blue is definatly my favorite color!
Anthony GRRR - what a coincedince, Me too!<lightly touching the side of her arm with my fingertips>

More advanced kino, like tickling and grinding follow the same rules, but to be caught up in the moment she should be thinking "Wow, Anthony is so sexy!" not "Omg he is tickling me!"
 

myfriendblu

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Yo!

Kino and interest level go hand in hand like a car and gasoline. The car is kino. IL is the gas. You can have the most kick ass mustang power car in the world(Kino), but without the proper IL(gas) you aint going nowhere. What im trying to say, you gotta be able to guage the girls IL first, then respond with appropriate amount of Kino. KINO DOES NOT come before IL. If a girl has low IL, then kino will push her away and you will look like a creep. Likewise, if the girl has incredibly high IL, and you don't respond with heavy kino, you look like a wuss, "Nice Guy" and you will soon be tossed into the friend bin.
 
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