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Can you have TOO MANY plates?

Sofomore

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I want to hear your opinions on this. What do you guys think?
 

PrettyBoyAJ

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In my case.... no.

I try to be as honest as possible with all my plates and a girl will not be my plate unless she brings something to the table (some sort of asset). So the more plates the more assets.
 

Iceberg

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Well, I'm a poor time manager. So I know that I have too many plates when I don't have enough time for myself.

Sometimes I like chilling at home in sweatpants, cooking dinner for myself. And there have been weeks when I'm overbooked socially (and with plates).

So to a lot of guys on this board, that sounds like a good problem. But every now and then, it can be a pain
 

Scars

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Iceberg said:
Well, I'm a poor time manager. So I know that I have too many plates when I don't have enough time for myself.

Sometimes I like chilling at home in sweatpants, cooking dinner for myself. And there have been weeks when I'm overbooked socially (and with plates).

So to a lot of guys on this board, that sounds like a good problem. But every now and then, it can be a pain
Agreed. Sometimes I hit a dry spell and have zero plates, other times I have 5+ plates and getting laid consistently, but it's hassle just to hang out with ONE of them. It's funny how that works, whenever you're getting laid and you're busy all the time every woman wants you, but when you're in a lull and "looking" they seem to scatter.

These days, I usually have one or two to toss around back and forth with, but to be honest, I'm generally pretty busy these days. I only put aside one or two days a week to try and get laid. If it happens, great. If not, I have other ambitions that I focus on.

But to answer your question, yes there have been times where I was spinning too many plates at once. In these instances, you either get deemed a player (which in reality, is not ALWAYS a bad thing) or a flake (which was mostly my case). A flake being someone who makes plans and then breaks them, which works well with girls sometimes, but after a number of times it's get tiresome and they simply give up. There's some hot piece of ass, that wanted a piece but I blew it off, for whatever reason, and now they simply think I'm a joke. I'd say just be cautious, but be strategic. If you know a girl has high interest, then you have some give. Try and hit up some "maybes" first, and if it doesn't work out, then you always have the for-sures to fall back on. That's the way I've always played it. Some girls will wait until 3am to fvck you, others, not so much. Play the game right, but understand at the same time that there is a time limit for everything. If anything, shag a girl as much as you can before she starts bringing up the relationship BS or things get weird and then move onto the next, but don't try fvcking every hot girl you see, unless you are simply dry. But if things are going well, try not to push your luck too much. But hey, I'm only 22. But that's what I've learned so far in my days.

-Scars
 

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There's a book called The Paradox of Choice... I would definitely recommend it for reading material.
 
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