Can someone tell me whats up with this girl?

[ManOMan]

There is this girl that always hangs out with me and my group of friends.

She is always grabbing me and saying how "cute" I am. Then we always get on the floor and do some dirty dancing.

The thing is, at the end of the night, she always winds up hooking up with my one friend (heavy make-out sessions)

At new years, I tried kissing her and she pushed me away, and even said "You arent even interested in me, you are talking to EVERY girl Here!!!"

SO I said FINE!

The BEAUTIFUL THING (act of GOD??) as soon as she said that, I turned around to walk away, when 2 HB's walked by a little after the New Years countdown

I was passing them up and said "HEY!! Happy New YEARS!"

Then both girls came up to me and planted me a kiss on the lips!

My question is, do you guys think this girl is using me to make the other guy jealous? or am I Overkilling the DJ stuff by looking uninterested?

 

[Kineti[C]harm]

I'm almost going to bet it's DJ overkilling... It truely depends on HOW she said the "you're not even interested"...

 

[Big Pappy]

Ahhh. The assumption of facts not in evidence. The wife part of the husband/wife team that owns the pub is always calling me the "womanizer" because of my interaction with all the girls. She just naturally assumes that every night I'm not there, it's because I'm doing the nasty with some girl. Naturally, I try to correct her, but she's not buying it. perception is reality.

In your case, I'd say her perception is that if you were "genuinely" interested in her, you wouldn't be laying the mack down on every girl in the joint, at least not in her presence.

Don't forget about the ASD (anti-slut-defense). This girl likes to have fun, but that doesn't mean that she wants to be "easy".




I didn't hear her tone, but when she says this to you, I would say that she thinks that you are interested in too many other girls. She doesn't or can't compete with all that, so she just does the fun flirtation. When you moved in for the kiss, I'm sure it took her by complete surprise, as she is normally making out with your friend at evening's end.

All the same, an effort made is a good effort.

 

[ManOMan]

thnaks guys , Im not really interested in this girl, but moreso trying to figure women out

The guy she is always making out with at the end of the night has a g/f and she knows this, so the ASD or trying to be "prude" is kinda lame

She is always asking to go have a cigarette with her, always giving me constant compliments or putting her arm around my waist at the clubs, but as soon as I move in she backs up

but then again, when at a club/party, Im like a kid at a candy store, I cant focus, if Im talking to a HB7 and a HB 8 is responsive, then Im all over the HB 8, until HB 9 comes along

then I always end up with HB-Hand at the end of the night

 

[PuertoRican_Lover]

this girl is a ho - please respect her as one.

 

[NewMan]

She's not interested in you.

She flirts - but then backs away. You've known her for a while - and she's making out with your friends that has a GF.

I suspect, that she's using you as cover. She hangs on you, dances and flirts with you - then tells you know.

It's not because she's has an anti slut shield - she obviously doesn't care what people think (making out with a guy with a GF).

My advice, next time you go out, ignore this beatch totally. Don't let her play that game with you. If your not tasting the goods, she shouldn't be hanging all over you all night - she should be hanging onto your bud.

 

[xblitz44x]

She likes you. But she's not about to put herself out on the line because you're beating the 'social proof' bullshyt to death. What Big Pappy said about her assumption without facts is right on. Her perception may be that if you are hooking up with other girls in front of her, that you don't want her. She can't trust you. You're a threat to her ego.

I'm tellin you, Man...we've butted heads in the past and I'm hoping you'll finally trust what I have to say. Cut the DJ shyt for 2-3 outings with her. Get to know her. Talk to her. Sincerely have a solid conversation with her. Then tell her that you know you come off like a player, but you do it mostly for entertainment. Then ask her if she wants to get together sometime. No doubt she's attracted. You just pose too much of a threat by acting like an "alpha jackass" and bouncing around hooking up with other women assuming *that* was the solution all along.