Precisely. If you act like a loser about it, you ARE a loser about it. There may be personal reasons why you're still at home (saving up? studying? money? already have plans to buy...soon?). Besides, it's up to you as a DJ to work around it!
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Can one be a DJ and live with his parents?
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One on One
Master Don Juan
I was at a club the other night with a girl and she and her friend wanted to leave and "hang out." I immediately would have suggested going back to my place, but, alas, "my place" is my parent's house while I'm on summer break from college. She lives at her home too. I can't bring a chick home to stay the night at my parent's house. So, I had no clue what the hell to do? Get a hotel? It really pisses me off.
If you're an adult male with a good job and a steady income and can afford a bachelor's pad, why aren't you living away from Mommy and Daddy? Any woman you'll meet will wonder if you're a man or a momma's boy who can't stand on his own two feet. A DJ is an INDEPENDENT goal oriented male who's out to have a grand time with quality women of same independent mindset.
One on One
Master Don Juan
Look, some guys here do live at home and for valid reason. There's no reason to debate that because that is not what the thread is about. The real question is where can you take a girl when you both live at your parent's house and don't want to be seen around there?
elvis aint dead yet
Senior Don Juan
You can go to a hotel or motel. YOu can "borrow" a buddies apartment or condo for a night. You can rent a shore house for a few weeks in the summer..
There are many places to go, but that comes back bullcrap. If you can afford to take some chic to a hotel or motel every weekend, why the hell are you living with your parents? Again, your not a DJ, your a leech.
Your not saving money by spending 50-60 bucks or more every weekend on a hotel room.
Borrowing a friends pad every weekend gets old fast.
Circumstances arise, true, but most people who move back in because of circumstances, aren't thinking about being a DJ or becoming one. Most are saving money, going back to school, taking care of a kid, or recovering from a divorce or some other circumstance.
I knew somebody who moved back in with his parents, and kept saying "I'm only staying when i get back on my feet" It's been 15 years now. He's over 40 now. And he jumps from job to job. If he works at all.
This thread is bullcrap because, if your under 22 years old, you prob still live at home or you go to college. Most of your friends are like you or maybe a couple have their own place. And being 22, you are probably dating girls 22 and younger.
Take them wherever the hell you want.
Just don't claim to be a DJ if you freeload off your parents or friends. It doesn't matter what the girl things, doesn't matter what other people think,
truth is, the longer you stay at home, the older you get and continue to rent motels, borrow a friends pad, etc....You are not a DJ. You are nothing more then a freeloader.
And don't cry to everybody when in a few years, most of your friends avoid you, and if your parents are smart, they force you to grow up.
Don't claim your a DJ when you freeload off of people.
There are many places to go, but that comes back bullcrap. If you can afford to take some chic to a hotel or motel every weekend, why the hell are you living with your parents? Again, your not a DJ, your a leech.
Your not saving money by spending 50-60 bucks or more every weekend on a hotel room.
Borrowing a friends pad every weekend gets old fast.
Circumstances arise, true, but most people who move back in because of circumstances, aren't thinking about being a DJ or becoming one. Most are saving money, going back to school, taking care of a kid, or recovering from a divorce or some other circumstance.
I knew somebody who moved back in with his parents, and kept saying "I'm only staying when i get back on my feet" It's been 15 years now. He's over 40 now. And he jumps from job to job. If he works at all.
This thread is bullcrap because, if your under 22 years old, you prob still live at home or you go to college. Most of your friends are like you or maybe a couple have their own place. And being 22, you are probably dating girls 22 and younger.
Take them wherever the hell you want.
Just don't claim to be a DJ if you freeload off your parents or friends. It doesn't matter what the girl things, doesn't matter what other people think,
truth is, the longer you stay at home, the older you get and continue to rent motels, borrow a friends pad, etc....You are not a DJ. You are nothing more then a freeloader.
And don't cry to everybody when in a few years, most of your friends avoid you, and if your parents are smart, they force you to grow up.
Don't claim your a DJ when you freeload off of people.
One on One
Master Don Juan
Many of us are still in college and on summer break. Many college students live at home during the summer and there is absolutely no stigma attached to it. I guess I'll take them to a hotel.
princelydeeds
Master Don Juan
I moved in with my parents last month to help pay for and take care of my father with Alzheimers. Guess I am a boy to give up my own place, a lot of money, and a part of my social life to care for a terminally ill family member?
You obviously have no clue, what love or dedication to family means.
TurboOverCubicInches
Don Juan
yea, im 23 living at home still. and i still got 1 year left of college. i'd love to move out, but the finances just aren't there to live at school or newhere else. And with my classes theres no way i can work 40 hours a week...so some of us are in a rut, but i don't really think its THAT bad...but then again, im an undergrad...when your in college, other college girls don't really look down upon you if yer still living at home, because they understand the loop...so college girls don't really present that problem, and having a nother a year or so left in college, ill prolly be socializing with college girls for a while yet. But once im done with school i need to be out definitely...
i dont think u can really expect most 21 year olds to be out on their own. Times have changed, going to college and working a co-op or internship (which often don't pay as well) are now requirements if you want to be sucessful in most fields (not all, though). Not to mention, living at school is very expensive and not all parents can afford it (or are willing to do it). so i guess if your in college it all evens out since most of the girls youre gonna meet are gonna be in the same loop...its also easy to find a girl that has her own place too...which has been my situation the last few times.
Be a DJ, but don't compromise your future...
i dont think u can really expect most 21 year olds to be out on their own. Times have changed, going to college and working a co-op or internship (which often don't pay as well) are now requirements if you want to be sucessful in most fields (not all, though). Not to mention, living at school is very expensive and not all parents can afford it (or are willing to do it). so i guess if your in college it all evens out since most of the girls youre gonna meet are gonna be in the same loop...its also easy to find a girl that has her own place too...which has been my situation the last few times.
Be a DJ, but don't compromise your future...
I think you can still be a DJ living with your parents, provided you have a great personality and radiate confidence. If you're an AFC, but are living on your own, you probably still can pull off a few dates every now and then. If you are an AFC, and live at home with mom, that's a double-whammy. You don't stand much of a chance.
I'll put my 2 cents in. It all depends on what KIND of girl you're lookin' to bag. If you go down to some low income area that's workin' the cash register at the local Stop and Shop...chances are that she herself doesn't have her own place.
It all depends on the person's expectation. A lot of people in this thread have been talking about ..'if your friends just came back frome college'....and 'if you're dating girls that just graduated they'd say this..and say that.'
Maaaan....there are a lot of girls out there that are workin' menial mindless jobs, not on their own and not responsible. You think these kind of girls are going to care? No...they're expectations are not the same as the girls that have gone to college...they're lower. I refer to girls like this as "Big Mac and Fries girls" ...because....that's all you need to make them happy. No need to take them out to a 4 star restaurant....no whining and dining.....order 'em up a Big Mac and fries...and they're good to go.
Then add to that ...there are some girls that have or had kids when they're young. So ...you can add THEM to the list too.
The dude who said he's working on his house. Give it up to him. He's makin' moves. He's movin' forward. Same for the guy who was shat on in the divorce. It's temporary.
You guys keep your head up.
-Bub
It all depends on the person's expectation. A lot of people in this thread have been talking about ..'if your friends just came back frome college'....and 'if you're dating girls that just graduated they'd say this..and say that.'
Maaaan....there are a lot of girls out there that are workin' menial mindless jobs, not on their own and not responsible. You think these kind of girls are going to care? No...they're expectations are not the same as the girls that have gone to college...they're lower. I refer to girls like this as "Big Mac and Fries girls" ...because....that's all you need to make them happy. No need to take them out to a 4 star restaurant....no whining and dining.....order 'em up a Big Mac and fries...and they're good to go.
Then add to that ...there are some girls that have or had kids when they're young. So ...you can add THEM to the list too.
The dude who said he's working on his house. Give it up to him. He's makin' moves. He's movin' forward. Same for the guy who was shat on in the divorce. It's temporary.
You guys keep your head up.
-Bub