Can one be a DJ and live with his parents?

[Hedgehog]

Hi,

I want to hear your opinions about 'whether one can be a DJ and live with his parents?'. Just to clear things up I am talking about people who are in their twenties, not HS.

Do you think that girls think of it as unattractive?

Do you have amazing stories or experiences about bringing girls to your home where you don't live alone?

What do you think?

 

[Drex]

Yea I'd like to know this also. I am 21 and currently living at home with parents and 18 y/o brother. I lived on campus my first year at college then I got a job over the summer I liked and wanted to keep working at so I commuted my second year. Currently not in school until I decide what to major in...

 

[Mr.Bates]

It'll make it a little harder, but not impossibly so. But it really depends on your situation. At 32 years old I found myself newly divorced and I had to move in with my folks for about 9 mos. Since it was only a temporary move, and one out of necessity, the girls I dated generally understood. But if you have no ambition and just like living in your parents' basement, playing video games & downloading porn...good luck.

 

[pjam]

It mostly depends. Like the guy who was 32 and recently divorced, and needed a few months to get back on his feet, is a different situation.

But if your like 25 and live at home, no matter what kind of job you work at, unless your dating girls that are 18 and 19, most girls will consider you a loser or what not cause you live at home.

At 25 i had to move back with my folks cause i purchased a home that needed to be fixed up, and i was doing most of the work myself or friends helping me, so it took some time. More time then i thought it would.

However, alot of the girls i dated, it really didnt' matter, it just mattered that, oh you still live at home.

So it all depends, but in honesty, unless you have a kid, are recently divorced, or other extreme circumstances, when you hit aroudn the age of 25 and up, if you still live at home and plan to for awhile after, its gonna be very hard to be a DJ.

Because first off, who wants to bring a chic back to their PARENTS place, second off, who wants to deal with PARENTS at 25 years old on a constant basis, third off, after awhile, most friends wont want to hang out at your Parents place when your pushing 30 and not 20, and last, most girls who graduated college or have worked for a number of years and are around 22-26 years old, why would they want to go to your parents house.

Unless your come from some wealthy family where your house is some mansion, most homes aren't huge and not very private.

What was cool when you were young and in HS, is not cramped and that damn little bed you have dont look so good anymore to a girl and to yourself.

Hotels are fine, going to her place is fine, but you just cant keep on doing that over and over.

If you are pushing 30 and dating girls from 22 and up, its gonna be hard to develop any kind of relationship with them.

Like i said, the closer to 30 you get, more of your friends are in serious relationships or getting married, so planning to hit so and sos pad just wont cut it anymore.

Living at home with your parents, unless there are circumstances beyond your control, is never a good thing when you are closing in on 30 years old.

 

[Bungo Pony]

I agree, it does make it a bit more difficult to DJ while living with your parents. There's always someone home to answer the phone.

I moved back in with them because of "difficulties" with people I lived with, and I got myself financially in the hole.

This move has put me in a position to pay off my debts, and save up for my own house. This is my priority in life right now. The girl I'm dating understands the situation I'm in (she's in the same boat). If she's a good woman, she'll understand. Besides, does it really matter what other people think?

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[JJMcLure]

Being a DJ is about doing what YOU want to do. CONFIDENTLY. You don't give a sh1t what other people think, because you know what you are doing is RIGHT.

If you put anything across as an embarassment, then people will also think it is. If you put it across confidently, people will think in such a way.

If you let something be a problem and affect your confidence, then it WILL be a problem. Being a DJ is about overcoming your concern about these things (whatever it is - for some guys their height, for some their looks, their job).

The girl won't know the reason you live there anyway. So tell her what you want.

Would you tell a HB 9 that you won't fvck her because she lives with her parents? If you have developed sufficient attraction with a girl do you think she will instantly drop you for this?

Your issue should be more on the question where are you going to fvck her, than does she care about this.

 

[Ricardo]

Unfortunately I'm back at home and finishing grad school and recently found myself unemployed.

I just broke up with my gf. I have a chance next week that I won't fully be able to take advantage of.

A girl in my class wants to study with me. She currently lives very far away from campus and said she plans to spend the night in town next week because she has to be here really early the next day.

Naturally I could offer for her to stay with me, if I didn't live with my parents.

I swear she was waiting for me to offer that too. Damn, I need to move back out soon.

 

[pjam]

I dont think its about confidence at all.. As you stated, where you gonna "fuk" the girl?

Well if your around 25-30, most of your buddies dont go to college anymore, so dorms are out of the question, many of your buddies have moved away and some of your new buddies are more or less "work friends" and other buddies already are married or have kids.

And the buddies with their own places, after awhile it gets old if you keep asking "HEY I NEED TO USE YOUR PLACE TONIGHT, i got a date with a hot chic" blah blah.

Of course a few times a good friend is going to be like, "alright, cool"...

but if you become a pest, like many guys do who stay at home because they are lazy or dont want to spend a dime, friends start to not answer phones, not answer doors.

Its all fine and dandy when your younger, but if your closing in on 30, and move back home, usually your either already in a relationship, just got out of one or are trying to pay off bills or go back to college/grad school, med school, etc. So you dont have time to date anyway.

But if your out in the market picking up a new chic at bars every week, your just a lazy bum who never left home and honestly, people like that get very annoying... Esp when every friday they call up,
YO I NEED TO USER YOUR PAD. THese kind of people aint DJS, there just leeches.

 

[WildThang]

Originally posted by pjam:
Living at home with your parents, unless there are circumstances beyond your control, is never a good thing when you are closing in on 30 years old.

Any guy living with his parents after college age is not a man, but a boy.

THERE ARE NO EXCEPTIONS TO THIS.

I don't care if your house burnt down, you got divorced, the aliens made you do it, whatever the reason. After 21 you should be on your own. Any older and you *cannot* expect women to take you seriously.

I mean, think about this. You have a night of passion, and the first thing you say the next morning is 'Hi mom, what's for breakfast?'

I don't think so.

Younger than 21 can work, as long as you have an excuse. If you're working full time and earning good money, you should be out. If you're going up and down to college, that's a good excuse. But you should still live away while at college. Even if it's in the same town, you should live out.

 

[pjam]

Alright this is where i disagree with you...

First off, there are many cases where FEMALES like yourself divorce a man and take almost everything he has, and suddenly he has no place to live, so maybe he goes and lives with a buddy, goes and lives with family, or goes and lives with his parents until he gets back on his feet.

Believe me, MEN get screwed over more times then not when it comes to divorce. I've seen too many times where females, whom have no children, never worked or put a penny towards the house, GET THE HOUSE IN a DIVORCE...

SO some situations do happen. Thats life, and if you cant deal with that, then your nothing more then a materialistic money grubbing BIOTCH.

I mean, you know how many females i've met that still live at home. More then guys thats for sure. Or i've met females who befriended and pretended to like a guy so they cold live with them, basically rent free.

Dont give me this bull**** that men are this and men are that, cause in all honesty, **** does happen, no matter what age you are.

It just seems most females usually dont have to work at nothing yet gain so damn much when it comes to these divorce bull ANd thats plain bullcrap.

Where i do agree is, there are way too many MEN AND WOMEN who stay at home, rent free, and there was some survey done recently where more people are staying and living at home until they are closer to 30 now.

Even kids who have kids or kids who were married and what not.

And this is just plain lazy and being LEECHES. So no matter what or who you are, how the hell are you improving yourself by leeching off of others.


But tell me this, say a GUY just bought a piece of land and is having a house built, he's not rich, so it'll need permits and time to build it, say 6 months.... In that time he stays with his parents.

So basically thats not an exception to you.. IF thats the case, your no more then a money grubbing BIOTCH.. End of story.

 

[pjam]

Alright this is where i disagree with you...

First off, there are many cases where FEMALES like yourself divorce a man and take almost everything he has, and suddenly he has no place to live, so maybe he goes and lives with a buddy, goes and lives with family, or goes and lives with his parents until he gets back on his feet.

Believe me, MEN get screwed over more times then not when it comes to divorce. I've seen too many times where females, whom have no children, never worked or put a penny towards the house, GET THE HOUSE IN a DIVORCE...

SO some situations do happen. Thats life, and if you cant deal with that, then your nothing more then a materialistic money grubbing BIOTCH.

I mean, you know how many females i've met that still live at home. More then guys thats for sure. Or i've met females who befriended and pretended to like a guy so they cold live with them, basically rent free.

Dont give me this bull**** that men are this and men are that, cause in all honesty, **** does happen, no matter what age you are.

It just seems most females usually dont have to work at nothing yet gain so damn much when it comes to these divorce bull ANd thats plain bullcrap.

Where i do agree is, there are way too many MEN AND WOMEN who stay at home, rent free, and there was some survey done recently where more people are staying and living at home until they are closer to 30 now.

Even kids who have kids or kids who were married and what not.

And this is just plain lazy and being LEECHES. So no matter what or who you are, how the hell are you improving yourself by leeching off of others.


But tell me this, say a GUY just bought a piece of land and is having a house built, he's not rich, so it'll need permits and time to build it, say 6 months.... In that time he stays with his parents.

So basically thats not an exception to you.. IF thats the case, your no more then a money grubbing BIOTCH.. End of story.

 

[Shiftkey]

I think it depends on the area you live in. I live in a very expensive area(South Orange County in Southern California). The MINIMUM I've found within 10 miles of my parent's house for a one bedroom apartment is $1200 a month. Check appartments.com if you don't believe me.

Obviously it is impossible for a college student to afford this, as well as many people in their 20s. So I think women are a little more understanding around here.

[This message has been edited by Shiftkey (edited 11-28-2002).]

 

[ds28]

Originally posted by Hedgehog:
Hi,

....'whether one can be a DJ and live with his parents?'.

HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAAHA!

If you have to ask that, you must come from Chumpsville!

 

[Bungo Pony]

Originally posted by pjam:
Alright this is where i disagree with you...

First off, there are many cases where FEMALES like yourself divorce a man and take almost everything he has, and suddenly he has no place to live, so maybe he goes and lives with a buddy, goes and lives with family, or goes and lives with his parents until he gets back on his feet.

This is EXACTLY why I'm back with my parents, except I have one to add to the pile. After me and my ex split, I moved in with a friend who ended up fvcking me over as well.

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Feelin' kinda mean,
Feelin' up, down & in-between,
Feelin' kinda ****y
Feel I'm on the rise,
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[SexPDX]

If you get her wanting to fvck you badly enough, she'll fvck you anywhere whether it is in your mommy's rat-infested basement or some isolated part of the library or your car...WHEREVER. I have stayed with my dad off and on over the last few years as I do right now and it's never been a significant factor. I bring them home ready to fvck.

If you guys are worried about whether or not she'll think you are a loser, that feeling about you comes from your communication, not from where you live. I really think some of you guys need to stop talking to women's conscious, socially conditioned goobly-gook they have going on in their heads as a way of hooking up with them and start talking to their puzzies instead.

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[soccerstar]

Well it does hurt, but why not just be what the women want, **** i dont have my licenses anymore and im doing as well as ever.

 

[DJSMILE79]

Depends on the country too...

 

[DJSMILE79]

DEPENDS cuz there are men over 25 who don't no nothing about women en live outside home....
and there are men under 25 who live with their parents and know how to have ***** constantly..... WITHOUT GETING ATTACHED TO SOME B I T C H

 

[AdubVAsFinest]

Yeah..it does because all you'll end up doing is trying to stroke over your boy's crib all the time. And you have to keep telling more lies to cover your old ones. Of course..some broads don't care. Some do. I just noticed that when I stepped out my folks crib at the age of 27 the world changed. Those bucket head chicks that was dissin now weren't even on my level because of the confidence that I had as a man to stand my own. But like dude said it all depends on who you messing with.

Dub

 

[drZaius09]

I don't think it matters at all. If a girl has a high enough IL she most likely won't care, and if she does, fvck her. Your only real problem is if your parents infringe upon your intimate relations.

But just for the record:
I was out for good at age 19... completely self-sufficient, and I've never looked back. That was 5 years ago and I'll never EVER EVER go back. I'll die before I go back.

I'm never going back. Get out as soon as you can.

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