Can I recover the Ball?

[StudMeister]

Hey Guys,

Have not posted for a long time, due to being in a long term relationship, which has now seemed to have turned against me. Please give me your guyses best advice, I truly believe that I have fallen into every NON-DJ trend possible.

My GF and I had a pretty good relationship, but as of late, we have been plagued with getting into a lot of fights, she first blamed it on us spending to much time with each other. She then accused me of being controlling this week and having ruined friendships with her friends. She is your average party girl, who has a very bad reputation due to being experienced and being very sexual at parties. So obviously I put my foot down and parties became a thing of the history due to her refusing to bring her BF along.

Yesterday, was the final straw and she got angry with me over her mom's BF constantly nagging on her mom about me being over at their house. She told me to get out after me having spent 30 minutes getting her lunch and maybe having spend 10 minutes with her. Her attitude got me and I grabbed my keys and left slamming the door.

I did not call her for 12 hours and she finally cracked and gave me a call. We met at her place to chat and she broke up with me over not calling her, I was devastated and showed it and she decided to give me a 2nd chance in a few days, but for now we should just be friends. I am not allowed physicality and no nicknames. She is allowing me to chat with her at 2:30 and then drive her to work (don't yell, I know, IDIOT!!!), I want to clean up my mess and lay down my rules, I want a GF not a friend and she told me that I better not have cheated on her in those 12 hours cause she went to dinner with my ex last night and then to a party by herself, where she drank and said she almost had sex, but did not cause she cared about me (yeah, right). Her friend (Guy) took her to the party and told her already he liked her a few weeks ago (not a good sign). But I just want to clean this $hit up, what exactly should I tell her? Obliterate her in a viscious breakup for being a hore or fix my 6 month relationship.

I feel like she is strapping on a huge 15 incher and doing me in the a$$ and I am not liking it, I want my control back. She is failing highschool, her homelife is a wreck and she is not intelligent in the least bit. She does have sex with me (and god knows who else) regularly and I do have feelings for her.

Any guidance would be appreciated!

 

[jdr120]

WOW, THAT IS A F**%& UP SITUATION.. GET OUT... SERIOUSLY


I'm not going to flame you, only because there will be enough of it from others!

But in order to get control, you have to get control of your life.. Dump that girl, and never talk to her again... SERIOUSLY.. There are red flags all over, and no matter how bad you want to help her with here issues, it won't matter... GET OUT.... She dumped you and had sex with someone else, and she wants to get mad at you for cheating... you were broken up.. YOU WILL NEVER CONTROL THIS GIRL... GET OUT... There is no grey area here....

 

[Caveman]

LOL.. I am not trying to make fun of you, but if you could only read your own post from an objective point of view, you'd see how hilarious this situation is.

Sees as though there is a severe power struggle going on here. She obviously has let you do the leading up to a point where she realized she's lost control and now going to extremes to get it back from you.

Your problem is that you are scared of losing her, otherwise you would have never let her get away with any of her BS.

This is the point where you have to stand your ground. Remain in control. 'She is allowing you to chat with her at 2.30 after which you will drive her to work?' I mean, come on man! You need to take the chance of losing her even though there is only one way to go about this:

You need to tell her to stop this BS. You are not her driver, you are not her slave or her well-trained puppy dog. She either cuts the crap or needs to find her some other poor chap that worships the ground she walks on and will do anything for her. Cuz YOU sure as hell ain't gonna. Seriously: would you still have fun going out with her on these ridiculous terms? And after she's had THIS MUCH control over you, do you think you'll ever get it back??

Give this chick up, man. She is seriously messing you about.

 

[StudMeister]

I'll be dead honest. I am afraid of losing her, she's been with me through so much and has always been a corner stone in my life. She gave me support through HS and now I made it to Uni and came with me to my JOB interview and told me how great I was and that I would get it. Which I did. Her support means the world to me and sometimes, I do not understand why I could chizzle a bag of ice from her very heart.

She must see me as the biggest WELCOME HOME mat and I will do my best to stand my ground.

 

[Don Juanabbe]

I think I'm gonna throw up.

 

[Life-Trainee]

Why do you want to stay with her?? For the old time's sake, schits and giggles?? If i were you I'd drop her like a hot potato.

 

[TurboLover]

Yeah you should get her back, because the way your thinking now. I don't think you can do any better.

Your holding on to the past and missing out on the present.

Quit asking yourself how you feel about her, and ask yourself how does she make you feel? Looks like sh!t.

Drive me to work b!tch. This is sad.

 

[StudMeister]

I put my foot down at lunch. I told her the way I need things to run and she just cried. She told me that she does not want the friendship thing and started macking on me, I told her if she did $hit at the party and I hear anything from anyone, she is gone.

She then begged me to chill with her tonight, so that she could make up being a ***** to me. I gladly accepted.

I had a different mindset, I was firm and did not go soft, its a make it or break it factor when dealing with girls. LOL, she payed for my gas and lunch.