Do I want him back? I will try and keep this short. LOL.. And I was worried to post this as I know my ?s aren't all that welcome here but here goes.
There is this guy that I dated about two years ago. It was very brief. About a month or two. At first, I thought I had met my soulmate. I mean we get along so well. Well, he started acting all flaky on me, canceling dates.. saying he was going out of town. I was left hurt. During this time, I was too nice and acted like a big fat chumpette. I was needy, desparate and clingy.. ICK!!!
Well, he then got a job in another city. He moved and then over the last couple of years I still hear from him every few months. If I am dating someone at the time, then it seems I won't hear from him for a long while.. I mean it was really strange. He tells me later that I was sort of rude,, like what Mike, what do you want.. I didn't think so but I also didn't get why he was calling. ..He is definately afraid of commitment. And when we dated he used to always tell me " I was the perfect package" Not sure how to take that
In any case, I would tease him when he called and say hey, Houdini how ya doing. I was never too serious just sort of waited to see what he had to say. Which was usually just hi, what's up and he would ask if I am seeing anyone.. I would be vague but then usually say yes, even if I wasn't.
Usually to, I had always been dating someone. (Sorry so long, I am trying to be brief)
In any case, a week or so ago he calls, we talk and all was nice. Then this past weekend he surprises me at work. I was working and all of a sudden I here, hey Tamales.. Well, I was shocked to say the least. He came all the way to my city and surprised me. He didn't come just for me but he took the time out to take a chance to go to the place where I work. (A part time job at a very high end retail store) I mean I told him where I worked but he didn't know for sure if I would be there. I couldn't believe it. We spend the afternoon shopping. I have a quota and he spends about 800 bucks..!!!! If nothing else, he is my favorite shopper.
He looks great. He is very successful, very handsome and all the women are checking him out. He is a 9 easily. I also notice him checking out some women as well. This one girl who is an 11. WHo can blame him.... but he tells me how great I look. HOt actually. During the day, he says it like five or so times...
He comments on how he had forgotten how sexy the women here dress. I live in a tropical climate But I dress sexy but more classy with an edge. Calvin Klein type. He was looking at the hootchie mamas
In any case, we have a great time and then he asks what I am dong that night. I wanted to hook up but he hadn't seen his guy friends here in aabout a year so we decided for him to have a guys night out and then we would meet for breakfast.
We have a great time. He tries to kiss me. I do but we don't fool around or anything. Just light kisses and hugs no tongue action. I mean I am still shocked to see him after all this time. He came to my city for a night and then drove up for a relatives graduation.
Still, we have a great time. He leaves and calls later that night to say what a great time he had and that he is thinking of moving back down here. And that if he were here, that he and I would definitely be dating.. He says that before two years ago he had been a mess...
The thing is we do get along great. Although the sex wasn't steller for me as I recall.. It was a bad situation tho.. long story.. and well we only did it once..... still sex is a big issue for me and should be for anyone. Might be great today, DOn't know...
So, that was last Saturday. I haven't heard from him. He told me that I can always call him. I haven't. I thought about sending a brief email to say thanks but I won't. The old me would have. This guy hurt me in the past and well, I guess for now my plan is to continue to date others and just wait and see what he does.
Do you think a former or recovering chumpette who once was far to open, available and nice could work this.. And do you think it's a good sign that after two years, I still hear from him. I mean it's really strange. I will but then as soon as he starts dating someone else I won't. Vice Versa.
I feel like he has somehow put me on some sort of back burner. Like I am the girl that he WOULD settle down with but is on the prowl just in case.
I would say he is very AFC but also a player.. Just not a DJ. He never seems to have a clue as to what he wants. I hate that!
We did tho have a great time and the time we did date aside from some bad stuff. Every date was wonderful. He and I really get eachtother. I could just hang out with him all day. And kiss him..
But he isn't the type of guy that is going to push me up against a wall and rip my panties off.. WHy can't I have it all He just isn't all that sexy. I mean he has C&F down to a T and makes me laugh like no other man.
ANyways, I didn't keep my promise. THis is a novel.. Any input on this guy.. I guess I plan on just waiting and seeing and continue to date others and have fun. But I have to wonder why he is still calling after all this time...And I will say that was extremely nice of him to go find me, spend all that money at the store and even bother. I don't think that was AFC at all.. He surprised me...
WE are both in our mid 30's so that might have something to do with it.. His last comment to me was that he was thinking of buying a place down here soon until he moved back?
ANy input.. And also any input on how to handle a former DJ who had my head spinning. He also called last week from Ecaudor. He was on business and called to say he was thinking of me. WHat the hell is going on! This guy, my former DJ and I were mainly about sex. He know thinks I am seeing someone very very hot. I am not and when he inquired, I simply said,, well not as hot as you sweetie. I am over my former DJ and I know that when I do see him, I will be able to resist. I have learned a lot on here and time to move on,
WHen it rains it pours. I have another guy, a doctor call today and ask me out.. Geesh... Take it while I can cuz I have also had lots and lots of droughts.
There is this guy that I dated about two years ago. It was very brief. About a month or two. At first, I thought I had met my soulmate. I mean we get along so well. Well, he started acting all flaky on me, canceling dates.. saying he was going out of town. I was left hurt. During this time, I was too nice and acted like a big fat chumpette. I was needy, desparate and clingy.. ICK!!!
Well, he then got a job in another city. He moved and then over the last couple of years I still hear from him every few months. If I am dating someone at the time, then it seems I won't hear from him for a long while.. I mean it was really strange. He tells me later that I was sort of rude,, like what Mike, what do you want.. I didn't think so but I also didn't get why he was calling. ..He is definately afraid of commitment. And when we dated he used to always tell me " I was the perfect package" Not sure how to take that
In any case, I would tease him when he called and say hey, Houdini how ya doing. I was never too serious just sort of waited to see what he had to say. Which was usually just hi, what's up and he would ask if I am seeing anyone.. I would be vague but then usually say yes, even if I wasn't.
Usually to, I had always been dating someone. (Sorry so long, I am trying to be brief)
In any case, a week or so ago he calls, we talk and all was nice. Then this past weekend he surprises me at work. I was working and all of a sudden I here, hey Tamales.. Well, I was shocked to say the least. He came all the way to my city and surprised me. He didn't come just for me but he took the time out to take a chance to go to the place where I work. (A part time job at a very high end retail store) I mean I told him where I worked but he didn't know for sure if I would be there. I couldn't believe it. We spend the afternoon shopping. I have a quota and he spends about 800 bucks..!!!! If nothing else, he is my favorite shopper.
He looks great. He is very successful, very handsome and all the women are checking him out. He is a 9 easily. I also notice him checking out some women as well. This one girl who is an 11. WHo can blame him.... but he tells me how great I look. HOt actually. During the day, he says it like five or so times...
He comments on how he had forgotten how sexy the women here dress. I live in a tropical climate
But I dress sexy but more classy with an edge. Calvin Klein type. He was looking at the hootchie mamasIn any case, we have a great time and then he asks what I am dong that night. I wanted to hook up but he hadn't seen his guy friends here in aabout a year so we decided for him to have a guys night out and then we would meet for breakfast.
We have a great time. He tries to kiss me. I do but we don't fool around or anything. Just light kisses and hugs no tongue action. I mean I am still shocked to see him after all this time. He came to my city for a night and then drove up for a relatives graduation.
Still, we have a great time. He leaves and calls later that night to say what a great time he had and that he is thinking of moving back down here. And that if he were here, that he and I would definitely be dating.. He says that before two years ago he had been a mess...
The thing is we do get along great. Although the sex wasn't steller for me as I recall.. It was a bad situation tho.. long story.. and well we only did it once..... still sex is a big issue for me and should be for anyone. Might be great today, DOn't know...
So, that was last Saturday. I haven't heard from him. He told me that I can always call him. I haven't. I thought about sending a brief email to say thanks but I won't. The old me would have. This guy hurt me in the past and well, I guess for now my plan is to continue to date others and just wait and see what he does.
Do you think a former or recovering chumpette who once was far to open, available and nice could work this.. And do you think it's a good sign that after two years, I still hear from him. I mean it's really strange. I will but then as soon as he starts dating someone else I won't. Vice Versa.
I feel like he has somehow put me on some sort of back burner. Like I am the girl that he WOULD settle down with but is on the prowl just in case.
I would say he is very AFC but also a player.. Just not a DJ. He never seems to have a clue as to what he wants. I hate that!
We did tho have a great time and the time we did date aside from some bad stuff. Every date was wonderful. He and I really get eachtother. I could just hang out with him all day. And kiss him..
But he isn't the type of guy that is going to push me up against a wall and rip my panties off.. WHy can't I have it all
He just isn't all that sexy. I mean he has C&F down to a T and makes me laugh like no other man.ANyways, I didn't keep my promise. THis is a novel.. Any input on this guy.. I guess I plan on just waiting and seeing and continue to date others and have fun. But I have to wonder why he is still calling after all this time...And I will say that was extremely nice of him to go find me, spend all that money at the store and even bother. I don't think that was AFC at all.. He surprised me...
WE are both in our mid 30's so that might have something to do with it.. His last comment to me was that he was thinking of buying a place down here soon until he moved back?
ANy input.. And also any input on how to handle a former DJ who had my head spinning. He also called last week from Ecaudor. He was on business and called to say he was thinking of me. WHat the hell is going on! This guy, my former DJ and I were mainly about sex. He know thinks I am seeing someone very very hot. I am not and when he inquired, I simply said,, well not as hot as you sweetie. I am over my former DJ and I know that when I do see him, I will be able to resist. I have learned a lot on here and time to move on,
WHen it rains it pours. I have another guy, a doctor call today and ask me out.. Geesh... Take it while I can cuz I have also had lots and lots of droughts.
