A while back a senior DJ here posted a thread that said, simply and ingeniously, "Relax." As I've gone through my journey as a growing DJ, I have realized how much this is true. A couple weeks ago, i felt like my game was at an all time low, my confidence was up, and everything about me seemed right on, but something was obviously missing as the ladies were paying no attention to me. Finally it struck me -
When we start our walks into DJism, we are told to grab your balls and do it, to go all out and mack like crazy for those numbers. One thing i have read almost nothing about is after those first few approached, when DJing becomes second nature. At this point you need to slow down a little. I dont mean to slow down your game, but you need to calm yourself down, take a breath, and act truly suave. While trying to learn the ways of the DJ, many newbs out there aren't so very suave and calm, but it doesn't matter, because they are teaching themselves to be DJs. After i had fallen into the ways of the DJ, i was still macking like crazy, but my cool was gone, i would jump from group to group with massive energy and scare some people away.
The point of this post (yes, believe it or not, THERE IS ONE!) is that once in a while, you need to step back and relax, be suave and cool, which makes you radiate with charisma. Look at James Bond, he has coolenss and suaveness oozing out his ears, which is why he is such a ladies man. Once you have your game down, it is time to kick back and use your skills, but with the added bonus of charisma, which gives you the edge of a true DJ. Only recently ive disconvered this and began to use it, and the results are amazing. Where i would usually hop into a group squealing "Hey guys! How was your weekend?" I know walk in, head up and confident, and with a little grin on my face ask how everyone is doing, and the results are amazing.
Had to get this off my chest, hope it helps some people who are at the same spot i was at a few weeks ago.
When we start our walks into DJism, we are told to grab your balls and do it, to go all out and mack like crazy for those numbers. One thing i have read almost nothing about is after those first few approached, when DJing becomes second nature. At this point you need to slow down a little. I dont mean to slow down your game, but you need to calm yourself down, take a breath, and act truly suave. While trying to learn the ways of the DJ, many newbs out there aren't so very suave and calm, but it doesn't matter, because they are teaching themselves to be DJs. After i had fallen into the ways of the DJ, i was still macking like crazy, but my cool was gone, i would jump from group to group with massive energy and scare some people away.
The point of this post (yes, believe it or not, THERE IS ONE!) is that once in a while, you need to step back and relax, be suave and cool, which makes you radiate with charisma. Look at James Bond, he has coolenss and suaveness oozing out his ears, which is why he is such a ladies man. Once you have your game down, it is time to kick back and use your skills, but with the added bonus of charisma, which gives you the edge of a true DJ. Only recently ive disconvered this and began to use it, and the results are amazing. Where i would usually hop into a group squealing "Hey guys! How was your weekend?" I know walk in, head up and confident, and with a little grin on my face ask how everyone is doing, and the results are amazing.
Had to get this off my chest, hope it helps some people who are at the same spot i was at a few weeks ago.