What you have to is stand slightly closer. Then, instead of "that guy" you'll be "this guy".
I've always felt that big cities are so populated that it's nearly impossible to develop any sort of reputation unless you're an extreme outlier.
Exercise DISCRETION. Exercise common sense. Pickup girls but in such a way it's not telegraphed nor blatantly obvious to the environment you are in. To any unsuspecting civilian (people who don't approach), it shouldn't be known wtf you are doing. I approach as if I already ****ed her &&& nutted on her face. Assume attraction and familiarity. Off Rip, it increases probability in your favor. Alternatively, go further away from where you maybe recognized if you want to remain anonymous.
This is mostly good. I have had to do some dedicated approach sessions over the years on outdoor walking paths or in parks. It's ideal if you can do it entirely based on your daily routine but most men don't have a daily routine conducive to that. Pre-pandemic, when I was doing grocery store approaching, I had to slow down the pace at which I completed grocery shopping in order to do approaches. For example, I could complete a grocery store visit in 20-30 minutes if not planning to do approaches in the store but if I was doing approaches, I'd extend my time in store to 60 minutes. I found that I had to do that to find approaches. There aren't that many approaches to be had in 60 minutes in a grocery store, even if you're grocery shopping in a neighborhood that has a high concentration of unmarried people.
I have to respond to this because this is such god awful advice and I cannot let it mislead other men on here. I have a great career, was in a fraternity in college and have a social circle from that, and have done the whole hobby route. Now I respond to this as someone who followed this piece of advice and then realized that it was garbage and I do not want anyone else to follow it. I'll even dedicate a thread to this.
Not a sex offender, desperate.
Again, way to completely botch up what I said so let me clarify. I am against the stereotypical PUA and guys like Sasha borderline harassing women, screw that. I never said be fat and avoid self-improvement, you kind of need that to do things like be in good health and actually afford living in a major city.
It doesn't take long in daygame to realize that what you say is true. Going about your daily routine and looking for women isn't likely to result in a sufficient volume of approaches, even for a man who has good logistics/lifestyle design. Most men will need to do some dedicated approach sessions, something like a 2-3 hour block of time on a weekend afternoon or weeknight after work.
Regarding the hobby route, I'd like to talk about co-ed sports leagues here. Tons of men do them in the hopes of getting laid and finding relationships. If you go look at any kickball, softball, soccer, or volleyball league in any major city, a good percentage of men are unattached men primarily trying to find dates. It doesn't work out well for a lot of men.
Each to their own, but I can only share my own experience.
I would argue that Daygame is miles healthier and more productive than going to bars and even clubs. You don't lose your hearing to the loud music, avoid the confrontational vibes that alcohol brings, and avoid falling into alcoholism which if you go to bars and clubs, is quite tempting. What I have found is that as soon as I have transitioned from going hard in nightlife to switching to daygame, I am healthier, more productive, more fit, and even more bold as a result. It is mentally harder to approach women during the day as opposed to at a nightclub where the situation is begging for it.
Depends on the dedication to daygame. I think if you are a newbie tying to get good, be ready to throw away some days on the weekend. My wing was brand new and he spend 5 hours on Saturdays and Sundays cold approaching on South Beach. In a span of two months, he has gone from approach anxiety to getting dates with hot girls. It does require some leg work.
it makes me cringe when guys are like just do hobbies you aren’t interested in to meet women. I don’t mind yoga, but joining a Pilates class because you are desperate for tail is creepy af lol.
You're 100% right that any Meetup group is worse than participating in a co-ed sport league. Many years ago, I went to some Meetup events in Dallas and they were awful. Bunch of creepy guys swarming the few average to cute looking women. I think Meetup has developed a bad reputation.
The long day game sessions I've done are around 2.5 hours outdoors. There's a lot of lingering and positioning yourself to make good approaches. It does require effort.
Over time, I have been to fitness classes to do approaches and get dates. I agree that it is better to do a class that you have some interest in doing. I did high intensity interval style classes mainly because those classes were way more enjoyable than yoga or Pilates.
+1
I went through a grocery store and this young girl age 19 had her IG open and ready for me coming through. She even memorized her script. Was funny. Definitely not a norm but I turn on the charm as I come through.
The beautiful thing about daygame is that you are genuinely being honest with yourself about your hobby. You are being sincere in that you are doing it to get laid and meet women, it's about as real as it gets.
