Call me crazy, I like it.
People with low self esteem do not respond well to kindness, they don’t trust it. There is an aloof energy and adolescence in general social interactions that is deeply saddening. You do something kind for a stranger, and you are weird! How sad. Indeed the best way to get a response is to talk the language of adolescence, be aloof and hard to know until you build a bond of trust with someone.
I had problems growing up in that I would rub people the wrong way. In my teenage years people who knew me, knew I meant well, even if I came across odd at times. Those who didn't; didn't know how to take me. I always felt outraged by their responses; my instinct told me that they should not react this way unless I was being genuinely malicious.
The next phase of my life was learning how to deal with other people’s insecurity and inability to deal with honesty. To speak to someone you must first listen to them rationalize their bad behavior, and trigger and associate a negative emotion with that behavior. From there you can rebuild an idea or thought pattern. Helping people see their own strength is not something you can do when you meet them, because they are usually not aware they have low self esteem. You have to negotiate the quagmire of negative thoughts to reach the positive.
I heard a great story, a psychiatrist was asked to help a man in a psyche ward who was convinced he was Jesus. Everyone had tried telling him he was NOT Jesus. Of course he took them as doubters. So the psychiatrist dressed up as a carpenter, gets some wood and begins crafting a crucifix. It was not until he was about the hammer the patients hand into the wood that the patient accepted he was not Jesus. Self esteem is like TV static, clarity requires honesty. We don't want the hard work of admitting to ourselves that we are truly wonderful, and accepting ourselves, flaws and all. Yet we have to, to succeed in achieving any real happiness long term.
I knew even in my teenage years that my words did not matter, only my intentions. I would be, and will be with friends ******dly mean or inconsiderate. Those who know me, know that is not my character, but some could not accept it because their own insecurity insists the reason for MY behavior is THEIR insecurity. What a crazy idea! I'm acting the way I am because I'm an ass! It doesn't mean I don't like somebody, its just a flaw, some even like it. The internal thought process and dialogue of the average human is scary and so very negative. We translate meaningless words into a whole **** storm of negative ideas about ourselves.
Purity of thought is our weapon against negativity. The whining, painful low self esteem thought patterns are comfortably bedded in like a bad infection. Only through forcing ourselves to NOT think that way, by NOT allowing negativity in our thought processes and REBELLING against that BULL**** do we become free from it. By continuing on our path to be the best damn person we can be in whatever our vocation, with women, men, or monkies... regardless of any negative voice, will we get there.
People with low self esteem do not respond well to kindness, they don’t trust it. There is an aloof energy and adolescence in general social interactions that is deeply saddening. You do something kind for a stranger, and you are weird! How sad. Indeed the best way to get a response is to talk the language of adolescence, be aloof and hard to know until you build a bond of trust with someone.
I had problems growing up in that I would rub people the wrong way. In my teenage years people who knew me, knew I meant well, even if I came across odd at times. Those who didn't; didn't know how to take me. I always felt outraged by their responses; my instinct told me that they should not react this way unless I was being genuinely malicious.
The next phase of my life was learning how to deal with other people’s insecurity and inability to deal with honesty. To speak to someone you must first listen to them rationalize their bad behavior, and trigger and associate a negative emotion with that behavior. From there you can rebuild an idea or thought pattern. Helping people see their own strength is not something you can do when you meet them, because they are usually not aware they have low self esteem. You have to negotiate the quagmire of negative thoughts to reach the positive.
I heard a great story, a psychiatrist was asked to help a man in a psyche ward who was convinced he was Jesus. Everyone had tried telling him he was NOT Jesus. Of course he took them as doubters. So the psychiatrist dressed up as a carpenter, gets some wood and begins crafting a crucifix. It was not until he was about the hammer the patients hand into the wood that the patient accepted he was not Jesus. Self esteem is like TV static, clarity requires honesty. We don't want the hard work of admitting to ourselves that we are truly wonderful, and accepting ourselves, flaws and all. Yet we have to, to succeed in achieving any real happiness long term.
I knew even in my teenage years that my words did not matter, only my intentions. I would be, and will be with friends ******dly mean or inconsiderate. Those who know me, know that is not my character, but some could not accept it because their own insecurity insists the reason for MY behavior is THEIR insecurity. What a crazy idea! I'm acting the way I am because I'm an ass! It doesn't mean I don't like somebody, its just a flaw, some even like it. The internal thought process and dialogue of the average human is scary and so very negative. We translate meaningless words into a whole **** storm of negative ideas about ourselves.
Purity of thought is our weapon against negativity. The whining, painful low self esteem thought patterns are comfortably bedded in like a bad infection. Only through forcing ourselves to NOT think that way, by NOT allowing negativity in our thought processes and REBELLING against that BULL**** do we become free from it. By continuing on our path to be the best damn person we can be in whatever our vocation, with women, men, or monkies... regardless of any negative voice, will we get there.