Call her out or freeze her out?

[Jariel]

When a girl stands you up, flakes or does something disrespectful, do you prefer to take a cool approach, acting unfazed and move on, or do you prefer to call her on it and let her know her behaviour is unnacceptable?

I got into an argument with a mate over this recently when a mutual friend told us he'd been stood up by this chick he recently started seeing. She didn't even have the decency to cancel or offer any explanation and he was p!ssed.

My mate told him he should call her out on her BS, let her know it was unnacceptable and show some balls. But I was trying to encourage him to take a cool and indifferent approach, show that he's unfazed by it.

This is the approach I've always preferred as I feel calling her out shows you care too much and you're easily fazed by her games. On the other hand, a lot can be said in favour of standing up for yourself and maybe it's not such a bad thing to show you're p!ssed off.

Any opinions?

 

[Falcon25]

Just don't say anything, hit her up again in two weeks. She doesn't care what your reaction is going to be. Just be like cool, some other time. Keep it as backburner on your phone. A few times girls flaked on me, eventually I fuvked em, but it took six months. Just don't expect anything. NO EMOTIONAL REACTIONS TO PEOPLE WHO DON"T CARE ABOUT YOU. You are correct. Why have a sissy fit when she probably doesn't even remember his name? SHE DOESN'T CARE. NEITHER SHOULD YOU.

You know what she'll say if you call her out? "Who are you again?????". haha Leave it alone.

But, if it's a girl you have been with and she flakes (a month or more), then you put the smack down. You tell her, "we're done sweetheart. Don't want to deal with your bullshivt. I'll see you on the other side."

 

[Jariel]

I agree with you on that Falcon25. Normally when I've been stood up it's someone I've only known a week or two, in which case I just next them. And yep, I had them crawling back too.

But, if it's a girl you have been with and she flakes, then you put the smack down.

I think this may be where the rule changes. I'd still act cool I guess, but maybe that gives the message she can pull this sh!t again.

 

[Falcon25]

It just depends on time put in, if you have hooked up, many other things..........Generally, after four or five dates, if she flakes once, whatever, twice and it's "peace out". Then, you back hand the bitvch and knock a couple teeth out. You can do that in Europe can't you? Here, it's 18 months in jail.

TWO ace cards in your pocket with any girl. ONE, the fact you don't fall in love easy (And not tell her you love her like some schmucks on here). TWO, the fact you can walk away and find another if she disrespects you. Pocket Aces my Anglo friend, pocket Aces.

 

[joe henny]

When a ***** gets out of pocket I check her, when a b*tch stands me up she no longer exists in my life. Unless she wants to crawl back in, and I do mean CRAWL BACK IN!!!

 

[Huffman]

If she stands me up and doesn't text and I never see her again, then I won't call her just for that.

However if we do meet again I at least comment on how I'm disappointed with her, if her behaviour was pretty rude.

 

[Jariel]

In the end he called her out, called her a cvnt, threatened to carve his name on her face and crucify her family.

Only joking.

He just told her it was unacceptable and next time she's looking for an ego boost not to bother him again. She apologised soon after admitting she was in the wrong and had no excuse for her behaviour. I think maybe she respected him for it.

I advised him to remain cool and indifferent now and let her come back to him.

 

[terran2k]

the last time I just decided to call the chic out too. She's trying to play nice now.
She'll respect him now, rather have her respect you than to squeeze out another measly date or two.

 

[RSanders219]

If it's some random chick i met at a bar then I wouldn't really care. But if it's a girl i've been seeing for a month or two, I'd probably tell her I don't have time for her attitude.. You can call them out and still be cool and calm about it. Plus if you don't stand up to them and let them know you're pissed with them they'll just keep walking all over you. And it shows you have balls to say "Hey that's my opinion take it or leave it I don't need you, you need me so peace out if you're gonna act like a trick"

 

[rtrev64]

I called out this chick that falcon 25 kindly slammed me on.. thats cool..it all came to a head but now she knows if she decides to call again what I will not accept. Another one suggest that she will call to be "friends" or try to make herself feel good and justify her actions. Thats why she wont call cause she would have to dump all of them why? Not because they are her friends its because she ****ed them too..

 

[Young Juan]

Depends on time put in, straight up. Also, this is the reason you spin plates.

Under 30 days - Freeze, call other plate

Over 30 days - Freeze, call other plate

over 3 months - Call out, call other plate

Strike 2 - Freeze off, call other plate