Brother Alex
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When I left college I was an AFC. I took a year off and spent a lot of time working out my mistakes and then joined university with the knowledge of what I then called "the game". The "game" was very small part of basic DJing, just how to use "indifference" to get a girl.
A good friend of mine had a brother who was 17 at the time. And he was NUTS over this one girl. In one year, he had asked her out 8 f**king times. Each time she had said no, and he kept coming back for more. She knew him in a group, they were good 'friends' and because he was so persistent he would 'bump into' her loads. They got on well but there was nothing from her to him.
I sat him down, and despite not knowing much, explained 'the game'. They only want what they can't get. You need to start ignoring her. Be around her, in her presence, but don't give her any special attention WHATSOEVER. Don't be rude, god no, but just let her know that there are things to do besides hang around her. At parties, for example, walk up, grinning like an idiot, have an excellent and humourous conversation for one minute (instead of the 30 mins she's used to) and then bounce off and have fun with you friends (ideally where she can see you). If she's with a few friends, make a point of walking up to them and having a great conversation with her best friend, not her, like she's used to, and then walk away. You are social, you talk to everyone. Soon she starts missing the chats you had, but when she comes to find you, talk for a minute, really bouncy, really pleasant, and then tell her you need to go and find someone. But be SOOOO polite when you do. No rudeness.
Anyway, I talked to him for 10 minutes, and found out a month later that after she started following him, and saying that they didn't spend enough time together anymore, he casually asked her out and she accepted.
Incidentally, this 'AFC' dumped her for a hotter girl 2 months later.
Now that's a happy ending.
A good friend of mine had a brother who was 17 at the time. And he was NUTS over this one girl. In one year, he had asked her out 8 f**king times. Each time she had said no, and he kept coming back for more. She knew him in a group, they were good 'friends' and because he was so persistent he would 'bump into' her loads. They got on well but there was nothing from her to him.
I sat him down, and despite not knowing much, explained 'the game'. They only want what they can't get. You need to start ignoring her. Be around her, in her presence, but don't give her any special attention WHATSOEVER. Don't be rude, god no, but just let her know that there are things to do besides hang around her. At parties, for example, walk up, grinning like an idiot, have an excellent and humourous conversation for one minute (instead of the 30 mins she's used to) and then bounce off and have fun with you friends (ideally where she can see you). If she's with a few friends, make a point of walking up to them and having a great conversation with her best friend, not her, like she's used to, and then walk away. You are social, you talk to everyone. Soon she starts missing the chats you had, but when she comes to find you, talk for a minute, really bouncy, really pleasant, and then tell her you need to go and find someone. But be SOOOO polite when you do. No rudeness.
Anyway, I talked to him for 10 minutes, and found out a month later that after she started following him, and saying that they didn't spend enough time together anymore, he casually asked her out and she accepted.
Incidentally, this 'AFC' dumped her for a hotter girl 2 months later.
Now that's a happy ending.
