Building rapport with a girl that prefers to listen

[deeman]

Now from my experience, if there is one thing women love to do its TALK!
If you set the ball rolling then she will talk your ear off and you will look good just throwing in side comments (C&F) and showing her you are a good listener.

A strange thing has happened..... I have met a girl that is more a listener that a talker. Its not that she is a 'non-talker', she does talk, but, she seems to be running 'the game' on me, trying to get me to talk and do most the talking.

I am not used to this at all. How would you guys deal with a girl that wants you to do all the talking and 'reveal' yourself so that she can use that to her advantage? I want to make the exchange 50- 50. Has this happened to any one?

 

[Don Serbe]

Quite simply becareful then what you say.

Whoever said you had to spill out 110% truth

You can actually have fun by throwing her curve balls. This is in itself a form of power and you really now have the opportunity to be incontrol.

 

[Don Serbe]

Some of you guys are just a bit too black and white. LYING is such a harsh word and incorrectly used can be extremely destructive.

What our friend should be doing is slightly extending the truth. Of course its not believable to say that he had lunch with brittney spears however he also doesen't have to say that he was sitting on his ass all day doing nothing!!

Similarly he does not have to say that work has been a drag. He can up the ante and say something yeah I am working on a serious project, i have interests in bla bla, next summer i looking to go on a holiday to bla bla.

He can also if he has a good general knowledge bullsh*t about whats happening in the world and etc eventhough he might not give a rats a$$ about US-Sino relations...........

Far out work with me here. The girl is playing this listening tactic so there is then no reason why he can't giver her something interesting to listen to.

If you read the half of these posts here you will see that women like mystery, like sometime contradictory info, like to be led onto a fantasy ride. Here is your chance if you know how.

 

[B9]

If the ONLY interest you have is getting girls at any cost, by all means: Lie.

Personally, I would consider such existence kinda sad and lacking in values, but what the heck, if some people are happy having their d1ck run their lives....

 

[Beige]

random_looser = rocket_ship

Do you have some kind of a multiple personality syndrome or sth?

 

[Microphone Fiend]

If you want to lie, then lie to your heart's content, but how will you feel when you find out she's attracted to your lies and not you.

Or how about when she says lets go surfing and your azz can't even swim?

Just tell the truth, dropping names makes you seem like a loser

As for building rapport with listeners
Rapport is basically when two people feel connected through similarities, so if you talk about yourself a lot, try to talk more about stuff she can identify to. There is no rule that says that the girl has to talk as much or more than the guy, as long as the two are you are conversing, that is a plus.

Try using more phrases such as:
Don't you love it when...
What do you think about...
Me too!
I was thinking the same thing

and don't be afraid to ask her about her opinion. You don't have to agree with it if you don't (AFC) but just hear her input every now and then