Broke up with the GF... and regretting it

[Sir Auron]

Okay guys, I guess I just sort of need a rant or something here, but I'm a bit lost right now.

Well I just broke up with my gf of about 6 months because she was very, well sunshine girlish. We went to this party and it was great until this other guy started hitting on her, flirting his arse off and even jumped ontop of her... right infront of my eyes.

Now since this girl's always had a thing with flirting with guys and whatever, and I've talked to her about it in the past, I just lost it and threw in the towel.

I'm a bit lost now and I hate myself for what I've done. I let myself get jelous which was extremely stupid and in that one moment I've thrown away all the good times and hapiness we had together.

I've talked to her since and was so lost I was hopeless and tried to explain to her how much of a mistake I'd thought I'd made and she said she couldn't give me another chance.

Guys, I reckon I've screwed up big time here... I'm alright now, not too emotional anymore, but I want her back.. I don't want to let this one night screw up the great times I had with her.

She's going along the friends line now, but I want to know is there anyway I can save this guys??
I know I'll get over her after a while and I'm not struck with thoughts like "I need her in my life", but I do really want her back because of the hapiness she gave me.

Guys, any tips?

Thank you,

-One Lost Auron...

 

[The Bishop]

You two might have another go-around in the future... But hook up with other girls for now.

 

[Engetsu]

Forget her. Time will do it. YOU ARE THE GOLDEN PRIZE. She's way too horny and couldn't appreciate you for what you were worth, and respect the bond that the both of you were sharing. You're saying she has issues with flirting, well she likes putting relationships at stake. She's the loser here. You just got some action out of a sunshine girl.

 

[Quarters]

I think...that you're really just missing her, but you do not WANT her back. You just feel this empty space inside of you and you think the only way to fill it up was to get back with your ex-. Just go meet some other girls, date, go out with friends, have some fun. And if seeing her with other guys bothers you, just stay away. It's a matter of time, because like you said,

"I'm not struck with thoughts like "I need her in my life", but I do really want her back because of the hapiness she gave me."

So you DON'T need her. Want her back because of the happiness she gave you? I'm sure another girl can give you even GREATER happiness. Just be patient.

My two cents.

 

[Sir Auron]

I remember now why I love you guys

Yeah, I do feel really empty and miss her a lot but I guess I'll just give it some time... I don't want to deal with any more girls for the moment, just have a little time out session.

Thank you guys...

A Healing Auron

 

[tracy Jaks]

Originally posted by The Bishop
You two might have another go-around in the future... But hook up with other girls for now.

what is this guy on??

you do that youll never be able to get her back, dont try and get her back, yet.Concentrarte on becoming the best persion you can be, put her to one side for now.

Concentrate on your hobbies, on school, on friends,if you dont like your friends get a new bunch, but dont empahsise all your time into getting her back,you spent 6 months with her,she cant just let that go. Life doesnt revolve round girls, it doesnt revolve round one girl, it revolves around yourself.

And jealousy aint a bad thing, it shows you care, you just have to know where to draw the line between reasons to be jealous and being a prickk.

 

[Gold Heart]

You said it yourself, she said that she can't give you another chance. Forget about her. You're too young to be in anything serious. Go and have fun without the strings attached.

 

[Sir Auron]

Thanks guys, but I do have one more question about this whole thing.

This girl has now asked me at least 3 times in as many days "So we're still friends right?" and I've avoided answering the question everytime, left her hanging with a 'who knows' sort of thing because I had no idea what I wanted myself, and still don't

Right now I think it's a bit too painful for me to just be friends and go on like nothing has happened... the whole break up thing is still having its effect on me but do you guys think its best to either
Say 'yeah we're friends' and then try and distance myself, forget about her.
Or
Keep up with the 'I dont know what we are' which is how I really feel, but shows its still having a big effect on me to her...

Also I'm toying with the idea of taking her to the prom, which I guess is another pro-friends reason.

I'm indebted to you guys now , thank you all once again.

-Messed up Auron

 

[drixsa]

damn man this is a too bad

you gotta control your anger and at least post on here if you cant get your thoughts straight

thats the lesson to be learned

its possible that maybe you made the right decision

girls that are too flirty,espically when they have a b-f lack a certain chartecter (once again this is why i do not date, amongst other various reasons)

right now this girls feels that you dis-respected her and that she doesnt need you

that is what she is telling herself to make it "all better"

what you need to do is to forget about her for a while

seriously, tell her that you can be friends and the whole 9 yards but distance yourself from her

you need to DJ it hard and start meeting and hanging out with many different girls

some random hookups would be good too

b/c trust me girls gossip like none other

and shell get jealous the sooner she hears about it (but you cannot be the one to tell her)

prom is a long way away and right now you need to find some new prospects

keep it real

 

[Sir Auron]

Yeah well I was pretty AFC with this girl for ages... but strangely enough that's what won her over originally.

I guess I learned the jelousy lesson the hard way :|, oh and btw my prom is in 2 months not a year away. I'll just try to make good friends with her and see what happens with that, although I've already placed my bets that she blows me off to go with her friend as not leave her friend alone.

*sigh* Women...

 

[Serg897]

Originally posted by Sir Auron

*sigh* Women...

yep.....

 

[abcd_z]

Originally posted by Sir Auron
Yeah well I was pretty AFC with this girl for ages... but strangely enough that's what won her over originally.

No offense, but that right there probably should have been an early warning signal. And on the whole "let's be friends" thing, I don't know enough about the situation (or DJing, for that matter) to warrant an accurate reply. Good luck, though.