Broke Up Friday and I Still Can't Get Over Her

[foomee]

Ugh... So we broke up friday and it would have been 13 months since we first started dating. Anyhow, I'm just trying so hard to get over her, but I just can't do it. Lastnight I was very occupied with my buddies, partied, met girls, but I was just feeling down the whole night. I come home today to visit my dad and he says I look a little down and I tell him why. I really don't want this to affect my school work, but I still flat out love this girl. She was just so much fun and yeah I do have oneitis right now and everything, but I just need to rant...
Anyhow, what are ways you guys have gotten over a breakup?

 

[Adrian]

I was at this point several different times in my life and let me tell you it's not easy. In fact the longest time it took for me to get over a breakup was an entire 10 months to a year. Time and distance were the only two factors that healed me and it was not an easy task to go through that. The most difficult time period after a breakup for me was normally the first week or two. After that you tend to make an effort to pick yourself up and fight through the sadness. After other breakups I was already much wiser thanks to this site and I've gotten over breakups in just several days to a week simply just by messing around with other girls. This helps you to realize that the one girl you were with before is really not so different or special after all.

If getting a different girl in the sack every couple of nights isn't your thing then I would recommend for you to take a vacation soon. Make sure you have fun and reflect back on your life and see what it is you want to accomplish. Just remember to leave your ex out of the picture because it is certainly over between the two of you. Stop wishing she comes back to you (which she might but you're in no position to take her back) and concentrate on making yourself a better person (I know this is not what you're in the mood to be told). It's probably very difficult for you to concentrate right now and you're worried about fvcking up in school and I can't blame you. What worked for me was getting out into the world and seeing it for what it really is. This normally gets my motivation back up. Don't stay at home feeling sorry for yourself. Do something about changing your state of mind right now. You'll be fine I promise.

 

[WaterTiger]

Foomee! Darling! Cut yourself some slack! You broke up with her on the 9th and it hast been 72 hours yet! It might take a while to get over the relationship. Adrian's ideas and suggestions are pure gold so listen to him.

 

[Last Man Standing]

Were you sexing her? Of course you were -- you were just the next pimp in line! Only get emotional with your wife!!!!

 

[Delta]

yah... seriously!!!

you sound like a guy who gets hit by a car and then whines that he can't do the triathlon next week!

WTF?!?!

give yourself some time man! if she meant something to you, you're gonna be hurtin' for a while.

heck, even by "sex and the city" criteria, it takes (relationshiptime) X .5 to get over someone.

and personally, i think that is horribly optimistic.

don't fret that you're not over it.

but just do your darnedest to not think of it. if you can't don't worry. but if you can, go out with friends, play video games, whatever makes you happy. and also try to do what you do to get another girl asap.

oh and stay away from her, don't talk to her, don't look at photos, nothing. it's time to go cold turkey. you're going to want to go back and reminisce and stuff but it is psychologically damaging. so stay away if you can.

good luck. it sucks to be you. everybody's been where you are. we feel for ya man. keep your head up and it will pass.

delta

 

[DJF or John]

Lol, you know I hate some guys advice on here.

They tell you after a relationship with a chick is over.....to just try to "Do other things" and take your MIND out of it.

How in the hell can you take your MIND out of it, when it was your MIND that got you in this trouble in the FIRST DAMN PLACE!

First of all, how many times have I said on this site?

95% of women don't like you.

They will say all types of shyt. They will do all types of shyt.

But lose value, make her feel a different "vibe", do any damn thing and watch how the "relationship" goes another way.

You shouldn't SEEK relatonships, you should SEEK sex....and when a GREAT relationship comes along the only way you can TELL it's a great relationship is becasue of the girls' FEMINITY, and woman-hood, combined with her being souled out to you.

 

[DJF or John]

Most guys get in a relationship, because the girl said I love you after they fvcked a couple times, now the guy is in a relationship.

Dude! She said the same shyt after I fvcked her.

There's only around 5% of women today that are relatiosnhip material...and whehter you like it or not....great relationships are just not that much of availalbe today at all.

Sorry.

But a lot of pvssy is though.

And when you've been in this fvcked up mindset of, "I'm in a great relationship, " and you have been thinking that way for a long time, then you can't just all of a sudden SNAP OUT OF IT!

It's like a bad fvcking habit. It's like smoking.

You need ot make a decision to get out of the matrix. Understand the dating world of TODAY...fvck what women tell you, fvck what your parents tell you, let me TELL YOU THIS!

Great relationships are over. Only 5% of the women in this population are great relationship material...and they are hard to find you know why? Because they don't put theemselves OUT THERE TO BE SEEN lol, lol.

95% of women are just like us, they just want a great nvt. Now women are touchy feely, emotional motafvckas. They love to say all that I love you shyt and all that to EXPRESS the great way you are making her FEEL. That doesn't mean she really LOVES YOU jackazz.

Sorry to be harsh and blunt, but I must give it to you buddy.

 

[Obsidian]

wow, very wise DJF

 

[PectoralisMajor]

Its a cleashe, but its gonna take at least a few weeks to get over her buddy.

stay busy, keep hanging with other girls, get your personal life in order and the rest will sort itself out.

 

[Bible_Belt]

It's just part of being 19. Everyone has been there. Life goes on and you grow as a person.