Broadsided by the Dark Side

[Andy_Dufresne]

Long story short, about a year ago I was diagnosed with Herpes (HSV-2).

I am not looking for sympathy, or anyone to call me a dumbass – as it could happen to anyone here, and it certainly is not the end of the world. I have kept my attitude up but I haven’t really bounced back from it enough to start “getting back in there”, obtaining phone numbers, etc. like I used to.

I figure I have two options – remain with my current FB (who uses the info to keep me in total ONEitis mode – not sure if I want to continue the fight), or break it off and start the routine again, and hope that after having “the talk” 50 times or so I will hit with a great woman who either has it themselves, or is willing to take a risk.

I’m taking Valtrex – it works well but I simply can’t do all the fun sexual things I can with a partner that is not infected. There is still the risk. And, yes, there are sites for this kind of thing but….wow. Not an option if I can help it. I don’t need a towel to cry on.

Also…..in clear conscience I can’t keep it a secret from any future partner.

So, I’m looking for any DJ’s with experience or ideas here. Maybe a friend had it, who knows. Fishing for answers.

 

[yep]

If i were you i would just turn up my game to the max, make sure you inform your partner(s) of your condition. Then its up to them to decide what they want to do. Also, if my Girlfriend was trying to keep rubbing that in my face i would drop her faster than my nuts after coming out of spandex. Something to think about.

GL

P.S.-Stop using terms like fb and oneitis, real pimps dont talk about life and women with abbreviations and half retarded words to describe situations.

 

[Andy_Dufresne]

Hey, thx good post. I think you are correct on this.

It's tough getting back out there having it in the back of your mind. I'm digging deep. I get tons of looks, and "hello's", and I have to get the balls to get past my limiting thoughts just like I did several years ago when I figured this all out.

It is going to be ten times the work, though, from last time. I am up for it.

 

[TheBucketOfTruth]

Man that must be really hard. I'd say just keep your head up high and act as though you didn't have this problem at all (up until the moment comes where you need to have the "talk"). I can sympathize as sexual issues like that can take their toll on your confidence level. Game girls like you normally would. Making out/fingering isn't half bad, just always be open and honest about it when it comes down to doing "the deed."

As for places like h-date and hooking up with other people with herpes: Is it true that one person with HSV2 can still infect another person that already has HSV2 with a slightly different strain of the virus?

 

[Andy_Dufresne]

Thanx for the encouragement. It's been hard for me. I keep my appearance up even better than before and get a lot of looks from women but I have yet to create the edge I had 2 years ago when I was on top of the game.

It is a slow process getting your confidence back to that level we know it has to be at.

Now that I have the disease I've read up a lot on it.

Suffice to say that you even SUSPECT something down there, ESPECIALLY a rash, go get checked. Have a skin swab done immediately. Do NOT let the doctor look at it and say "that's not herpes.", because that is what happened to me, then while seeing the same woman and ONLY the same woman I broke out again several months later and it WAS herpes. My case was.."oh..I have a pimple." one morning in the shower, that acted more like a blister (no whitehead).

Herpes is very deceptive. It comes and goes. You could have the same partner, no other partners, for a year or more. In my case I obviously thought I was in the clear. Literally after a year of intercourse, she breaks out, doesn't know it, and passes it on to me.

And in my case, it is not on the genitals rather the pubic area. This makes it even more difficult b/c I can't just put a condom on, I have to protect the area where I break out during intercourse as well.

I do suspect that there are different strains and that a person with Type 1 is now more susceptable to Type 2, etc. etc.