Bring up the Ex-Boyfriend?

[ARrocket]

So this girl I met last semester (we're in college) had a boyfriend, but we had great chemistry and flirted a lot. She was my dance partner in tango class, so we saw each other a few times a week. She's asked me to hang out a few times, but we never really met up outside of class. Now, I see that she is listed as single on Facebook. I'm gonna have lunch with her at her dorm on Thursday (I'm have a class basically next door). Should I bring up her ex at all? As in "so, how are things with your boyfriend?" Because the last time I saw her she was dating this guy, and so it would be natural for me to think she still is. Or is it better to not mention it, and to proceed as if she has been single this whole time? Sorry if this is a bit wordy, but any advice would be appreciated!

 

[TheCzar]

My question would be, why does it matter? Let her give up the information on her own accord if she wants. It's kind of a loaded question - it's going to firstly flag 'high interest', and secondly has the potential to bring up emotions for her ex-bf if that's the case. Keep the conversation light, no relationship talk.

Sometimes when I think of a question like that I'm thinking of asking, I think what if she asked me that?

TC

 

[2crudedudes]

I read or heard somewhere once that you need to help her associate you with having a good time. If you bring up painful events (as break ups can sometimes be) she'll associate you with those painful emotions. Try to stay on positive subjects and practice kino to indicate you don't wanna get friend-zoned.

 

[ARrocket]

Thanks guys, makes sense.

 

[katatonia]

Don't bring up her ex at all, just be a more attractive guy to her and she will most likely forget about him on her own.

 

[jnice48146]

Yeah, asking about her love life in the past sounds like an express lane to the friend zone. If a girl brings that up on a date, I'd tell her I'm not the person to tell that to.