Breaking up is so friggin hard to do, painful, depressing

[barbarianthemadserb]

I don't know how you younger dudes do it but for me at 57 it is tough to do. First my ex about 4 years ago after 25 years of marriage and now this younger babe that I have known for about 2 years (see my post on "she found someone on the internet"). I feel so friggin depressed now that I am about ready to do something really stupid but am trying hard not to.
I feel like I have been fvcked over, stabbed in the back, lied to, used and abused. I can't believe this fvkin bich. Again, the internet was a big part of this breakup. She was spending 15-20 hours per day on it talking with other dudes. I got her a pc (fool that I was) as well as a cell phone (double fool on me). As some other DJ said "It's ironic that with these two gifts she turned them around and used them against me to meet someone else on the internet. And to top insult to injury, I paid for a 10 week fingernail tech course for her to take which she also used against me. She met a female there and decided to move in with her. I should have really stuck to the "bible" but did not. Anyway, she has packed most of her stuff and will be out the door within a day or so. still, the pain in my heart is unbearable- How could I be so friggin stupid. Love is blind and it sure blind sided me on this one. I am angry as hell, peesed as fvkin ell. My heart has been cut out and stomped on. CHees, just how much chit are we supposed to take in this life God?
And please don't come back and say there are plenty more out there for me cause there aint. You younger dudes in your 20's have lots to choose from. Us dudes in our 50's and up don't-the good ones are taken, the chit ones are left. They are old, fat, ugly, wrinkled and have all kinds of problem with men. That is the reason I will only look for a younger female ! But once I get over this slut, and it will take time, I think I will go the Russian route. The tours there are 10-14 days, meet literally hundreds of willing females that want american husbands and are not spoilt fvkin bithches like the US women. THe tours cost about $3k and there are lots of things planned in that tour.
Fvk these american women/slut/*****s!

 

[Julian]

Damn yo.

So much for age bringing wisdom.


LOL.

Anyway man i cant even begin to understand what your feeling. Im sure it must be rough though.

I hate to say it but you brought this unto yourself. I mean, during the course of buying all her sh1t you basically shot yourself in the foot. You set yourself up to be taken advantage and yes, the evil wench went on and did it, and yes i realize that you did admit this. At least you understand where you went wrong, instead of wondering what the hell hapened like a typical AFC would do.

Dont give up hope man. This girl seemed kind of psycho by doing nothing but spending 15 hours a day looking for guys on the net, your better off without her.

What i find insane is that you and your ex-wife got a divorce after 25 years.

Man im sure you know alot about women with your experience but you did some mad AFC behavior with this chick, its no wonder she left you in the dust.

I apologize if im being harsh, however i am merely calling it as i see it, and im sure you see it the same way.

I guess ill end this post with the old saying.. "time heals all wounds." You'll get over it.

Good luck yo.

 

[Royal-tiger]

are not spoilt fvkin bithches like the US women. [/B]

And how are you so sure? An overwhelming majority of those women are either gold diggers or seeking immigration benefits to escape economic misery. Think about it, you help her come to US and blend in (at your expense). And if she had hidden agenda you will be divorced with her claiming half your assets.

Of course, this is a generalization but very much on the money. There could be some genuine women over there but it is virtually impossible to determine that in a 14-day visit.

As for your current misery, I sympathasize with you whole heartedly but you mistook the fact that one cannot buy love. You can't make someone love you because of being a sugar daddy. On the contrary, you will be used and manipulated. I guarantee that. This is the reason why it is always advised not to bestow the woman with any gifts for at least three months. The financial commitment you made should only be made after getting married.

Logically speaking, when you shower someone with so many goodies (despite good and noble intentions) it comes across as low esteem on your part i.e., you are trying to make up for your deficiencies since no one will like/love you for real you. My friend, the rules in seduction work exactly opposite of how they operate in real world.

Learn from it. I am certain with your good nature you will eventually discover someone who deservedly treats you like a king.

Hang in there! Everything will come to pass. There is always a tomorrow.

 

[Royal-tiger]

Re: Re: Breaking up is so friggin hard to do, painful, depressing

 

[Squid]

Why the rush to have another woman so soon. I've read it here a million times and it's true, you can't be happy with someone else unless your happy with yourself. Go out, do the things you like and have fun with your buds, fon't focus so much on women, at least not until you've had time to put this behind you.

Women are there to add a little to your life, not be your life. That way when they come and go (they always do) it won't be such a disaster.

 

[NewMan]

It's a ***** for sure....

But so is yout ex.

Think about it - do you really want this woman who treated you like sh@t?

It's not her that you miss - it having someone there - having a puss there.... really ask yourself this question - if you were to replace her with someone else - another younger chick - would you miss her? I think probably not.

So whats the problem here is that you don't want to be alone?

Take some time and regroup get happy with yourself again, then get out there, join clubs and such and meet new people.

Don't focus on women as being the all in your life - because they are not.

Think back on all the sh#t you put up with - all the sh#t you did for her... ask yourself if it was worth it? I'd say nope....

 

[NatureGuy]

You're probably doing something consistently "wrong". Get the basic book/CD from www.doclove.com.
I think it will help you.

 

[barbarianthemadserb]

Shot myself in the foot. yep!

I can sit back and see a lot of wrong things I did and this has been a big, expensive lesson.
Of course I showered her with gifts, but, she was poor and had nothing when I met her. I felt so friggin bad. Some of the gifts were out of feeling bad and some (puter and cell) were just dumb gifts I should never have given her.
Yep, and I do hate living alone. Eventually that too will come to pass and I will get onto my life thinking more clearer mind.

 

[Player_Supreme]

you can't make a house wife outta a ho that still has ho'in left in her blood!

Lesson learned. Now move on. Your posting this to a bunch of already half depressed types anyways. I feel for you, but maybe you should take some time to do a boot camp to generate some women back into your life.

There already are too many of those downer types on this board. Your going to set those kids off...I can see them now maddly dashing for their prosac cabinet.

luck

 

[jbbrain]

thats why we need you papa smurfs to set the record straight

 

[NatureGuy]

You are correct - it can be more difficult when you're a bit older. On the other hand,
if you present well, with good character,
and a stable financial picture, this will
be very attractive to alot of attractive
women (and there are alot of attractive
40 + women !). Get that
www.doclove.com book/CD. I get the sense
that "control" and possibly other things
may be an issue with you and this will
help alot (if you listen).