LondonTowers
Don Juan
Look at the conversation that is happening in the "Over 50% of Wives Cheat" thread:
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=221500&page=7
I've seen this argument come up so many times on SoSuave. How come after all these years, we haven't found the definitive answer when it come to setting boundaries in a relationship? Shouldn't the DJ Bible have nailed this one by now?
In my last LTR I never set boundaries, let her hang with her ex, guys, never got jealous, just didn't give a fuk.. because my life was going well and I had no insecurity she wouldn't do anything because I was the sh1t. She even wanted her ex to hang with us, just so she could show me off. This actually seemed to work for me as I had some natural alpha state for the first 1 year due to life success and she could feel this, thus other guys were just orbiters.. I would even joke to her about who she found attractive in the bar, that's how self confident I was.. this would actually make her want me more.
Then cracks in my game came out, I was going through a rough patch with life and suddenly the game shifted. She would start to compare me to other guys including her ex in a negative way. I suddenly became insecure because I didn't feel alpha anymore due to life not going well and suddenly started enforcing boundaries which she would constantly test because she knew I lost my game unlike when I was alpha and didn't give a sh1t. Enforcing boundaries was actually coming from an insecure place and I don't think your words mean sh1t if you ain't got your game tight.
Now, I'm not too sure how I would handle my next LTR. I'm in the process of becoming alpha again, but now truly alpha as in my inner game this time. But would I now still have the not give a sh1t attitude if my girl still hung out with her ex/guys?
Part of me thinks if my game is tight, I give her great sex, pluck at her emotional spectrum, she rides on the magic carpet of my exciting life (which comes from knowing my life mission) she will be hooked on me in a multiple of ways and if she knew I would drop her cold and can easily replace her if she doesn't provide me with the affection/sex that I need.. she will enforce her own boundaries.
This is the only true boundary I can provide. A girls attention will drop if she starts even emotionally involve someone else.. at that point you just freeze immediately. So the only boundary you can ever enforce is through your attention and her subtle awareness you have options and will walk away with ease at the very beginning of her not providing for your needs. That loss is something she could not deal with.
This kind of boundary only works if you truly are a DJ.. which is what we should all be striving towards.
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=221500&page=7
I've seen this argument come up so many times on SoSuave. How come after all these years, we haven't found the definitive answer when it come to setting boundaries in a relationship? Shouldn't the DJ Bible have nailed this one by now?
In my last LTR I never set boundaries, let her hang with her ex, guys, never got jealous, just didn't give a fuk.. because my life was going well and I had no insecurity she wouldn't do anything because I was the sh1t. She even wanted her ex to hang with us, just so she could show me off. This actually seemed to work for me as I had some natural alpha state for the first 1 year due to life success and she could feel this, thus other guys were just orbiters.. I would even joke to her about who she found attractive in the bar, that's how self confident I was.. this would actually make her want me more.
Then cracks in my game came out, I was going through a rough patch with life and suddenly the game shifted. She would start to compare me to other guys including her ex in a negative way. I suddenly became insecure because I didn't feel alpha anymore due to life not going well and suddenly started enforcing boundaries which she would constantly test because she knew I lost my game unlike when I was alpha and didn't give a sh1t. Enforcing boundaries was actually coming from an insecure place and I don't think your words mean sh1t if you ain't got your game tight.
Now, I'm not too sure how I would handle my next LTR. I'm in the process of becoming alpha again, but now truly alpha as in my inner game this time. But would I now still have the not give a sh1t attitude if my girl still hung out with her ex/guys?
Part of me thinks if my game is tight, I give her great sex, pluck at her emotional spectrum, she rides on the magic carpet of my exciting life (which comes from knowing my life mission) she will be hooked on me in a multiple of ways and if she knew I would drop her cold and can easily replace her if she doesn't provide me with the affection/sex that I need.. she will enforce her own boundaries.
This is the only true boundary I can provide. A girls attention will drop if she starts even emotionally involve someone else.. at that point you just freeze immediately. So the only boundary you can ever enforce is through your attention and her subtle awareness you have options and will walk away with ease at the very beginning of her not providing for your needs. That loss is something she could not deal with.
This kind of boundary only works if you truly are a DJ.. which is what we should all be striving towards.