Boring school life= not having much to say = Losing game- HELP

[Shadow55]

Awkward situations like when you know you should say something in a conversation, but there is absolutely nothing in mind; leaving a long awkward silence. I'd been having this problem for the past few months. I would open a set, but then realize that i have nothing to say. As a result, i jump from one topic to the other, or i battle a long awkward silence until i hit the eject button. I thought that it was the lack of energy or motivation, but i get the feel that its more then that.
I know a sense of humor is hard to develop, but how can i keep a conversation engaging and interesting?

 

[Mr Wright]

Dude my friend does the same thing, whenever there's a few moments of silence he just wants to eject because he cant handle the tension. Trust me, ride it out, if shes interested she will bring something up, be a man and show you can manage the tension, its attractive. If you feel unfazed by it, so will she.

 

[NorwegianDJ]

Try staying around and just ride the tension. It's great to just look her in the eye, smiling, waiting for her to resume.

Another thing that is most likely your solution is to lower your criteria for acceptable topics to talk about. You may talk about your breakfast, your awesome k/d ratio and your fantasies about riding unicorns. It just gives the conversation a lot more spirit and you will always have something to talk about.

 

[SouLeeian]

Did you try looking at some of the conversation tips? When i go out i mainly use talking about her and expanding off of what she gives you, Like this:

M:Hello ladies!What are your names?
L:Hi. We are Regular *****es(7)
M:Hi i'm SouLeeian, tell me, what grade are you in?
L:I am a junior

(From here use what she tells you and branch off)
M:Juniors eh? How do you like that?
L:Well its cool, its much better than being a sophmore.
(another branch)
M:What do you have against sophmores?
L: Nothing, this year is better already though
(Another branch)
M:You know the best part of it?
L:What?
M:I don't know, I'm a sophmore, and apparantly Jr. year will be better for no damn reason.

Now that you got them giggling you'll find the mood much lighter and easier to fluff talk. Add some neg-hits in a bit more humor and BAM! Also when you leave DEMAND hugs dammit!

 

[Scars]

Try using it as motivation to go do something. One of the biggest conversation openers is "What's up?" or "What did you do this weekend?". Make sure you have something to say at all times. You don't have to go do something crazy every weekend, but go out and do stuff. It will keep your mind focused, and it's healthy for you. You can also learn how to make boring stories interesting. Say all you did was get a hair cut last weekend. Make it sound exciting by adding a bunch of detail to the story. Joke about how the barber almost cut your ear off, or some cool poster you saw on the wall or something. Anything. The more "keywords" or detail you add opens more doors for the conversation. So for my example, say the poster was of a band, or a movie, or a place. You now have 3 more things to talk about. She could also come back with her last barber story. Then you can compliment her hair, or get into hair products, then talk about the cologne you used, from their talk about smells, or funny/disgusting stories etc... You just got to know how to run with sh!t man. Just keep it natural. And don't forget to use kino. Also, learn the art of "seeding". It's an amazing tool I use all the time, and it allows you to control the direction of the conversation. You purposely bring up certain topics to move them forward onto something else, namely something sexual or flirty. Don't be afraid of your masculinity. Embrace it.

-Scars

 

[Domo_Arigatoo]

Honestly, if you're having problems with awkward silence, an easy way to fix it is to be prepared to close before you open. If you enter with no plan at all, this is pretty bad (unless you've developed some considerable freestyling skillz) learn some conversation tactics and when you feel the conversation fizzling down, a line such as, "Well, I actually have a previous engagement I must attend to, see you around"
Will be an easy exit before you get in that self conscious mode.
Who knows? Maybe they might wonder what your plans are and inquire about it.
Of course though, your job as a Don Juan is to keep that info from them

 

[LE6END]

Soul and Scars have the right advice. Not certain with Domo, because I go in with no plan whatsoever, all the time. But as Scars and Soul brought light upon, you have to stem from the responses you receive. Questions are your absolute best friend. It can heal ANY awkward silence. There's a very light catch 22 however, because you don't want to keep on asking questions. It'll work against you, if abused. Girls---no, no one--- wants to feel like they're in an interview while walking down a hall way. You have to know when to add your own anecdotes in the conversation.

With Soul's example, I wouldn't ask question after question. Between those, I would make a statement. Perhaps a question, comment, observation, question, close, exit.



M:Juniors eh? How do you like that?
L:Well its cool, its much better than being a sophomore.
(another branch)
M:Yeah, I can imagine. Having gym with the freshmen suck.
L: heheh.. Yeah.
M:Most of them are shorter than my coffee table.
L:heheheh.. Yeah, alot of them are small.
M: Yeah, I've got to be careful where I step. But, uh, what class are you both headed to?

 

[scudge]

The best thing you can do is have a few topics memorized before you leave in the morning. Keep updated on news, gossip about people in school, and even random topics. Pull them out of your @SS when things get awkward.

 

[Melen]

What NorwegianDJ says about lowering your criteria of conversation is absolutely true. But you must be energetic. I'm a guitarist, and I can talk about the woods of soundboards, but as long as I'm energetic and enthusiastic about them I can command interest. Bring energy to the conversation! Don't be the killjoy, be the bringjoy. And as Soulien said, open up, make open ended statements. Open the conversation. If they said something interesting a few minutes ago, refer back to it! If you completely run out of things to say say some hypothetics ( not politics or ethics ), I'm talking about. " What do you think of my shoes? Do you think I should go for a pink shirt or a light blue shirt? ". Keep up on the gossip and as Scudge said, think about what you'll say in a conversation before you enter into the conversation.