boot camp troublshooting needed

[thechosenone2190]

System Diagnostics:
-20 yr old
-single
-virgin
-finished 2nd year of college
-living away from campus and home for summer
-complete newbie

Goals:
-complete boot camp before school
-develop advanced pua skills before end of summer so i'm ready for the real deal when school starts. i'd rather not go through trial and error at my own school until im actually experienced and ready. i dont want to jeopardize my reputation and chances with girls at my school, even though my school is fairly large
-date multiple girls for a couple of months so i have options
-bang a few girls at least as attractive as myself
-find committed girlfriend at least as attractive as myself with very compatible personality

Past Experience:
-several months ago, i tried jwhite17's "are you single?" cold approach on about ten hbs at a neighboring college and got 0 phone numbers

Problem:
Recently, I wanted to give the boot camp a try at a nearby, very large mall. I walked throughout the mall by myself for a few hours, but I couldn't find any girls worth approaching. There were very few choices, and the context was never right. The mall was a horrible place to field practice for a college student like myself because 99% of females were either too old, too young, not attractive enough, with their families, with a group of friends, or with their boyfriends. Perhaps less than 1% were females around my age, attractive enough for me, and by themselves. In addition to the lack of opportunities, I'll admit I was nervous, but nervousness compounded by lack of opportunity is just nearly impossible for me to make any approaches.

questions:

1. I want to use the "hi" opener from the dj bible, but how can you do that when most people are busy walking to places? What kind of opener can you use to stop a person short of her tracks to engage in a random conversation that eventually results in a number close? rarely do i find a single attractive hb standing or sitting still somewhere for me to use that opener properly

2. is there an alternative better way for me to practice and improve? perhaps a different setting instead of a shopping mall?

3. aren't single women around late 20s to early 30s way out of my league because they would easily notice from my appearance im still in college and too young for them? because they seem to make up the majority of the female population in public settings

4. even if i approach 100 girls, what if i keep failing? how do i learn from my mistakes and actually improve my game every time i approach hbs by myself? how will i even know if i'm doing my approach right or wrong? how do i gauge my success and self improvement? if i keep getting rejections, wouldn't this just create a snowball effect and make me even more afc?

thanks in advanced

 

[r0cky]

There were very few choices, and the context was never right. The mall was a horrible place to field practice for a college student like myself because 99% of females were either too old, too young, not attractive enough, with their families, with a group of friends, or with their boyfriends. Perhaps less than 1% were females around my age, attractive enough for me, and by themselves. In addition to the lack of opportunities, I'll admit I was nervous, but nervousness compounded by lack of opportunity is just nearly impossible for me to make any approaches.

Oh boy..
Look you're only making excuses, you're giving yourself reasons on why "it wasnt right" to approach.

It is very unlikely that you will find a girl that is your type, alone, in the perfect circumstances, and looking approachable. The chances of this are so close to impossible that its not even worth calculating them. If you want to PRACTICE approaching then you should approach ANYONE whether your type or not. Heck they could be a 90 yr old man!
The purpose of approaching during bootcamp is to get you out of your shell, not to find love. Please know and remind yourself of the purpose of each step in the bootcamp, otherwise it will appear senseless and useless.

Here's a good analogy that will help you understand:
Think of approaching a girl that is your type as the playing in the olympics. If you want to win at the olympics you must practice. Correct? Well think of approaching people and girls who arent your type as the practice that will help you succeed at the olympics.

 

[EvilAgenda]

even if i approach 100 girls, what if i keep failing? how do i learn from my mistakes and actually improve my game

Keep a journal, and reflect on the actions you took and the things you said.