beatjunkie
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To all,
Airplane story: I was just in Kenya this past week for a meeting. My x who I implemented NC on 40 days ago (she broke with me)... Well luck has it that last night she got a booking on the same flight and seat next to me on the return back to Djibouti. She saw me and asked the guy behind me to sit next to him instead. After take off, I used the reflection of the airplane windows and told her to come and sit with me (her assigned chair). We had an amicable chat and smiles and all then we played truth or dare. I found out the following;
1) She got engaged (3 months after our breakup) to a Somali (ex refugee) guy in Kenya whose family owns a shisha/hookah joint and he works there and lives with his family. She said he gets pulled over all the time and asked for ID. I convinced her its Secret Service Police following him. Then I raised some other insecurities.
2) She told asked the boss here at our office in Djibouti to relocate to Kenya and he sort of agreed informally. She said she will talk to him in depth this week to confirm. She is getting married in July and wants to move there, already found an apartment. I asked what happens if he says no? She said she doesn't know.
3) She said she is scared about getting married and moving to Kenya because of security scares. I played on that a bit more and said yea Kenya is going to become more of a police state.
4) She asked if I found a gf. I said no because I am focusing on improving myself first. She said "I hope you will and I know so because you are smart and good looking."
5) She is scared of flying and on take off and landing she held my hands and rubbed with her fingers. Same hand she has her engagement ring on.
6) Before landing I asked if we can be friends and chill because Djibouti is a boring country. She said she wants to but because he is a control freak she has to ask him first. I said no problem, I don't want to do anything to mess up your marriage.
7) Upon landing the office driver dropped her off at her place and before she got off she gave me a hug. She said well let me know (about hanging out). I reversed and said no you let me know, you are the one engaged.
8) There was more, but basically its a mix of DJ arrogance techniques, AFC tactics (explaining my role in breakup and blaming a former friend of hers for a few of our fights and Kino).
That was last night
Bomb Scare: I live and work in Djibouti. After the breakup I hit the gym hard and made a set routine. After the gym, I pick up dinner daily from a restaurant close to my place. I was scheduled to return yesterday but on Friday I wanted to change my ticket and return the same day the meeting ended. Then I remembered my DJ principles and decided to take a break and go shopping instead so left the original return date as is. If you follow the news, there was a grenade attack in a restaurant in Djibouti on Saturday night. Had I changed my ticket I would have been there for sure. This was the catalyst in asking her to sit next to me in the story above. The advice I received here to step my game up (clothing wise in this case) saved my life. Thank you SS!,
Gentlemen (and ladies) I expect her to call me today. Please note that I am happy I talked to her and to know she settled for someone less in status and rank than me. I am also happy we talked because my conscience is clear now. When/if she calls (depending on her Fiancé's approval- how 13 century is that by the way?) I plan to play the friendship card and instill more insecurities in her. I want this marriage to fail because of what she did to me. I will use the 48 Laws of Power and Art of War to mentally overide this b!tch into oblivion. If she doesn't call then I am fine because of my clear conscience and increased sense of self-worth.
Comments please.
Airplane story: I was just in Kenya this past week for a meeting. My x who I implemented NC on 40 days ago (she broke with me)... Well luck has it that last night she got a booking on the same flight and seat next to me on the return back to Djibouti. She saw me and asked the guy behind me to sit next to him instead. After take off, I used the reflection of the airplane windows and told her to come and sit with me (her assigned chair). We had an amicable chat and smiles and all then we played truth or dare. I found out the following;
1) She got engaged (3 months after our breakup) to a Somali (ex refugee) guy in Kenya whose family owns a shisha/hookah joint and he works there and lives with his family. She said he gets pulled over all the time and asked for ID. I convinced her its Secret Service Police following him. Then I raised some other insecurities.
2) She told asked the boss here at our office in Djibouti to relocate to Kenya and he sort of agreed informally. She said she will talk to him in depth this week to confirm. She is getting married in July and wants to move there, already found an apartment. I asked what happens if he says no? She said she doesn't know.
3) She said she is scared about getting married and moving to Kenya because of security scares. I played on that a bit more and said yea Kenya is going to become more of a police state.
4) She asked if I found a gf. I said no because I am focusing on improving myself first. She said "I hope you will and I know so because you are smart and good looking."
5) She is scared of flying and on take off and landing she held my hands and rubbed with her fingers. Same hand she has her engagement ring on.
6) Before landing I asked if we can be friends and chill because Djibouti is a boring country. She said she wants to but because he is a control freak she has to ask him first. I said no problem, I don't want to do anything to mess up your marriage.
7) Upon landing the office driver dropped her off at her place and before she got off she gave me a hug. She said well let me know (about hanging out). I reversed and said no you let me know, you are the one engaged.
8) There was more, but basically its a mix of DJ arrogance techniques, AFC tactics (explaining my role in breakup and blaming a former friend of hers for a few of our fights and Kino).
That was last night
Bomb Scare: I live and work in Djibouti. After the breakup I hit the gym hard and made a set routine. After the gym, I pick up dinner daily from a restaurant close to my place. I was scheduled to return yesterday but on Friday I wanted to change my ticket and return the same day the meeting ended. Then I remembered my DJ principles and decided to take a break and go shopping instead so left the original return date as is. If you follow the news, there was a grenade attack in a restaurant in Djibouti on Saturday night. Had I changed my ticket I would have been there for sure. This was the catalyst in asking her to sit next to me in the story above. The advice I received here to step my game up (clothing wise in this case) saved my life. Thank you SS!,
Gentlemen (and ladies) I expect her to call me today. Please note that I am happy I talked to her and to know she settled for someone less in status and rank than me. I am also happy we talked because my conscience is clear now. When/if she calls (depending on her Fiancé's approval- how 13 century is that by the way?) I plan to play the friendship card and instill more insecurities in her. I want this marriage to fail because of what she did to me. I will use the 48 Laws of Power and Art of War to mentally overide this b!tch into oblivion. If she doesn't call then I am fine because of my clear conscience and increased sense of self-worth.
Comments please.
