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Body Language and Subconscious Signals

sAxyguy83

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One thing that I found helps immensely is to learn to recognize the signals of attraction in others, and to control the subtle signals that you send. The latter part is much tougher, but if you can pull it off without making it look contrived, your chances with women should improve noticeably.

In general, if she does any of the things I'm recommending that you try to do, that's a good sign.

1) Eyes:
The eyes - "windows to the soul" - a person's eyes can tell a lot about them. Keep yours fixed on hers. Don't glance around a lot (makes you look shifty, nervous, and less than trustworthy), and especially DO NOT look at any part of her but her face and/or her hands. DO look where she looks, and at anything to which she is trying to draw your attention. If, unlikely as this is, she makes it clear that she wants you to look at some part of her body, don't look too eagerly, especially if it's a part of her body w/ sexual connotations like legs, chest, or behind. For any of these more sensitive areas, display some modesty.
One last thing - if her pupils widen when she looks at you, that's a good sign. If they contract, either it's a bad sign, or there's a bright light behind you. Avoid having a bright light behind her, as she will subconsciously register your shrinking pupils when you look at her, and might take that to mean you're not interested.

2) Posture:
If you are leaning in any direction, lean towards her, not away. Leaning in says that you want to be closer to her. Just don't overdo it;)
Don't cross your arms. This is a "closed" body position, and tends to imply hostility. Crossing your arms implies that you want to put a barrier between yourself and others, and won't help with making friends or attracting women.
Mimic her body posture. If she's resting her elbow on the table, do the same. This is a subtle sign of attraction.

3) Mannerisms:
Smile. Smile. Smile.
When talking to her, occasionally smooth your hair, straighten your tie (if you're wearing one), or do other nervous grooming mannerisms. This says "See? I'm trying to make myself more attractive for you!". Again, don't overdo, or you'll come across as nervous and fidgety.
Don't fidget, except as described above. Acting too nervous implies a lack of confidence, and confidence is VERY attractive.

4) Touch:
If you accidentally end up in minor physical contact with her (hands touching, for example), don't pull away. Don't body rush her, but don't cringe or shy away from physical contact. It's all right to accidentally brush up against her. The one exception to this is if your hand ends up touching a "sensitive" area, you should pull it away. If she turns to you and grins, that's a VERY good sign. If she turns to you and scowls or slaps you, on the other hand...

This is all I could come up with right now. If anybody disputes any of these, or has something they want to add, please contribute.
 

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Body Lanquage

Your tips are right on target. Good job!
 

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Nice tips, just some some comments...

Posture:
If you are leaning in any direction, lean towards her, not away. Leaning in says that you want to be closer to her.


Also look out for crossed legs, if the crossed leg points towards you it's a sign of interest.

When talking to her, occasionally smooth your hair, straighten your tie (if you're wearing one), or do other nervous grooming mannerisms. This says "See? I'm trying to make myself more attractive for you!".


Is this true? I always thought it would show nervousness more than it would interest?

'Accidentally' touching her and kino is a good way to show interest. Try and make it unobvious at the start (touching her shoulder to emphasise a point) then move on to more obvious and intimate forms later such as touching her leg, hair etc.

LMJ
 

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Re: Re: Body Language and Subconscious Signals

Originally posted by LMJamie
Also look out for crossed legs, if the crossed leg points towards you it's a sign of interest.
Hadn't heard of that one...

As to the subconscious grooming:

A lot of it makes you look nervous. A little bit of it shows interest. It took me a while to find the right amount. It helped that I have a (somewhat unusual) beard I could stroke. This added a thoughtful air to the gesture, as well as the implied attraction.
 

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I've heard of the crossing leg thing but its not too reliable.

With the girl I dated last night, she at first was crossing it away from me but after a few minutes, it was back towards me again with her leaning against me.
 

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Something I heard - you can't exactly check for it, but it's an interesting bit of information - apparently when two ppl meet and are attracted to each other, their heartbeats sometimes actually sync w/ each other!
 

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Originally posted by sAxyguy83

2) Posture:
If you are leaning in any direction, lean towards her, not away. Leaning in says that you want to be closer to her. Just don't overdo it;)
Don't cross your arms. This is a "closed" body position, and tends to imply hostility. Crossing your arms implies that you want to put a barrier between yourself and others, and won't help with making friends or attracting women.
Mimic her body posture. If she's resting her elbow on the table, do the same. This is a subtle sign of attraction.

This is all I could come up with right now. If anybody disputes any of these, or has something they want to add, please
contribute.
In addition to posture, I find that walking posture can also be helpful. It's all about "mirror imaging." On my last date, I was walking around the city with her after dinner. Our walking pattern and posture was relaxed and casual. When I was relaxed with my arms dangling, she was too (her arms weren't crossed). When I spoke, she turned her head to look at me and vice versa. If I think of more, I'll post again.
 

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It's fun to watch once you realize she likes you.

I was out with one the other night, and I noticed she kept stroking her hair. Haha, I thought, I'm gonna have fun with this.

So we were sitting back on a sofa, and I would lean forward.....guess who followed? Every so often I would switch positions and she would mirror me as if I were sending subliminal messages. It's almost like she wouldn't even make a move unless i did so first...pretty cool.
 

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OddTech, good point. I wonder if it means anything that me & my gf frequently end up marching in step when we walk together (despite the fact that I'm a full head taller than her).

And STR8UP, it is pretty cool to watch. When you see something that blatant, it means you have her full attention, and her IL is pretty high.
 

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Originally posted by sAxyguy83
3) Mannerisms:
This says "See? I'm trying to make myself more attractive for you!". Again, don't overdo, or you'll come across as nervous and fidgety. [/B]
I thought here you were saying to actually say "See I'm trying to make myself look good for you" (something to say after EC and you adjusting yourself) Regardless of ehat you are saying, that is a good tip either way
 

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Body Language is good but, it means nothing if you were too afraid to approach. here's a little something I read before, the chick had most of these but i was still too chicken to approach :(
Her lips:
· Big smiles with upper and lower teeth showing with a relaxed face.
· Biting of the lips or showing of the tongue, licking her lips or touching of her front teeth.
· She wets her lips, some women use only a single-lip lick, wetting the upper or lower lip, while others run the tongue around the entire lip area.
· She puts her fingernail between her teeth.
· She protrudes her lips and thrust her breasts forward.

Her eyes:
· She gazes in your eyes with deep interest and her pupils are dilated.
· She raises both eyebrows exaggeratedly for a couple of seconds; this is often combined with a smile and some eye contact.
· She winks at you while talking to you or winks at you from a distance.
· While talking to you, she blinks more than usual, fluttering her eyelashes.
· Eyebrows raised and then lowered, then a smile indicates interest in you.

Her hair:
· She pushes her fingers through her hair. This can be one hand movement or more of a stroking motion.
· She twirls her hair around her fingers while she is looking at you.
· She is throwing her hair back off her shoulders.

Her clothing:
· If she is wearing clothes that show her nipples underneath and you notice they are getting perky and erect.
· The hem goes up to expose a little more leg.
· She is fixing, patting or smoothing her outfit to make herself look better.
While she is seated:
· She moves in time to the music, with her eyes on you.
· She starts sitting straight up and her muscles appear to be firm.
· She is sitting with her legs open.
· She sits with her legs crossed in a manner to reveal her thigh.
· Her legs are rubbing against each other.
· Her legs are rubbing against the leg of the table.
· Her crossed leg is pointed towards you or if that same leg is rocking back and forth towards you.

Her hands:
· She exposes the palms of her hand facing you.
· While talking to you, she rests an elbow in the palm of one hand, while holding out her other hand, palm up.
· She rubs her wrists up and down.
· She sits with one hand touching one of her breasts.
· She rubs her chin or touches her cheek. This indicates that she's thinking about you and her relating in some way:)
· She is fondling keys, sliding hands up and down a glass, and playing with toys or other things on the table.
· She plays with her jewellery, especially with stroking and pulling motions.
· She touches your arm, shoulder, thigh, or hand while talking to you (in case you already haven't started kino yourself, dumbass:).
· She is pretending to look at her watch as you pass her.

Her voice
· She raises or lowers the volume of her voice to match yours.
· She speeds up or slows down her speaking to match yours.
· She laughs in unison with you.
· In a crowd she speaks only to you and focuses all of her undivided attention on you.

Miscellaneous:
· She mirrors your body language and body positions.
· Her skin tone becomes red while being around you.
· She blows smoke straight out from between her lips and toward you.
· She leans over and speaks into her friend's ear, just like in junior high school.
· She is standing with her head ****ed slightly at an angle, one foot behind the other, hips slightly thrust forward.
· At a party - every once in a while she seems to appear out of nowhere in your vicinity and if you move to another spot, soon she appears out of nowhere again, you catch her glancing in your general direction (actually, glancing at YOU dummy!:), she bumps into you… accidentally, touches you… accidentally etc:)
When talking to a girl, these are some of the more important signs to watch for:
· Can you keep conversation going with her?
· Does she react well to kino?
· Does she touch you?
· Does she laugh?
 

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Many of these relate back to the grooming thing, such as the "hair" group.

Also, some of yours remind me of something I read on one of the DJ forums - apparently if her posture exposes her wrists towards you, it's a good sign. It indicates vulnerability (and the wrists are a sensitive spot, good for kisses).
 

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This subject has always interested me. Have any of you come across any good books that discuss this?
 

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I haven't seen any good books on it. Most of this stuff I got from watching the Discovery Channel and stuff like that. The programs are not shown very often, but they've got some good info.
 

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One more posture bit - your posture should keep a balance between relaxed and interested. If you look too relaxed, it gets interpreted as a lack of interest. If you look too interested, it implies either a lack of confidence or a totally contrived attitude. The one thing that's key in all the body language tricks is to keep that fine balance between invisible and consciously percieved. She should be able to notice what you're doing, but not register it on the conscious level.
 

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Been seeing a lot of "How do I read this girl's signals" posts lately, so perhaps one last shameless bump...
 

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Psycho`Sexual posted this on a similar thread:

You can judge how much a person is really interested from the way they face their pelvis. She could be flirting and talking to you, laughing at your jokes, etc., and if her pelvis is turned towards another man, then all of that means nothing.

A girl I knew a while back, and came up to talk with her and her boyfriend, she was "loyal" to him in her words, but her pelvis was almost constantly directed at me.

Also, other common "interested" signs are the dilation of pupils, the "eye-lash flare," and for a situation where you just make eye contact and smile, if she looks down, then away, this also means she is interested.


And, when a person is sexually comfortable around you, they will make circular motions with their feet/arms/ etc.

An example of this is a girl with her legs crossed, and waving one foot in a circular motion, while smiling and talking to you, with her pelvis angled in your direction.<-high interest level.
A couple of things in there that I hadn't thought of and/or hadn't heard of. I'm sure there's more out there that I don't know, so let's have it!
 

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Lick your lips!

Yes, this subject is important, and I'm working slowly on it. One thing I read was you can lick your lips (subtly), do triangle gazing (eyes, lips, eyes, lips, eyes, lips [?]) and sidelong stare (whole body). Do this while walking at girls coming back you. I'm testing this stuff out (from fastseduction files)
 

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Re: Lick your lips!

Originally posted by suavedave
Yes, this subject is important, and I'm working slowly on it. One thing I read was you can lick your lips (subtly), do triangle gazing (eyes, lips, eyes, lips, eyes, lips [?]) and sidelong stare (whole body). Do this while walking at girls coming back you. I'm testing this stuff out (from fastseduction files)
Be careful with that though, if you do it too early, they'll think of you as a dog. It works like a charm when you've been seeing each other a while.
 
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