Blackdragon's Summer Time Apporach Journal

[Blackdragon5095]

Ok I'm gonna start my Summer Time 100 Approach Journal. I was gonna start in May but I though, f*** that and decide to start now. I will do most of my apporaching at my job Krogers, because mad people come and go. This will work up my people skills. Remember I can't allways get a approach in at the job because I have to what my mangers tell me to do and I use gotta bag stuff. I will do my best to chat up a hb or 2.

I also go to a career school. I don't really like apporaching at school because everyone so wrapped around the cool image crap. I get better results in the field.

About me:
Age: 20
Race: Black
Current Weight: 140lb ( due to working out )

I have my own car . I also live with my mother. I do chill with my friends.
Humor comes to me like nothing due to living with a family with alot of jokes.
Working out 2 times a week. And eating right
I'm getting a career in the computer field.

Deep Thinking:
What I think about the day I had or even week.
It will come here and their

My goals :
Kill the fear of apporaching.( This beats me up when come home after apporaching , this fear has to go )
Kill the nice guy inside me ( Bye bye nice guy )
Work up convo skills ( I have the knowledge now I need to apply it )
Speak LOUDER ( this a bad habit of mine, at times my voice will go down and make me sound as if I don't wanna talk, I need to fix this )
Better body language ( I need to walk more often with a smile and my head up and other things )

My player movation:
Rap music that raps about pimping girls.
Powerful quotes about succeing in life
The Art of Apporaching Women ( Good Book )
Think and Grow rich ( not to get rich but to understand life and success)
David Deangelo

SoSuave.com( The best website I been to that changed my life )
Dj bible

Rules:
Basic and simple
I apporach 1 girl I get 1 point
I apporach 2 girls at the same time I get 2 points
I apporach 3 girls at the same time I get 3 points
If I apporach 4 girls at the same time I get 4 points ( if )

If I apporach a girl and she talks to me It counts
If I apporach a girl and she ignores me or dosen't wanna talk long it counts

The maxium lenght convo I'm looking for is 1 and 30 secs.

If a girl apporachs me. It dosen't count. But I will let you guys know if I get apporached by a girl.

Please place any advice or comments. I might change some rules.
Feedback is welcome

Special Thanks gose to...

Shyryder and Bourne - Thank to both of your field reports it got me off my ass and into the field.

Wish me luck.

 

[Distant Light]

Good luck

Me and group of friends might end up having a contest on who can get the most numbers from street pickups I might make a thread on that. I realize when I'm having too much fun I don't even want to bother approaching but when I actually do approach I realize what I've been missing.

 

[PrEcIsIoN22]

Good Luck. I'll be following along while attempting to start my own journal of me on my little adventure.

 

[Blackdragon5095]

April 28, 2006

1st Apporach

I wanted to get some bananas for school and work ( I eat the right food now days) and I saw a hb5. I was sorta surpised because it was 7:00am I didn't expect to see any good lookin chicks, well anyway. I saw standing their looking at something ( I forgot what it was ) I went up and said Good moring. She end up ignoring me or maybe didn't heard me. ( damn voice went out on me I gotta fix that ). Well thats 1 point.

Distant Light and Precision If you 2 start a journal I will be sure to read it. I want to get in the field more and break down the fears I have.


1/100 appoarches.

 

[resilient]

Did you try making eye contact w/smile first? That might have got her to open up. Also, it's situational. Try to use your environment to give you an insight about your surroundings.

"Wow(body language/tonality/grin - apprearing confident) Since when did bananas go up 50 cents go up all of a sudden?? We should start throwing the banana cargos off the boat!!!"

Basic banter lines. In approaching I'm getting into role-playing and it's been a lot of fun with the HBs to open up to rapport.

Example:
Walked up to 3mixed set at a nice club downtown last Friday night turned to HB7.5 "(kino/shakes head, looking down), I'm sorry I stood you up the other night."

Random funny stuff. It beats the ordinary interview approach questions HBs are immune to like the plague.

 

[Microphone Fiend]

good luck mayne we rootin for ya

 

[Boschy]

I posted something in ShyRyder's thread today about voice exercises. Perhaps this will help you to, it helped me. It's best to address any vocal projection issues sooner rather than later. This is a purely technical hitch that is easy to improve. You don't want to get on top of it the same way I learned how to play pool, i.e. by playing games with friends in pubs and sucking at it so much it was embarrasing. In other words, don't learn on the job...try to work on it in between approaches, too.

BTW, good luck with your mission! You are getting out there, man. Meet the challenge head-on, or as Nike says, "Just Do It".

I went bar hopping last night and must have approached about 20 attractive women, and two on behalf of dudes I met at venues, leaning on the bar and drooling over the female talent on the dance floor. Only got one number, probably because I got more tipsy as the night went on, and my game was getting sloppy, but it wasn't meant to be a sarging night anyway, just wanted to blow off steam.

My point is that when you develop even the basic skills, every time you walk out the front door, no matter where you go, every woman becomes a potential target for your affections. I love that feeling....it's very liberating and puts a spring in your step.

 

[Blackdragon5095]

April 28, 2006

Double Apporach

Today I was outside pushing carts. I saw this 1 fat chick dancing to some music near a car. I though the chick in the car was hot ( I don't why I was thinking this ) But anyway I saw her dancing so I used the situation opener.
I yelled " I see you dancing girl " The girl laughed and smiled at me. ( I got eye contact and a smile ). She said ( why don't you come over here and dance with me ) I got mad myself because I need to learn how to dance as if I was dancing in the club and plus I couldn't do it if I'm on the job ( My manager would flip out. It would be funny too lol ) I go up to apporach.

Me: So this is where the party is ?
fatgirl: yeah
Me: where the food ?
fatgirl: why don't you go get us some.

I look in the car expecting to see a hot chick but see some ugly nasty girl giving me a nasty look. I walked away ( no thank you )
But I have to say that fatgirl can dance.

Another Double appoarch

This 1 happen by accient. I wasn't thinking I just appoached ( my subcisicous mind is getting used to appoarching and I end up appoarching a girl doing the wrong apporach ) I used a joke opener on the 2 girls. 1 was a hb7 the other was hb6. They was pushing some kid carts and laughing ( wtf ? )
Me: Having fun pushing those kid carts
Hb7 and hb6: lol
Once I realized what I done, I wanted to smack myself. Well we learn as we live.

Deep Thinking
I'm glad I'm doing this goal but joke openers don't work well without eye contact and a smile at first. I realize that I'm gonna use joke openers less often and use a situation opener ( which works alot better ). I'm gonna have to review my appoarching women book to remember the other openers. Today I was tired because I got around 6:00am. Tommorrow I'm gonna be ready. I'll listen to my movation music and review my book.

I will appoarch not only at the job but when I'm off too. And remember guys I ain't trying to blow all my money on gas.

For appoarching 2 girls at the same time is 2 points
for another set of 2 girls is another 2 points so that means

5/100 appoarches.

 

[Distant Light]

Me: Having fun pushing those kid carts
Hb7 and hb6: lol
Once I realized what I done, I wanted to smack myself. Well we learn as we live.
5/100 appoarches.

It wasn't that bad just needed a followup, You could have said a story about how the time You and your ex gf raced each other and you bumpped into her trying to ram her and you end up crashing, and how because of that she had to give you a massage or something along those lines.

or

You could have said "Yall should race whoever wins, I'll give them a hot prize." (A hi five)

Alot of openers that people use can be done just needs a good follow up.

 

[Blackdragon5095]

April 29, 2006

Distant Light, I like the way you think.

Their was a story I could have open them with about this old lady pushing a kid cart. Or had them race.

Ok down to the appoarching. I went to the store today thinking about openers-->topics----> conversations.

At first I was busy working and saw attactive girls but had to do the job. I was thinking ( oh god, I won't learn anything if I don't appoach 1 chick and I know what the guys would say to me at the fourm. )

I saw 2 girls come in 1 was a hb 7 or was hb6. The hb6 standing next to the men's room waiting for a friend to come back ( not a guy but a girl) I saw her and I said to myself ( Push yourself you can do this )

Me: Mmmm that pizza looks good
hb6: lol
( I wasn't trying to make a joke but oh well)
Me: Is it rainning outside ?
hb6: yeah, a little bit it isn't all that bad
me: oh because I forgot to bring my jacket for the rain
me: I hope I don't get soaked

Went her friend came back they both left.
The tactic I used was a double opener. First I open with a comment opener ( not a joke opener, I'm done using those ) and stacked with a quesiton opener.
I she didn't put up any b sheilds and was smiling when I made the comment. I should have open her friend up too and could have had a double apporach.

On to the 2nd appoarch

It was later today and I saw this 1 girl she smiled at me when I was outside pushing carts. She was a hb6 wearing shorts and a tank top I think, something like that.
She was looking at some earrings so I though again ( You can do this man, don't give up )

Me: You looking at that bling bling ?
hb6: yeah well actually I want a new ring
hb6: blah blah blah

She went on and on about some stuff she broke and about this 1 ring that the gold came off. In the end this was a pretty good appoarch.

1. I didn't act needy had her approving herself to me ( I asked her lil bro if she was beating up on him and wanted him to prove to me )
2. I did good on convo skills
3. Good body language
4. Made her laugh

What I didn't do is
1. Do the kino trick. I should have asked if she has soft hands and she would have let me touch her hands and feel them all I want. ( I'll make sure I do this next time )

2. Should have busted her on the sunglasses ( why the hell is she trying on sunglasses when it's night time ) wtf?

3. Try to get a hug and should have closed better.

Some girl appoarched me. I was pushing carts and had to take off my glasses so they won't get wet from the rain. She came out of nowhere.
Girl: you should be smiling
Girl: you work at krogers
Me: Huh ?

I think she had a friend with her because I heard some laughing.
I wish she didn't appoarch me and I appoarched her SO I COULD ADD IT TO MY APPOARCHING COUNT. :cuss:

Well 2 appoarches for today

7/100 Apporaches

 

[Blackdragon5095]

April 30, 2006

I listened to Lose yourself And Till I Collapse by Eminem

I only got 1 appaorch in today. The girl wasn't all that good lookin, But I same her in my line so I chat her up.

Me: did you play basketball ( she had on a basketball shirt)
Girl: Yes, I used to play 2 years ago
I went back to bagging and decide not to give up too easy
Me: you play volleyball now ?
girl: yeah
Me: I looks easy to me
Girl laughs some ) it's not

It died after that. I realize this girl looked tired and wasn't smiling 1 bit. But hey it's a appoarch so that makes 8/100.

 

[NorPacWolf]

Street Pickups Are Useless

Some words of warning. A number close is a means to an end, not the end in and of itself. If you number close without developing rapport, it's likely going to be a useless number when you call. Even if you develop rapport and get the number it's still likely to be useless unless you develop a physical connection (such as kissing).

Furthermore, a street pickups minimizes your chances of getting anywhere with any chick. First of all, you're out in public, rather than isolated or semi-isolated, so you're chances of getting physical are quite remote (anti-slut defense). Second, your target is going to be busy and probably in a hurry. Strike two. Also, what are your chances of developing any meaningful rapport while on the street? Very slim. Use street sarges to get you into an upbeat, social frame of mind. As far as street number closes leading to actual closes, you may very well wind up exerting a great deal of effort and spending a lot of time on an activity with a very low probability of success.

Sarge in closed environments such as bars, cafes, clubs where people go to mingle and will likely stay for a period of time. You can not only approach but isolate and go into the comfort stage. You can get physical with the girl, and then you have time to bounce her somewhere else.

Think about it.

PS: For the owner of this thread: cool handle!

Wolf

QUOTE=Distant Light]Good luck

Me and group of friends might end up having a contest on who can get the most numbers from street pickups I might make a thread on that. I realize when I'm having too much fun I don't even want to bother approaching but when I actually do approach I realize what I've been missing.[/QUOTE]

 

[Blackdragon5095]

I have to argue wolf. If I don't do street appoarches then how will I get rid of fear of appoarching without them ? Many PUA even dj or dj masters can pick up girls from street appoarches. Yes I do admit I have problem detecting rapport and b shields. But as I appoarch more I know that this 100 Apporach Journal will be worth the effort.

You have a point. Yes you will have more of a b shield up. But you gonna remember not all the dj's on the fourm to go to clubs and bars. Right now I wanna stop having fear and just appoarch I don't care if I'm rejected. I want the fear of appoarching a women gone. After that I'll begin to work on rapport and better conversations.

Look at distant light. If he and his friend dosen't appoarch girls then how will they approve. You don't wanna just limit yourself to clubs and bars. A man should have no limit and go as high as the sky.

P.S. I had a girl really talk to me in the store. It just depends on the girl man. Or they could be lesbain.


Down to the appoarch

May 01, 2006

Yay it's May, I was gonna start in May but I'm glad I started in April. Slowly I'm caring less if I messed up a appoarch or said something stupid. Today I went to the bank to get some money out. Boom some cute chick comes in. Lets name her hb6. Cute face I'm not sure about the body but she was silm.

Her and this banker lady was talking so I decided this would be good for a question opener

Me: Did wyoming High School have a porm already ? ( I used to go to that school )
Hb6: I go to FennyTown
HB6: LOL
Me: Did you walk from their ?
Me: Let me gusse you took the bus.
HB6: No I got a ride
Me: I see

At least I got the appoarch in maybe shouldn't give up so easy on covno's Oh well thats makes 9/100

Update

I was at the gym today. I was working out on my legs. After doing a 5 min jog I was out and my friend with some of his boys. I decided to chill with them for a while because I left early I would just come home and the idea was to be out more. Well as my boys get ready to leave this cute girl comes in. I have to work on fear of appoarching infront of people. I was afiad of appoarching her infront of my boys. They left and I used the question opener. The girl will be hb 6 ( another girl with a cute face )

Me: You go to wyoming high school ?
Hb6: Yeah, I'm a junior
Me: I guarted from their ( I can't spell )
Me: I used to go their and it's pretty hard with the spoiled and stuck up kids
Me: is it hard for you ?
Hb6: Yeah and it's like.... alot of work

I said 1 min to turn down the T.V because it was blasting ( my boys turned it up )

Walked back up to her because I wasn't gonna give up that easy on this convo ( I'm learning how to push a little more )

She said something that started another convo anyway this time I did better check out the close

Me: well I'm gonna get going
Me: did you drive here ?
HB6: No I got a ride
Me: I see
Hb6: Whats your name
Me: Blackdragon ( not my real name duh !!!!!! )
Me: whats yours ?
Hb6: Hb6
Me: Nice to meet you ( smiled )
Hb6: nice to meet you to

Went in for a hug and got 1. ( yay I did some kino )

After that I left.

What I didn't do
Soft hands kino trick
Soft hair kino trick

Overall she did seem pretty interested in talking not hard to chat up. And smiled alot too ( she pretty cute )
10/100

 

[Distant Light]

Yep day game is a big thing to learn, its even more important if you can't get into clubs yet. Didn't approach today because had a bad cramp went home early. Took off my glasses and walked around the street in shades looks way better, with my glasses look like a lame lol.

 

[NorPacWolf]

You Misunderstand My Post

You misunderstand me. Approaching and being sociable are good. But quickie interactions don't lead to closes, generally speaking. The more of a connection you develop (physical and emotional) the better your chances of full closing. Try a cafe or bookstore, or some other physical location where you have a chance to talk to non moving targets. Take your time: quality is better than quantity, if your goal is to close. If you just want to do a ton of approaches, street approaches or any venue really will do.

Wolf

I have to argue wolf. If I don't do street appoarches then how will I get rid of fear of appoarching without them ? Many PUA even dj or dj masters can pick up girls from street appoarches.

 

[Blackdragon5095]

I see what your saying. But I have read many field reports of great pick ups and not only in the clubs and bars. Actually girls have high shields in these places because many afc are trying to pick them up. ( Remember girls are allways appoarched )

The best appoarches I had were 2 chicks were the b shield is lowered down and easier for me to chat them up and get kino in. Same with that 1 chick in the gym. She seemed interested but I notice it demands on the girl. No I don't come up with cornly pick up lines or anything stupid. And I do add jokes here and their in my convo's ( C+F ).

Building rapport is what I'm confused at and breaking down a b-shield with 1 or even 2 girls when high. Thats why I have this journal up because I want guys to point stuff I'm doing wrong and help me fix it. I pay attention when it comes to convos ( well I do my best ). But right now I'm gonna stay at the appoarches I'm doing.

Now if you see that I didn't develop rapport tell me where and what to do next time. I'm don't wanna be behind the computer anymore looking at stuff to learn I rather get in the field and start improving now.

 

[Microphone Fiend]

keep it goin...I like it man. Maybe push for a little longer convos but good stuff still. I think i might start a journal and call it "Mic. Fiend's summer time apporach journal" lol

 

[Blackdragon5095]

Deep Thinking

Wow 4 days and I got 10 appoarches in !!!!!!! I reread my journal and have to say. Not bad for a start but this is just the beginning and much work to be done. I had guy name Mic. Start a jounral because of my. I started this journal because of 2 guys ( Bounce and shyryder) It's amazing what happen when you follow your dreams.

Problems I'm having.
Rapport
Ketping the convo going
b-shields

NEW RULE !!!!!
CANNOT QUIT

 

[Bourne]

Thats great man, keep it up. We are a handful few who do this and I applaud to those who leave and try this out in the field. Just imagine if we were in the same town doing this together. We would be unstopable.

 

[Blackdragon5095]

True. We are unstoppable because we are making more people to appoarch journal. It's about time someone got those Keyboard jockeys into the field. Let the Revolution begin !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!