Hi guys, been reading the forum with a lot of interest. A lot of good advice given from what I can see. Hope you can help me with with a bit of advice for myself...
Met a girl online, same age, mid 20's. We've been talking for 6 or so weeks and eventually met last week, casual date; coffee, walking, beach sort of stuff. She was everything I thought she would be in person, intelligent, great personality, funny, and a hard 8. I've been on quite a few dates in the past few years and have always managed to make myself come across as relatively confident whilst dating, but I think this has always been because I've never really been that into any of the other girls i've dated. On this occasion I was the total opposite. I had really hyped myself up too much and came across as quite shy and reserved (her actual words after meeting up). Before date 1, she seemed very keen, messaging me all day, every day, very interested in me. After the date, she's been a lot quieter, first off I said I'd like to meet up again and she said the same although, she said she was really busy with work, moving house, etc, so didn't know when. At first I thought this was a blow off, thinking I had come across as far too keen, I was acting as she had been prior to the date.
After asking her several times about meeting up (I know this is NOT cool) she's told me that she's off work Wednesday this week and is going to get the train across to meet up.
If I could read her mind I think she hasn't made her mind up at all yet, (she said that we needed to meet up again, "as you can never really judge someone after one date") I know she is unsure about a few things I can't really change;
How far away I live as she is a city girl with no car, but it's literally 40 minutes for me to drive to her.
The fact I work away for 4 weeks, in retrospect though I am off work for 6 weeks after each 4 week stint.
I need advice on how not to mess up Wednesday, I've got the hots for this girl which is totally clouding my better judgement, just really don't want to mess up!
On another note, i've not messaged her today and haven't heard anything from her either which is unlike her.
Cheers!
...and sorry for the long thread!
Met a girl online, same age, mid 20's. We've been talking for 6 or so weeks and eventually met last week, casual date; coffee, walking, beach sort of stuff. She was everything I thought she would be in person, intelligent, great personality, funny, and a hard 8. I've been on quite a few dates in the past few years and have always managed to make myself come across as relatively confident whilst dating, but I think this has always been because I've never really been that into any of the other girls i've dated. On this occasion I was the total opposite. I had really hyped myself up too much and came across as quite shy and reserved (her actual words after meeting up). Before date 1, she seemed very keen, messaging me all day, every day, very interested in me. After the date, she's been a lot quieter, first off I said I'd like to meet up again and she said the same although, she said she was really busy with work, moving house, etc, so didn't know when. At first I thought this was a blow off, thinking I had come across as far too keen, I was acting as she had been prior to the date.
After asking her several times about meeting up (I know this is NOT cool) she's told me that she's off work Wednesday this week and is going to get the train across to meet up.
If I could read her mind I think she hasn't made her mind up at all yet, (she said that we needed to meet up again, "as you can never really judge someone after one date") I know she is unsure about a few things I can't really change;
How far away I live as she is a city girl with no car, but it's literally 40 minutes for me to drive to her.
The fact I work away for 4 weeks, in retrospect though I am off work for 6 weeks after each 4 week stint.
I need advice on how not to mess up Wednesday, I've got the hots for this girl which is totally clouding my better judgement, just really don't want to mess up!
On another note, i've not messaged her today and haven't heard anything from her either which is unlike her.
Cheers!
...and sorry for the long thread!
