Greetings to everyone, I thought I should post this as a sign of sincere gratitude and appreciation to the posters who joined this forum before me and who gave me tremendous advice that has helped me make the progress I have done so far.
Of course, neither of us is perfect and we learn from each other every day, but when I joined this forum for the very first time either in 2005 or 2006, I was experiencing "Oneitis," and was filled with depression and discouragement. Several posters here contributed significantly to encourage me and help me regain confidence in myself. I hope my modest post here would further encourage others who are in the process of gradually improving themselves as well.
Each of us have different tastes and preferences for women and those of us who have been on this forum for several years have probably by now developed respective measuring standards to help us determine what progress we've made so far. In my case, my measuring standard is women with Big Booty...a category of women I love so much and have always had an unbelievable weakness for. I mean the kind of women whose curves (very big, wide hips, asses that shake when they walk, etc) are sufficient enough to cause a man driving to hit the car in front of him or make a pedestrian cross the street without looking to see if there were cars coming in his direction.
During my freshman, sophomore, junior and senior years in college when I was considered by most women to be so skinny, I could barely get a Big Booty lady to give me the time of day. It often seemed as if I would be rejected before I even said a word...and that's often what happened. I began to feel discouraged and intimidated to the point where I chose not to even try approaching them anymore. The few who did seemed to do so out of the mere fact that they saw me as their "African brother." But then, when I began grad school and started hitting the gym at least four days a week and liftin weights as hard as I could, those same "types" of women actually seemed to notice the development/improvement in my physical build more than I did. They seemed to now perceive me as more manly and masculine. I began to seem to attract much more women who fit that type rather than the skinnier, nerdier ones.
After having been frequently given the "nice guy" label and put in the "friend zone" during my earlier college years, I also decided, in addition to working on my physical build, to change my mindset. I filled up my mind with positive thinking and didn't allow the wounds of past rejections to bother me anymore. I began to tell myself that I deserved the best and that any woman who rejected me was losing out instead. When I used to come across women who knew they were hot and were used to getting attention and AFC behaviour from men, I began to ignore them, acting as if I couldn't care less whether they were around or not. This bothered a lot of them so much that it was actually them who in a number of cases, walked up to me and introduced themselves to me.
Why do I use Big Booty women as one of the ultimate measuring standards? Because a majority of them are fully aware of what they have. They perceive themselves as high value women and see no need to be nice, warm, friendly and approachable to men if they don't feel like. They often tend to be among the category of women who can damage a man's self esteem and ego for a long period of time due to the harshness, bluntness and coldness with which they tend to reject. I am gratful to say now that things have turned around so much now to the point where not only am I very confident enough to successfully approach these women, but interestingly, in gyms and other places, it's actually these sort of women who give me the green light to come on and who in some cases actually approach me.
Confidence and working on physical presentation and build (whether it be in the clothes we wear) contribute a lot with these sorts of women. Confidence in particular plays a great deal, for these women can be quite cold and insensitive in the dating game. Truth be told, a lot of them for some reason seem to love players. I've had on and off again casual dating relationships with a number of them to know this. As one of them said to me not too long ago: "I don't date shy men. I did that once and I said to myself, never again! I was actually the one initiating all the moves in the bedroom. Can you imagine that?"
Of course, neither of us is perfect and we learn from each other every day, but when I joined this forum for the very first time either in 2005 or 2006, I was experiencing "Oneitis," and was filled with depression and discouragement. Several posters here contributed significantly to encourage me and help me regain confidence in myself. I hope my modest post here would further encourage others who are in the process of gradually improving themselves as well.
Each of us have different tastes and preferences for women and those of us who have been on this forum for several years have probably by now developed respective measuring standards to help us determine what progress we've made so far. In my case, my measuring standard is women with Big Booty...a category of women I love so much and have always had an unbelievable weakness for. I mean the kind of women whose curves (very big, wide hips, asses that shake when they walk, etc) are sufficient enough to cause a man driving to hit the car in front of him or make a pedestrian cross the street without looking to see if there were cars coming in his direction.
During my freshman, sophomore, junior and senior years in college when I was considered by most women to be so skinny, I could barely get a Big Booty lady to give me the time of day. It often seemed as if I would be rejected before I even said a word...and that's often what happened. I began to feel discouraged and intimidated to the point where I chose not to even try approaching them anymore. The few who did seemed to do so out of the mere fact that they saw me as their "African brother." But then, when I began grad school and started hitting the gym at least four days a week and liftin weights as hard as I could, those same "types" of women actually seemed to notice the development/improvement in my physical build more than I did. They seemed to now perceive me as more manly and masculine. I began to seem to attract much more women who fit that type rather than the skinnier, nerdier ones.
After having been frequently given the "nice guy" label and put in the "friend zone" during my earlier college years, I also decided, in addition to working on my physical build, to change my mindset. I filled up my mind with positive thinking and didn't allow the wounds of past rejections to bother me anymore. I began to tell myself that I deserved the best and that any woman who rejected me was losing out instead. When I used to come across women who knew they were hot and were used to getting attention and AFC behaviour from men, I began to ignore them, acting as if I couldn't care less whether they were around or not. This bothered a lot of them so much that it was actually them who in a number of cases, walked up to me and introduced themselves to me.
Why do I use Big Booty women as one of the ultimate measuring standards? Because a majority of them are fully aware of what they have. They perceive themselves as high value women and see no need to be nice, warm, friendly and approachable to men if they don't feel like. They often tend to be among the category of women who can damage a man's self esteem and ego for a long period of time due to the harshness, bluntness and coldness with which they tend to reject. I am gratful to say now that things have turned around so much now to the point where not only am I very confident enough to successfully approach these women, but interestingly, in gyms and other places, it's actually these sort of women who give me the green light to come on and who in some cases actually approach me.
Confidence and working on physical presentation and build (whether it be in the clothes we wear) contribute a lot with these sorts of women. Confidence in particular plays a great deal, for these women can be quite cold and insensitive in the dating game. Truth be told, a lot of them for some reason seem to love players. I've had on and off again casual dating relationships with a number of them to know this. As one of them said to me not too long ago: "I don't date shy men. I did that once and I said to myself, never again! I was actually the one initiating all the moves in the bedroom. Can you imagine that?"
