Best way to dump girlfriend

[itishe]

This should be the easiest part of interaction with women but I'm almost afraid my girlfriend will be depressed (I rarely use this word, so my view of depression is probably harsher than yours) if I break up with her. We're going off to different schools and I think she's so niave that we'll just keep going out via LDR.

I dont' like her enough to do this. Matter of fact I'm almost getting bored of sex with her. What's the best way to dump a girlfriend without her killing herself or me. We've been going out for about 1.5 years so it's going to hurt her.

 

[J Roc]

just do it. she will be sad for a few days and then bang the guy who's shoulder she is crying on...

 

[DJDamage]

You are not responsible for anything on how she chooses to deal with the outcome.

I will give you props for having some conscious regarding this issue which is alot more then most HB's do. Most women tend to dump their boyfriends (whom they stopped having any interest in) with almost no emotions involved like it was some sort of bodily function. You can almost hear the flushing of the toilet when that happens...

If you want to lower the blow use a simple line that women cleverly used over the years and that is "I think we need some space". This way in time after she gives you that space it will be easier to just fade away and not see her again.

 

[I.A.F.Y.B.]

You are not responsible for anything on how she chooses to deal with the outcome.

I will give you props for having some conscious regarding this issue which is alot more then most HB's do. Most women tend to dump their boyfriends (whom they stopped having any interest in) with almost no emotions involved like it was some sort of bodily function. You can almost hear the flushing of the toilet when that happens...

If you want to lower the blow use a simple line that women cleverly used over the years and that is "I think we need some space". This way in time after she gives you that space it will be easier to just fade away and not see her again.

Thats works too but, then, she will be wondering when you guys will get back together or if you won't.... I think its best to just say its over. You might even want to be honest and say what you told us. You lost interest in her, your going to diff. schools... Say its a time in your life to focus on you and sh!t like that.

 

[WC2]

Politely and firmly. Asking for space is only an option if you want to KEEP her an option. If you are 100% done with her physically and emotionally, it's best to just break ties. You cannot change how she will react to the blow. It's really up to her as to how she takes it emotionally.

Finally.. start spinning plates (if you already haven't).

 

[DJDamage]

Thats works too but, then, she will be wondering when you guys will get back together or if you won't.

I think girls are smart enough to realise that you moved on after you stopped calling them or keep in touch with them. If they still don't get it then you can bluntly tell them its over then and you found someone else while taking "some space".

 

[itishe]

You're right, I gotta take the reigns and get this **** over with. Damn she's gonna be a wreck.

 

[rdf63]

I said to my last girlfriend. It was good to get to know you and wish you the best of luck. Why don't I feel bad because she made moves that deserve it.

 

[itishe]

Can I do this over the phone or is it essentially required to be face to face since we went out for this long (1.25 years).

 

[r0cky]

In my experience its better to do by txt. Face to face will be harder on her and on you.

 

[theunflushables]

If you're never ever going to see her again and and you are a person of unscrupulous morals try "I think I might be gay." In her mind you're not leaving her because of something she has done, simply because she doesn't have a penis.

For a more direct route you can try "Its not me, its me its you...umm wait reverse that!" Or "Welcome to Dumpsville, Population: You"

I kid, I kid. Yeah breaks up suck, especially if the other person is mentally unstable. Just be honest, tell her the spark is gone and it would be selfish of you to keep both of you from finding someone who could make you (emphasize you so she knows you are talking about her) happy. Some more emotional sharing and you're out the door. Maybe add something about needing to find yourself.

Alternatively if the distance between schools is great (another state or too far for a weekend trip) keep the facade of a relationship, but do your own thing, and by Thanksgiving she will dump you. It's a phenomenon known as the Great Turkey Drop. Before school, its the whole "we'll be together forever" crap and by Thanksgiving she has been out having fun without you meeting new guys, and she realizes she doesn't really want or need you anymore. Come Thanksgiving she dumps you. Since you will already be emotionally detached all you have to do is feign like you're hurt, rejected, etc., etc. She'll walk away never feeling better about herself.

Yes, I do realize I'm going to Hell. I have a table reserved at the Center Ring.:rockon:

 

[Desert Fox]

How about this:

1. do it in a public, place that is private where she cannot murder you.
2. for example, maybe at the beach where you can get away easily as you blend into the masses of people on the sand or the water.
3. let her down easily and make sure you let her know it isn't her, but you just don't think it'll work out and want to try something new.
4. make sure she realizes it is all about you, and has jack sh1t to do with her. it's all about you you you wanting to meet new people

The end.

If she goes ape sh1t then you just gotta lay down the law bro.

 

[Desert Fox]

by the way if (a) she tries to kill you, then you should defend yourself and pimp slap her into next month. you should be able to handle a girl

(b) if she tries to kill herself, well she's a dumbass. natural selection

of course i am assuming u do not care aboubt her. if u care, stop caring.

 

[DonJuan11]

What's the best way to dump a girlfriend without her killing herself or me.

Maybe she wants to break up with you, but is worried you might kill yourself for her so she is waiting for you to do it first.

 

[Schadenfreudianslip]

Make your main point first and be straightforward. Do not start off with ambiguous lead-ons or dodge the topic by saying things like, "We can still be friends." Do not offer to be friends or be there for her. Offering to be friends is a covert insult, as you would be getting what you want while she's having the breakup rubbed in her face, as well as an opening for parasitic women to try to make it work again.

Also, don't drag it out. People, especially women, can sense that something is wrong. Without realizing it, you may have been giving off vibes of frustration or blowing her off, which will make her confused and hurt. In response, she may try even harder in order to try to regain her good favor. Spare her the confusion and anticipation. In fact, I hate it when a guy tells me over the phone, "Let's meet in (insert public place). We need to talk." Don't make me die a thousand deaths, TELL ME NOW, even if it's over the phone!

The sad truth is that you will be seen as a jerk regardless of how well you do this. These is no good way to break up. However, it is best to be ONLY a jerk rather than a lying, cowardly, truth-dodging, indecisive jerk. Also, she'll get over it. Women are more open about their hurt feelings, but it is psychologically proven that women tend to get over breakups faster. They'll cry hysterically, eat tons of ice cream, vent to their friends, etc, which gets it out. If she threatens suicide, call the ER on her or give her the number to a suicide hotline.

 

[Alexander the Great]

Schaden gave some good advice regarding breaking up.

And while it maybe so that you can't avoid being labeled a jerk, remember that it's more likely to be due to her perception caused by her hurt feelings, than due to your handling of the situation. Provided you handle it with class, understanding and desciveness. You are not responsible for other people's feelings, you are only responsible for the way you treat others. Be honorable, and you have nothing to feel bad about.

Of course, some empathy never hurts. Just don't keep swinging yourself in front of this girl like a candy cane. Remove yourself proper after the cut.

Good luck to you.

 

[guywhoneedshelp]

This should be the easiest part of interaction with women but I'm almost afraid my girlfriend will be depressed (I rarely use this word, so my view of depression is probably harsher than yours) if I break up with her. We're going off to different schools and I think she's so niave that we'll just keep going out via LDR.

I dont' like her enough to do this. Matter of fact I'm almost getting bored of sex with her. What's the best way to dump a girlfriend without her killing herself or me. We've been going out for about 1.5 years so it's going to hurt her.

Take her to a restaurant or somewhere public, so she can't flip out. When you are just about done eating, tell her "____, I'm sorry, but this is going to be our last date. I can't tell you what the future will bring for us, I mean, if it's meant to be, it's meant to be. But right now, I really just need to be alone."

Good luck man.

 

[theunflushables]

You might not want to do it at a resteraunt, this might happen: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kTVSygNKAsg

 

[Warrior74]

Not over the phone. Not by text. Not in a resturant. Do it face to face, alone. Be kind but honest and firm.

A man shoots his own dog.

 

[itishe]

I did it over the phone. I used the whole "we're going to different schools" bit to make me seem like less of an ass (as women commonly do, no?). She cried hardcore and asked to see me in person. As we had been going out that long and she's a good girl I decided that I would meet with her to answer any questions and say goodbyes.

Basically she just cried somemore and wanted to hug and she tried to kiss me a few times which I subtly turned down. I told her we can remain friends while going to school (which I don't really plan on following through on) but I just wanted to make this easier on her.