Jamo said:
<Twig> I just had an argument with a girl I know. She was saying how it's unfair that if a guy fvcks a different girl every week, he's a legend, but if a girl fvcks just two guys in a year, she's a slut. So in response I told her that if a key opens lots of locks, then it's a master key. But if a lock is opened by lots of keys, then it's a shltty lock. That shut her up.
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That's awesome.
And it's true. The talk about "double standard" is just feministspeak. It is a
different standard for two completely different categories.
Our instinct when it comes to procreation is strongly linked to evolution - of course. Now, a man can have a virtually unlimited number of children. That is why the men with a strong sex drive, a fast reaction to visual sexual stimuli, are the ones who have had the most children. With women, it is different: they can only have a small number of children in their lifetime. They are therefore strongly leaning toward quality instead of quantity when they look for a mate; they need the best set of genes, and a man who will stick around and provide for the mother and her offspring. (Which is where "romance" comes from: flowers and chocolate and all that is a test to see if the man is willing to invest. Women are "raising the cost of sex." For good reasons.)
Because the man has the stronger desire for sex, this is the woman's best bargaining chip when she is looking for a good provider and protector. Women need this kind of man; throughout history, they could never survive without him. So what happens when another woman comes along who gives away the goods for free? She is ruining the bargaining position for everyone else! Of course they will be angry as hell.
Men are also upset, because instinctively we are aware of the old adage, "the woman carries the tribe in her womb." In the old days, you could only be sure of where a woman's offspring came from, if she hadn't slept with other men before her husband. We instinctively see something wrong with a woman who sleeps around, even if we aren't sure where the feeling comes from.
Whereas, when men see a man who sleeps with a lot of women, we recognize this as a successful man, following his instinct and spreading his genes like so many before him. We all have these kind of successful men, who manage to get a lot of women, among our ancestors. Heck, why not give that guy a thumbs up and say, "You remind me of grandpa!"
(Yes, I know a lot of people know this. But it can't hurt to repeat it once in a while.)
