best friend talking to an old girl of mine

[backbreaker]

I was taking my best friend with me to the hrose track today, and he had to stop and pick up his paycheck to put it in the bank first. So I am in my car, and the phone rings, and it's my EX.. well, not my ex, I didn't like her and I wouldn't date her, but I ****ed her silly for about 3 months a year and a half ago.

But the thing is, he didn't bother asking me do I care do if he talks to her (I don't) or anything.

Also, he talks on the phone more than a girl does. He was takling to her and I could here her voice, I know it's her, and he was trying to distance hiself from me while he was talking to her.

I mean, I don't care, what's my loss is his gain, but does that raise a red flag when your best friend, a guy you would seriously take a bullet for, does something like that?

he has a BADDDDD Ex that is all on my **** everytime i see her out, and I won't do anything with her, because that's his old girl.. In all honesty she had given me her phone number and we talked on the phone a couple of times, until I realized she was dating my best friend.. I honestly didn't know. She said she knew who I was and assumed I just didn't want to bring it up.

I mean, this is the only Ex he has had that i ever said "damn, she is nice" But I won't touch her becuase he used to mess around with her, but he has no problem without even asking me do I mind? And I know he knew I used to talk to her because she used to come over alot.

Anyway, does that raise any type of red flag.. not that he is talking to a girl I used to **** around with, but the fact that he doesnt' even bring it up, or even try to hide it from me?

 

[KontrollerX]

If a friend did that to me we would no longer be friends.

What this site has said about oneitis applies to this situation as well and its this...

*There are millions of beautiful women in this world. Find someone else*

Thats simply what someone who claims to be your friend should do in this situation.

I can see others being ok with it as long as their buddy talks to them first but I'm just giving my personal opinion about it and yeah it shows respect if your friend asks you if its ok first but me personally would still get rid of that friend if he went through with it.

 

[john_1234]

if he's your best friend, be upfront and talk to him about it

 

[MightyMate]

My friend would never do that. Thats the lamest thing ever. **** him.

 

[golfguy]

A year and a half ago. Who cares??? It's not like you're still hanging out and going out with her.

If a friend dated an old girl I could care less as long as he didn't bring her around.

BUT...the fact he tried to hide it is dumb. THAT is kinda worth getting a little peeved about though..

And why are you complaining if you don't care about him seeing her? You wouldn't be on the internet ranting about it if you didn't care.

 

[j8snx1]

Confront and solve it out man-to-man, without the fists.
Just be casual about it though. Don't have the kind of tone that sounds like you still miss her or something.

He should've at least said something about it. Not really the ideal "best friend" if he hides things from you.

 

[backbreaker]

Originally posted by golfguy
A year and a half ago. Who cares??? It's not like you're still hanging out and going out with her.

If a friend dated an old girl I could care less as long as he didn't bring her around.

BUT...the fact he tried to hide it is dumb. THAT is kinda worth getting a little peeved about though..

And why are you complaining if you don't care about him seeing her? You wouldn't be on the internet ranting about it if you didn't care.

because of what you said, you answered your own question. It's not about the girl. God no it's not about the girl, he can have her with 150% of my blessings.

The fact that he not only didn't bother to ask, but is trying to HIDE it from me? I mean, I expect this from her, she's a girl, but him?

And this isn't just like a guy I met in HS and we kick it... this is literarly my BEST FRIEND.. we practically grew up in the same crib, went to preschool, elementary, Jr and Sr high together and see each other almost every day. Might as well say he's my brother.

To be honest I am more suprised than anything. I mean, he isn't ugly, and has his fair share of women "(although I woudn't touch almost any of them, he "talks to like 20 or so girls, seriously, that are below or right at average, I have 2-3, sometimes 4 girls that are georgous)

I knew he had a crush on my real ex, I could tell, but I knew he wouldn't hit on her becuase I actually give a damn about her

It's just the prinicpale more than anythinhg.

I mean, he is taking my leftovers, it's not about the woman.

I guess I can't trust my own best friend as much as I thought I could, which is suprising, becuase I thought out of all the people in the world, I knew my two best friends better than anyone.

 

[backbreaker]

Originally posted by j8snx1
Confront and solve it out man-to-man, without the fists.
Just be casual about it though. Don't have the kind of tone that sounds like you still miss her or something.

He should've at least said something about it. Not really the ideal "best friend" if he hides things from you.

Miss her? To be totally honest, I really didn't even like her, she was just jocking me so damn hard and she isn't ugly, I bagged her a couple of times, plus she is cool.. but overall too young (21) and not my type.