Being very enthusiastic- good or bad?

[Broham]

Ok guys, here's the deal. I've been seeing this girl for like 3 weeks now and last night we confirmed that we're now a couple. She's very attractive and makes me horny as hell....which is a great thing. She's also very open-minded and fun to be with, which are two important qualities I look for. Anyways, I know the DJ approach to life is let the girl be just another small part of your life and go about your normal business. However, I am very sick of my friends for many reasons. They are boring, AFCs for the most part, don't spend money, lack balls...the list goes on. I wouldn't care if I saw them once a month. I'm out of school now so they pretty much make up my main base of friends, and I'm tired of the same crap every week. Now I have this girl who's down for whatever, and I'm very excited to start getting out and doing new things, and showing her what I enjoy (basically doing what I've always wanted to do with my friends).

My question is how much is too much? I don't want to smother her but at the same time being with her makes ME happy....and you gotta look out for #1 first, right??

 

[Slashco]

My advice would be don't scare her off. Do fun stuff with her, but it's also important to show you have a life that doesn't revolve around her. It sounds like hanging with your friends doesn't exactly thrill you, so pick up a few hobbies on your own. Diversify yourself. This way you'll not only show this girl that you are more than just her shadow, you'll improve yourself at the same time. Good luck!

 

[ScrewIt]

if i had i girl id be in the same **** as you.

my friends spend money but only on doing the same things over and over!! they'd criticize me and put me dowwn & judge my girls look if they'd ever find out.

i'd be disgraced if ppl & my girl saw what kind of friends i have.
that's why it's always best to make new friends like i have.

but still i hang out with them 1x weekly and they practically make up my main hhangouts. the other friends i rarely hang out with but thats cause everybody has their life to run.

yes my friends are AFC and what pisses me off about them is that theyre not open minded like i am. when i suggest doing new things they wont do it.

so my suggestion is to be enthusiastic & open-minded. dont let negative ppl like your friends get to you or your girl.

if i had a girl , i woudlnt even let those AFC's know. cause all they'd do is judge me.

 

[Broham]

Exactly

Finally someone with the exact same problem as me! Not only do these bums never want to do new different things, but they are always mad cheap. It's just a lack of class when you have a full-time job and complain about giving a 15% tip. Having a new girl who likes trying new things is going to be great. I plan on taking her swing dancing, to comedy shows, bball games, and when it gets warmer, fishing and hiking. Obviously I don't complain about money and I think that's a great quality and opens up endless possibilities. (no offense to anyone short on dough)

 

[ScrewIt]

Re: Exactly

Originally posted by Broham
Finally someone with the exact same problem as me! Not only do these bums never want to do new different things, but they are always mad cheap. It's just a lack of class when you have a full-time job and complain about giving a 15% tip. Having a new girl who likes trying new things is going to be great. I plan on taking her swing dancing, to comedy shows, bball games, and when it gets warmer, fishing and hiking. Obviously I don't complain about money and I think that's a great quality and opens up endless possibilities. (no offense to anyone short on dough)

that's great dude, but other than spending time with her mostly. the both of you should also spend time apart doing things.

find new guy friends to hang out with, or hang out with those afc punks. if u start hanging out w/her too much she'll start thinking u have no life. so just hang in there and keep busy with your life dude.
if u spend too much time w/her it'll just suffocate her. so have your own life also

 

[gentleman193]

drop the cheap friends

You think that once they get some money this gets better. Actually, it gets *worse*.

The cheapest guy I know is a doctor, drops $300k on a condo, buys original art prints for his walls, and when the check comes, he doesn't have any cash, so "he'll pick it up next time."

Just like last time, right?

I said, "Just put the whole thing on your card, you'll get the miles."

He laughs. So then he says we'll give them two credit cards, 50/50. But who's eating the filet mignon and whose wife drank a bottle of wine by the glass?

So I had to catch this MF on it *twice* in one evening and tell the waitress to bring us separate checks.

And guess what? After that, the guy drops out of sight like I did him wrong.

So it's not just women who'll use you for a free meal. Sometimes you've got to next the guys, too.

 

[flexion_]

Yes, cheap guys friends. That could be a whole new message board... LOL

Its really nothing about money here either - just mutual respect.

 

[squirrels]

She probably has some "guy friends" (platonic) who she gets along with, or her friends have boyfriends. Try them out. If not, then you need to find new friends. But people with active, fun lifestyles aren't going to be found sitting at home waiting for you to call them.