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Being stood up?

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shyguy208

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Hi guys,

I am supposed to be meeting this chick tonight for a drink. But I think that there is a high likely hood that she may stand me up tonight! What should I do?

I texted her yesterday to change the time that we were going to meet. She didn't reply to it. I was going to send her a text today to double check but I thought that it would be a bad idea - might seem a bit needy and insecure.

Should I even bother to turn up? I think it would be rude of me. I was going to just turn up and wait for her at the agreed time and place. If she doesn't turn up then I will call her and ask her why she is not there. Might even tell her that it's rude to just stand someone up. The least you should do is tell the person that you won't be able to make it so that you don't waste the other person's time.

How do you guys think I should handle it if I get stood up? It's not something that has happened to me before but it looks likely that it may happen tonight. I will probably not see this girl again if she doesn't turn up tonight. We met at a party.
 
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MR_PERFECT

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I doubt she will show. I say you go to the bar and have a good time on your own. People are at a bar, drinking, having a good time, meeting other people to talk to will be easy.

When you see her, act like nothing ever happened. I doubt she'll talk to you, but if she does, be friendly, ****y and funny. If she apologizes, tell her not to worry about it, you were going to the bar anyway and you had a good time.

No matter what, do not let it get to you if she does stand you up! It happened to me once, I went out anyway and met a better looking girl that was all over me. Another time, I kiss closed some girl at a club. Like a fool, I asked for her number knowing there was nothing really between us. I had no intentions of calling, but I got bored one night and called to set up a date for the next Friday. She gave me the number to a restaurant. I couldn't stop laughing about that, especially when I thought to myself, "she couldn't have", and called the number again. I went out that Friday and met someone else that I dated for a little while.
 
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Thanks Mr. P.

I was planning to grab a drink or two at a bar on my own if I get stood up. But Sunday nights tend to be a bit more quiet in bars around here since most people have to work on Monday and have probably already been out on Friday or Saturday.

So you don't even think I should call to ask why she didn't turn up.
 
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Shyguy, what do you hope to gain from knowing why you were stood up without her contacting you to let you know? If you call and she answers, all you will get is a lot of silence and a bunch of lies about what came up. When you reschedule she will say, "We'll see". She will not call you. If you're e-mailing her, she will not write a return e-mail, unless it's to tell you she's really busy and will have to talk you another time.

Woman are not confrontational, most of them would avoid this conversation at all costs. One thing men need to always know is when to cut their loses and move on.

I can tell by you wanting to contact her that it's bothering you. You have to build up a resistance to things like this, it could easily happen again. When you come across a woman that doesn't like you, think about one that did and all the good things she had to say.
 
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A woman who stood you up on a date = gonzo. Most men want to know the reason why she did it. The reason = she had low interest in you. Girls who don't find you attractive break dates. You don't see men breaking dates with HBs do you?
 
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Well, just got home. As predicted I did get stood up! Well, I would have thought that it was polite to tell somebody that you are not interested or at least not agree to the date in the first place. It seems cowardly or just plain nasty to just stand someone up and waste their valuable time.

There you have it. My first stand up! I just went out drinking and dancing since I was already in the centre of town. I guess I had an OK night but it's the first time I've been drinking and clubbing on my own. It didn't feel that bad but it is definitely better to have some mates around as social proof (and it's more fun).

I did try to call her just in case she was stuck in traffic or something. All I got was voice mail.

Why do women do this? Agree to a date and then back off without even letting the other person know! It's just rude in my opinion!
 
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Jay26

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yep, pretty darn rude.
 
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Originally posted by shyguy208
Well, just got home. As predicted I did get stood up! Well, I would have thought that it was polite to tell somebody that you are not interested or at least not agree to the date in the first place. It seems cowardly or just plain nasty to just stand someone up and waste their valuable time.

There you have it. My first stand up! I just went out drinking and dancing since I was already in the centre of town. I guess I had an OK night but it's the first time I've been drinking and clubbing on my own. It didn't feel that bad but it is definitely better to have some mates around as social proof (and it's more fun).

I did try to call her just in case she was stuck in traffic or something. All I got was voice mail.

Why do women do this? Agree to a date and then back off without even letting the other person know! It's just rude in my opinion!
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It is rude, and totally immature (throw all that BS nonsense about women being more mature than men out the window).

Don't call her. Don't talk to her. Don't think about her. Cut her out of your life. She'll get a major ego boost if you keep giving her attention after she has treated you like sh!t. Find some other women.
 
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THROW this B!tch out of your life, period! You've already got stood up, shyguy, now, don't let her have power over you by calling her or contacting her. Pretend nothing happened. Again, do not under any circumstances contact her (in my sorry case, I contacted her by phone and email; you know what? You won't be able to get a hold of them!)

Girls are rude! This happened to me before, and I'm sure to a lot of guys as well. It seems that girls are prone to doing this sorts of BS. They know they have a bunch of other guys waiting for them as their safety net.

B!tches!
 
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dont text

if you have to change a date

call the other person, jesus

sometimes ppl dont get their txt messages when the phone is turned off

iknow its tough but pick up the G-D phone
 
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U have great advices here. No need to get more input.
 
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