Being Dominant

[Hoodie]

This is all it comes down to. You can never find, enter or maintain a respectable or functional relationship or get attraction from women without being dominant or have the capacity to be more dominant than her.

I don't think there has ever existed a functional relationship where the man was submissive and the woman was dominant. Cause it goes against the natural order of things.

Imagine you're a woman, wanting to be submissive, and along comes a man more submissive than you, wanting to **** you. You'd be disgusted right?

In this regard domination would mean thinking more logical, being more rational, out thinking her, having the capacity to overpower her physically, being more calm than her, having control over your own life, understanding things, having insight, etc.

Ofc, it's hard to do this perfectly, and always. But the scales should definitely be tipped in our favor. If she's better at all points, it's game over and you need to change this fast.

Our task as men, is simply to always be improving and honing this. Even if you enjoy being single and don't want relationships.

 

[jimwho]

Not sure how on subject this is but a short story. When I met my wife I was the high earner. After about ten years she climbed the ranks fast at her work. She was a stunner I know it helped. THEN she tried wearing the pants and I was constantly telling her you're not my mother you're my wife. She tried to be the man and failed miserably . It was the beginning of the end.

Part of being a man is being realistic and admitting when you fkd up, not me because I'm perfect but you get my point.
Its my opinion that the girls don't have that strong point. They try, it's kinda cute but it's not sexy.

 

[Mike32ct]

I’m a chill introvert. The challenge for me is to try to not come across as passive. I’m far from submissive, but appearing too passive is problematic and a turn off to women.

 

[Hoodie]

Not sure how on subject this is but a short story. When I met my wife I was the high earner. After about ten years she climbed the ranks fast at her work. She was a stunner I know it helped. THEN she tried wearing the pants and I was constantly telling her you're not my mother you're my wife. She tried to be the man and failed miserably . It was the beginning of the end.

Part of being a man is being realistic and admitting when you fkd up, not me because I'm perfect but you get my point.
Its my opinion that the girls don't have that strong point. They try, it's kinda cute but it's not sexy.

Did it end in divorce or did the dynamic change back to how it was supposed to be?

Did you manage to maintain your self respect?

 

[Hoodie]

I’m a chill introvert. The challenge for me is to try to not come across as passive. I’m far from submissive, but appearing too passive is problematic and a turn off to women.

It's always better to be passive, than submissive. Remember that. It's better to not text a girl, than to be submissive to her.

But don't be passive to yourself, you can work on yourself, you can increase your knowledge, insights and wisdom.

 

[jimwho]

Did it end in divorce or did the dynamic change back to how it was supposed to be?

Did you manage to maintain your self respect?

Yes ended in divorce. I never shed a tear. My sexy cute dingbat fun wife morphed into "Nurse Ratchet" Today my
Daughter tells me stories about her mom. Bossy, rude to waiters, loud, inconsiderate. Now she takes care of my kids Med/ins so I'm happy. Also buys her love in many ways,, bring it!

 

[member160292]

Daughter tells me stories about her mom. Bossy, rude to waiters, loud, inconsiderate.

Was she always like this? I'm curious if climbing up the ladder and making more money changed her attitude towards people. That's very unfortunate.

Perhaps under the influence at times?

 

[2Rocky]

I hate the Dominant/Submissive Titles. It's about Leading. Leaders Recognize their partner's talents and shortcomings and help them apply them to their life together so all parties benefit. Perhaps she makes good money but you can invest it better? Maybe she can attract new friends/business but you can retain it. Maybe you can plan fun weekends better.. Each Relationship has to recognize each other's strengths.

In your case I'll bet she felt like she outgrew you. It happens. We all have to evolve and ESPECIALLY not feel threatened by other's success. You will find something better though I'm sure of it.

 

[Pierce Manhammer]

There are different types of dominance, for the purposes of this post I will focus on sexual dominance.

I am naturally so, am told so repeatedly by women and what a turn on it is. When I’m making out with a chick there are times when they try to be dominant- it’s sometimes playful and other times not - in either case I encourage it, because it can be fun. I’m not talking about it as in them being masculine but more so when they kiss you back hard or when they’re riding you they will try to feign pinning your hands or whatever. I usually allow it for a few seconds then just flip the script and go caveman on them, overwhelmingly so. Works every time - some chicks get so turned on by it - the fact that they thought they had you and you just bang them silly that they orgasm like in seconds.

You have to learn how to do this, but it works for me like a charm. Just food for thought.