Being DECISIVE. Getting a FEMININE woman. NOT a FEMINIST! How to.

[XSteel]

Since ridding myself of the 'sensitive male image'...(well, if I'm being honest I just keep it to myself now!), I've discovered a difficult road to walk.

How does a guy be decisive without being 'controlling'??

Let me admit right now a few areas where it has BACKFIRED!

1. I suggested seeing a particular movie and she got mad because i didnt consult her.

2. I stood my ground in an argument and suddenly I was "inflexible"

3. She wanted me to spend more time with her mother and I refused. Broke up over it.

Here's a few tips I've learned. I'm by no means an expert but I just might help you avoid some headaches.

SOO....
1. First of all, it is absolutely critical that you get a girl who LETS you be the man to start. Guys, no matter how gorgeous she is, if she makes demeaning comments, spouts feminist garbage, or demands her own way, and also CANNOT RESOLVE ARGUMENTS PEACEFULLY AND DEMOCRATICALLY,,,avoid her!!!!!!!

2. As an addition, let me say it is important that she demonstrates FOLLOWING behavior. After all, what goods a leader if no one will follow?? This is not doormatism.

3. She is feminine 90 percent of the time. Yeah, sometimes she's tired and wants to go out in sweatpants. No problem there. But if she starts making a HABIT out of it,,,,run. Cause its only gonna get worse.

4. Sometimes she WANTS you to make decisions. And she DOESNT FIGHT YOU.

...If you once in a while say: "Lets do italian tonight. I know just the place"......this is NOT controlling behavior. Youre doing her a favor by MAKING A DECISION,,,and after all,, youre paying right??

5. She values you. After all, making decisions is HARD WORK. It takes a decisionmaker. There is risk. If she wants the type of man that makes decisions, the she ACCEPTS THE OTHER THINGS that come along with it. This is NOT a democracy. If she wants a democracy then she gets everything that goes WITH a democracy. It means she changes tires, moves furniture, buys engagement rings, and pays for half of everything.

6. Finally, I hope this tip helps most of all. You should be aware of things after about TEN DATES. The hanging out period. Letting down your hair.
...the point is,,,,she's EASY TO GET ALONG WITH DAILY. She is not a drama queen. She's not demanding. She makes life easy for you.
Guys,,,,no matter how beautiful that lady is, trust me. If she's demanding it is only going to get much much worse.

Its hard being a guy. Why have some babe who secretly wants a strong guy by the way, begin battling you as you take charge??

The key in this????? Pick out the RIGHT GIRL FIRST.

 

[Walk this Way]

Good stuff. Really, it's a lot about how you deliver it. If you sound happy and excited, "Hey ______, we should see School of Rock - it sounds hillarious and I think we'd both love it", she'll be a lot more open than if you say, "Sup baby, two tickets to School of Rock. You're seeing it with me"

The latter has its merits, sure, it's more forceful, but why not do it the way that works 100% and still gets the decisive point across...

 

[ScrewIt]

yea some girls can be real control freaks, they want everything to go their way. Bit*ches like these exist just to suck the masculinity out from us.

i have a friend who does a LTR with this girl in another state, and she's a control freak. she gets pissed when he goes out to hang out with his male buddies and stuff.

he's been planning to break up w/her, but hasnt had the chance yet.

 

[DJ_Dork]

Anytime a girl disrespects you and your decisions - Call her out on it. Hold out one more time of disrespect - call her out and then just start having an open mind about other girls.

Been there too fellas.

Had a girl that was whining about watching KILL BILL with me telling me it's violent. Then found out a couple days later she went out to watch KILL BILL with her friends. that's messed up, passing me up for her friends! but not only that she went against her word "it's so violent." I complained about this, and then instead of playing I'm sorry Girl she started defending herself and tried to get in a win/lose convo in which she would try to win. I hate girls like this - I banged her once more then ignored her - she got angrier and angrier - got a bit psycho too.

You know what, and this is a tip for the stupid girls out there. If you as a girl tells a guy you are busy or you don't like that. OFFER a suggestion? HELP OUT a little? Relationships is a two way street and should never be one way.

 

[MetalFortress]

Best tip I've seen here in awhile!

 

[NewMan]

Perhaps it's because some of you are a little younger....

There are some good points here - but I think it's horses for courses.

You certainly don't want a woman with zero drive and zero personality that just agrees with you and anythign you say.....

As in all relationships there must be give and take - and for me anyways - the woman I'm with must have an opinion about the things that are ahppening in the world.

I like being with women who know what they want and are not afraid to voice it.

That doesn't me they are high maintenance - because if they act b#tchy or whine about my decision's then - NEXT.

I just think women who just agree usual have zero personality and are zero fun.

 

[Luscious]

This is good - if this is the kind of woman you want.

This is all purely based on what kind of woman you want to wind up with - there's nothing wrong with this tip, in fact it's very appropriate for the type of woman he's trying to land, and should be effective.

BUT - make your own rules, guys - and break them anyways . You'll be having the most fun when you don't know what's coming next.

 

[WaterTiger]

Originally posted by ScrewIt
I have a friend who does a LTR with this girl in another state, and she's a control freak. She gets pissed when he goes out to hang out with his male buddies and stuff.
He's been planning to break up w/her, but hasn't had the chance yet.

WHAT????? He hasn't had a chance? Doesn't this guy have a phone? Invite him over to your house and let him use yours!

Be decisive! Be a leader! Be a MAN!
(Please note, I did not say abusive controling a$$hole)

Women LIKE to be led! Go take them by the hand and LEAD!

 

[LA Guy]

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good post. yea you don't want a feminist. they're usually all insecure man hating dykes.

a nice feimine girl who doesn't mind being feminne and herself is the best way to go

LA Guy

 

[MetalFortress]

Originally posted by NewMan
Perhaps it's because some of you are a little younger....

There are some good points here - but I think it's horses for courses.

You certainly don't want a woman with zero drive and zero personality that just agrees with you and anythign you say.....

As in all relationships there must be give and take - and for me anyways - the woman I'm with must have an opinion about the things that are ahppening in the world.

I like being with women who know what they want and are not afraid to voice it.

That doesn't me they are high maintenance - because if they act b#tchy or whine about my decision's then - NEXT.

I just think women who just agree usual have zero personality and are zero fun.

Not sure where in his post you caught that the girl should have no opinion -

Of course her having an opinion is mandatory, but the tip is more about where she stands on/how she acts about this or that. Women like that - real women - can disagree with you til the cows come home, and put up less BS than crazy feminists would put up in ONE disagreement.